CILONE/SK Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I am a drinker, but I am always looking to maintain control, so I am down to participate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Hells yea. I'm gonna start makin a list. Cil I know your on here enough you prob don't care which day...am I right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Yep, for the most part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Just checked out Tinychat, never messed with it before. I am still down, but you are not seeing my face. I will put the camera on something else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I actually never fucked around w tinychat either. I'll have to check it out tommorow....I figured a few wouldn't wanna be seen...it's all g. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yardwanderer Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 just wear nixon masks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Or maybe meet up at http://www.aaonline.net/chatguests.php I don't have a cam though and probably wouldn't use it even if i did but, i'd throw in my .02. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Xen that's really awesome to know that exists....good shit. I'm talking about a strictly 12oz meeting at first tho.l.but I'd also be down to hit one of the aa ones up too...in the future. I had no idea they even offered something like that. Very cool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Step8 lurkin. XD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
japillahan Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I would be down but I can't make any promises. Awesome idea; the online non-flesh-and-blood aspect kind of weirds me out but I'm down to try anything out at least once. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yardwanderer Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 let's all go in on a bulk order of nixon masks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shai Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I don't have a camera on my laptop so that's not an issue with me. And if I'm not sober I won't participate...I feel like that's reasonable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OhMyGosh! Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Ive been sober and in the program for a long time, and I would be down for this also. I lurk this thread far more regularly then I sign in to post a comment. Its awesome to see people are still at it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUGR Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 That's a good idea. Maybe if we just had a general room that people could pop into at anytime to see if anybody else is there to chat, discuss, give advice etc and also have set times for more formal meetings. Similar to how we used to rock the old 12oz tinychat room. Could definitely be beneficial and easier to access then logging in to post here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inappropriate_Responder Posted October 12, 2012 Share Posted October 12, 2012 Why you gotta be a dick? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 Day 16 and struggling. Tonight was an awesome meeting but I am struggling with the 5th step. I randomly called a cat from the meeting and asked them to be my sponsor. I am preemptively working step 8 and have no clue how to go about it. Any one want to claim my name and tell UP I'm sorry :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted October 15, 2012 Share Posted October 15, 2012 While I do see that step 8 is hard, probably would be my hardest step if I did this, why is step 5 that difficult? I do not think I would ever do the 12 steps, due to me not believing in god. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted October 16, 2012 Share Posted October 16, 2012 yeah neither do i, but once you get past that its not so bad. god can be whatever you want it to be, like you wife or kids or something. step 8 is tough and prob not something u should be worrying about with 16 days clean man...if your sponsor is having you do that already....get a new sponsor...seriously. you need to worry about yourself right now. step 8 will come along when the time is right man Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted October 17, 2012 Share Posted October 17, 2012 why is step 5 that difficult? I've done a lot of shit over the course of my drinking career that I am truly ashamed of. Just revisiting them on paper sucks and saying it out loud is going to be even rougher. I see the necessity, to clean out the gutters and not letting the past cloud the future, owning my thoughts and actions so I can move forward but damn, I know it's a process that will take a lifetime and I shouldn't have any expectations at all, especially that it would be easy. I am still of the instant gratification mindset and really should start getting out of that frame. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fictionator Posted October 19, 2012 Share Posted October 19, 2012 watching "as good as it gets" with my dog . I still think helen hunt is smashable. Jack Nicholson and Verdel , great team Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fat ralphy Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 While I do see that step 8 is hard, probably would be my hardest step if I did this, why is step 5 that difficult? I do not think I would ever do the 12 steps, due to me not believing in god. most folks think that step 5 is hard because you are admitting all you faults to yourself and another person. If you do the step right, that means every time you got over on people, all the times you fucked over friends and family....all the fucked up perved out stuff you have done etc. Plus all the resentments you have against people, most people have a bunch."I'm mad my pops used to fuck me up." "The nun at school used to peep my dick and rub her tits in my face." Shit like that, which can be hard to admit. Literally you are supposed to come clean on everything. The idea being that this frees you from the guilt of suppressing all your bullshit and getting all fucked up because you live in fear of anyone finding out your secrets. Honestly, when I did my 5th step I was feeling hella nervous and had anxiety about telling my sponsor all the fucked up shit I had done. As I started dropping the rock I felt like I was not going to be able to do it... Then as I started to break down everything I actually did feel better getting things off my chest. And I have done some fucked up shit. One thing is you need to trust your sponsor isn't going to put your business out on front street. With all the years I have been in the program I haven't heard about that happening very much if at all. In fact the 2 sponsors I have had have both told me dirt on themselves and that made me feel cooler about dropping some scust on myself. As far as the 8th step that is making a list of the folks that you have wronged and being willing to make amends to them. It's step 9 that you are actually going face to face with people and making amends. I have actually tracked down dudes that I robbed and paid them. Imagine that. Anyway folks keep doing it however you're doing it. Peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 @ CILONE/SK God is just a word to define a concept. It has nothing to do with any organized religion and the big book has an entire "Chapter To The Agnostics". By and large, I still say fuck christianity but I accept that there is a power greater than me (I wouldn't have thought there was anything greater than me :)) My main problem with the big book is that it was written in 1936 and the language they use shows. (Whoopee party? She has been so accustomed to wearing the trousers??} I'm a supporter of the program but not a fanatic. If you can stay sober by some other means, peace to you and yours. I tried willpower and failed so why not try this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
japillahan Posted October 21, 2012 Share Posted October 21, 2012 step 8 isn't a step you need to worry about until you finish step 7; and it doesn't sounds like you're there yet. So no worries. It gets easier with time, which is easy to say, but hard to accept it if you're into the instant gratification (I was because I was there too once... still am, just in different ways now). I don't think i got to my 4th step until i was at least about a year sober. Maybe more (not counting my treatment 4th step). Shit's gonna get tough inevitably but that's when I rely on my G.O.D. (group of drunks) to have my back. Some of my best friends are either sober or know what I'm up against and it's best to surround yourself with positivity (If that's your goal). Real recognize real, hang with the winners. Much love and hang in there cause it's worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mymindisgoo Posted October 29, 2012 Share Posted October 29, 2012 10 days clean off the opis today. yehaw 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted October 29, 2012 Share Posted October 29, 2012 Congrats on ten days, continue to work in 24 hour increments and everything will be okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fat ralphy Posted October 29, 2012 Share Posted October 29, 2012 sometimes even just 10 minutes at a time^^^ props goo, remember there is a reason you wanted to get clean....focus on that when it gets rough and if you need some help reach out. Giants won the World Series. I'm still sober, hope you dudes are doing well with your efforts. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PITOFZOMBIES Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 yeeeeup. still at it. a year ago right now, i was dealing with some heavy shit, digging myself out of that hole... now my life is incredible. worth it? fuck yeah. If any of you dudes struggling (or not, either way) want my celly to have someone to hit up when you're on the verge of faltering, holler. I'd be more than happy to help remind you why that shit is lame. I'm not on that program tip, but i think i could make some sort of freelance sponsor type deal. figured i'd throw that out there as a means of support since i'm rarely on here to ramble my findings... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anybody_wanna_chestnut? Posted November 6, 2012 Share Posted November 6, 2012 shoot me a pm. the more numbers the better 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 30 days on the 28th. Fight the good fight mymindisgoo Damn near lost it today over some IRS/ex-wife bullshit but my sponsor talked me out of it and shit's ok for today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fat ralphy Posted November 9, 2012 Share Posted November 9, 2012 props^^ change comes one decision at a time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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