sayWORD? Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 thanks man. im going to intake a week from today, thats the earliest i could get in. the lady asked me if i was gonna be okay till then. i almost laughed, but then the severity of the situation dawned on me again. anyways, im terrified but i know there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. appreciate the support morton. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HELLA LOVE IT Posted February 28, 2011 Share Posted February 28, 2011 sayword, i got you too. handle shit. get better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sayWORD? Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 thanks man. i feel both relief and fear, i know it wont be easy, but im not some kind of pussy that shys away from hard work. it makes me feel better that there are others out there. addictions have a way of alienating people, as im seeing. im gonna go into this with a real open mind, something i never thought id do. i always thought i was too good for any kind of counselling, or that i was somehow above other addicts. im not, i see that now. anyways, im gonna miss the crown royal and the grey goose, but i think self respect and a positive outlook are some things i need much more of. thanks niggas, i will keep you posted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightmareOnElmStreet Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 my two cents on the matter....................................................ugghhhh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sayWORD? Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 hahaha. i feel the same way homeslice. believe me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cool_Hand Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 Good for you SayWord, keep us posted with your progress and if you slip up there will be a couple people here I am sure, who would like to take the opportunity to harrass you to keep up with sobriety. It all reminds me of an old buddy who in highschool already worked as a longshoreman and was a full blown alchie even back then. I sure hope by now he has taken the steps you have gone ahead with now. It's a fucking joke how booze is so readily available and how weed is not. How many threads have been started about an addiction problem with pot? And if they have been, how many are not laughed off... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
why write Posted March 1, 2011 Share Posted March 1, 2011 once you get addicted to an actual drug or alcohol you succesfully know that weed is not addictive at all...just fun. good luck sayword - its hard to break habits, but each day it gets easier. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shai Posted March 2, 2011 Share Posted March 2, 2011 I just started drinking again after a six month break. So far I'm doing really good, I don't drink every night and I'm staying away from beer....but if it gets out of hand I plan to stop. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swordfish meatloaf Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 all you have to do is marry a girl who is out on bail for first degree reckless homicide, placed on absolute sobriety and completely snaps the fuck out when you are drinking in the house. this includes breaking bottles, windows, screaming, physical violence if you continue drinking, and disposal of you and/or your friends alcohol supply. this type of behavior pretty much cured my more than half-lifetime long alcoholism. sounds stupid, but JUST DONT DO IT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 Sense you are not making it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newer Bigger Better Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 This is like the anti bsm thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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~KRYLON2~ Posted March 3, 2011 Share Posted March 3, 2011 i love alcohol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightmareOnElmStreet Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 i've never really understood alcoholism to be completely honest. i mean. the whole addictive personality thing is just nuts. it's too bad really. people like my pops haven't drank for 27-28 years because. whatever gets you through the day right...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brickos Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Got this two days ago... TO MY SON ON HIS BIRTHDAY BECAUSE I LOVE HIM please read on This is a difficult letter for me to write but I feel that these things need to be said. Each time we meet I always I send you a sms afterwards saying it was lovely to see you as usual, but tonight for the first time I can’t say that. Meeting you at the station tonight at 6 and you turning up drunk I felt so embarrassed (in front of xxxx). At nearly xx years of age you are too old to be drinking the way that you do and the amount that you do. Dropping you off at xxxx Valley tonight I had genuine concerns for your safety, the same way I would worry about you when you were 17. But you’re not 17 anymore. I know that you are not happy at the present time, but trying to compensate by drinking will not fix or solve any of your problems. Alcohol was the cause of you losing your job with xxxx and it was also involved when you fell off your bike and broke your xxxxx. How many more problems do you want it to cause for you? I know that you were able to stop drinking for 3 months when you were on crutches so I don’t believe that you have a physical addiction to alcohol. But I am concerned that you have a psychological dependence on alcohol and an unhealthy need for it. I think that over the years alcohol has become a habit, and that has now turned into a SERIOUS problem for you. You self medicate with alcohol and rely on it for confidence on social situations. You say that when you get a girlfriend / wife and have a family etc, you won’t drink any more. Have you ever to stop to think maybe alcohol is the reason why you are not attracting anyone at the present time? You met xxxxx when you were working, so she had a chance to see you and get to know you as you really are, do you think she still would have gone out with you if she had only met the intoxicated xxxxx? You are slowly destroying your health with alcohol. You aren’t eating properly. Have you ever considered the reason why you are never hungry is because you are substituting “beer calories” for food calories? You are underweight and often when I see you it is after a night spent drinking and you are look tired and haggard. I also don’t believe that turning up to work after nights of heavy drinking does not affect your performance at work. You have now been drinking for 18 plus years, how long do you think your liver can be expected to process large amounts of alcohol every night. Have another liver function test and see how your liver is progressing. How many times have you not been able to remember things that had happened the previous night?? I have also noticed you are becoming more forgetful which is not like you at all. Problems due to continuous heavy, overconsumption of alcohol will creep up on you slowly, but don’t kid yourself if you think this is not happening to you. What happens when you do have children, you need to be fit and healthy to be a good dad to them, to be able to provide financially for them, as well as being around to enjoy them. You are ruining your health by drinking too much. I’m sorry but I also don’t buy the excuse that you drink alcohol because are bored. If you are bored do something about it, make sure it is something positive, and not destructive. Alcohol is a depressant, so if you are feeling down ask yourself how much is alcohol solving this problem or how much is it contributing to it? Obviously alcohol on its own isn’t fixing anything for you or otherwise you wouldn’t feel the need to be smoking marijuana again. Like it or not marijuana is still illegal and being caught again with it will have consequences. Don’t take my word for all this though. Go and see your GP or better still, make an appointment with a Drug and Alcohol Counsellor and talk it over with them. You talk about being less tolerant / angrier, ask the counsellor about the relationship between depression and anger. From where I am standing I think alcohol has become a serious problem for you. You need to take a long hard look at yourself and think about the way you are at the moment and the way you are heading, does it make you the sort of person that someone else is going to be attractive to. You need to change your behaviour now in order to be attractive to others in the first place. If your ultimate aim is to meet a partner then you need to change behaviour / strategies now. Otherwise you will end up like the Rabbits just getting smashed each week and never winning the premiership. xxxxx, you are my first born son and I love you with all my heart. I am your biggest fan and supporter, I always have been and I always will be. I don’t want to lose you and my only wish is for you to be happy. xxxxx, I stood by you when he was 17 and it worked. Look at the great bloke you became. And I will always be there for you. Happiness / contentment is what is inside of you, we don’t become happy by trying to rearrange the “external things” in our lives. Translated this simply means I will be happy when …… I meet a partner, buy a new car, go on an overseas holiday etc etc But it doesn’t work that way. Happiness is what is inside of you, sounds simple but a lot of people fail to recognise this, and for others it is harder to achieve. Maybe you need to go and visit the people at the other end of your street instead of going to the pub all the time. Be your self son and don’t hide behind alcohol, let people see the real you. Because you are someone who is responsible by nature, who is smart, and funny and witty, and handsome and a genuinely nice person with a kind heart. xxxxx, know that I will always be there for you. I feel that we have always been pretty open and honest with each other and would like this to continue. There is probably still a lot that we don’t know about each other. Please know I will try and answer any of your questions or be willing to listen to you if there is anything you want to know about me or tell me about yourself. xxxxxx, I will always be there for you, if I can do anything please let me know. Love always Mum. I take my booze serious, seriously. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earmuffs Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Don't believe in alcoholism. People who talk or brag about being alcoholics are lames. What are you 17. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forsit Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Don't believe in alcoholism. People who talk or brag about being alcoholics are lames. What are you 17. you're a fucking idiot if you don't believe in alcoholism. if sarcastic, carry on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brickos Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Don't believe in alcoholism. People who talk or brag about being alcoholics are lames. What are you 17. Sorry we don't live the same lifestyles brAh... If you don't believe surely you have no need to be in this thread. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_:MemphisOrDie:_ Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Good luck SayWord.... keep an open mind and take suggestions. go to meetings. you won't be sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earmuffs Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 be a man. get a real life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brickos Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Job - check House - check Wrap letters - check Two posts a day less than you... You're at home on 12oz (mature site that it is)... I'm sitting here getting paid... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earmuffs Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Actually I'm at work. Where I stay at for 2 weeks 24 hours a day. Nice try though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 Tomorrow I have to back and tell all these people that have had nothing but faith in me, true hope for my recovery, that I was weak enough to fail. Fuck all you "this is a joke fuck you nigga, live yo rap video nigga" I am glad that you have no concept of addiction. Holla when you need me to be your sponsor. I am lame enough to think that my wife doesn't know I've been drinking. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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grove rat Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 i drink maybe once or twice a week. sometimes more, sometimes less i never drink alone. i hate drinking just a beer or two, if i drink i wanna get a good buzz or nicely drunk. i dont like getting shitfaced...but it happens -g.rat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Newer Bigger Better Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 AA like a 95% failure rate. I wouldn't feel too bad about the church not being able to cure you anymore then you should feel bad they can't cure the gays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 If that's what it takes, then that what it takes. If you can drink and pay your bills, maintain social relationships, go for it. if you can can shoot just a little bit of heroin, get down with your bad self. if this is how you get out of bed, maybe it's time for a lifestyle evaluation. I'm not gonna knock you if you return the favor. This was a few years ago and a few relapses ago. I don't subscribe to all of the 12 steps but it gives me some thing else to focus on. I know, If I say it often enough, maybe someday I'll believe it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I made a decision to abstain from all mind altering chemicals. I did this because my attempts to manage and control my own use failed. It is a personal decision not one that I push on others. Comparing alcoholism to homosexuality is close minded and crude. Like many things in life there is more than one path. I do not follow the 12 step program in my own recovery although I have attended meetings in the past. I attended NA meetings as addiction is my issue and drinking just so happens to fit into that nicely. I will say that I much preferred NA to AA. I see no reason to cast judgment on people who do especially considering that when the suffering addict who gets clean, life improves. Live and let live seems to be a more appropriate response. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUGR Posted March 4, 2011 Share Posted March 4, 2011 I typically drink about 360 - 365 days a year. I should probably try to cut that back a bit :). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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