After School Special Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Why the female flirt is wasting her time Some girls merely flutter their eyelashes. Others snuggle up close and play footsie, while the really forward type might venture a touch on the thigh. But whatever the method of flirting it just doesn't work with most men, claim researchers. The male brain, it seems, is hopeless at picking up "come-on" signals, according to a report to be published next month. This leaves men impervious to the seduction techniques of the opposite sex. A study by scientists at Indiana University tested 280 undergraduates of both genders on their ability to spot social signals. They were shown photographs of women and asked to categorise them as friendly, sexually interested, sad or rejecting. The male students were far less accurate than the females at interpreting the body language, and were particularly baffled by the difference between flirty and friendly gestures. When shown images of women making advances, men tended to misread the sexual cues as friendliness. At the same time they mistook photos of women merely being friendly for sexual interest. The researchers also found that women overestimate men's ability to pick up on sexual signals. They argue that many females wrongly believe that the men are well aware of their attempts to woo, but are just not interested in responding. "Failure to pursue could be an indicator of misperception but could easily be explained by noninterestthe scientists write in the journal Psychological Science. In contrast, women are very aware that males get the wrong end of the stick when they are simply being friendly. This is because, the researchers argue, men who misconstrue a friendly gesture as a come-on are more likely to follow through with inappropriate behaviour. Such embarrassing encounters will lodge more keenly in a woman's memory, and she will also be more likely to discuss it with her friends. Lead researcher Dr Coreen Farris reassures women, however, that all is not lost when it comes to flirting. She said: "These are average differences. Some men are very skilled in reading clues." Best- selling author Kathy Lette said the research proved that women are far more fluent in body language. "It is really confusing for women," she said. "The average bloke either doesn't realise that we fancy him until we are giving birth to his children in the labour ward; or he presumes all women fancy him all the time. "God was playing some kind of prank when he developed two sexes." http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/articles/news/news.html?in_article_id=550208&in_page_id=1770&ito=newsnow One of the comments cracked me up as being all too true... "Yep..... the thing is.... women communicate with other women like this all the time so they naturally think that men can pick up on these subtle signals just as easily..... but we can't. If I'm upset with one of my male friends I tell his so, or I hit him. What I don't do is ignore his new shoes or buy him a shirt in a color I know he does not like.... men are more direct and we wish women understood this when they interact with us." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Decyferon Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 its about time women started just saying come on you've pulled lets fuck 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seffiks Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 well let me test ( where the pictures at damnit) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shai Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 This is true. I can't take a hint to save my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IOU Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Same here. I'm ultra lame when it comes to the ladies. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gat Bush Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 This is my downfall. I'm sure many a pussy-play was lost by me due to my cluelessness. Edit - The comment dude posted is right on target. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GucciCondom Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 They need to mention that bitches flirt with you and try to get a response when they aren't even interested just because they want to feel like everyone would fuck them. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malin Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I can't take a hint either. Wish we just handled it like dogs do. Sniff each other's asses and hop on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hatetown Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I'm pretty good at picking up when girls flirt with me. Because all girls flirt with me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gat Bush Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 They need to mention that bitches flirt with you and try to get a response when they aren't even interested just because they want to feel like everyone would fuck them. You have given out too much Reputation in the last 24 hours, try again later. .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
After School Special Posted March 31, 2008 Author Share Posted March 31, 2008 Yea Gucci is pretty spot on as well. I almost feel like all girls know how to do is flirt. Maybe I'm just an attractive guy, or maybe, as Gucci is insinuating, females just wanna feel attractive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SukiSukiNow Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 no shit. there have been times when i guess i should have just put my puss on a platter to make it that obvious. i didn't know guys were THAT clueless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keeping secrets Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 They need to mention that bitches flirt with you and try to get a response when they aren't even interested just because they want to feel like everyone would fuck them. My thought's exactly.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spitfire15 Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 We cant tell because all women are cock teasing sluts. You think ones flirting, you respond back like wise and then they pull away all like "WTF?". Then you look like a dumb ass. So we cant really tell between flirting or gay little friendly gestures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c-walk Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 kind of the same idea i guess... but people tell me i flirt with girls all the time when i think i'm just being a nice guy also i cant take a hint for the life of me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shai Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I could have gotten about half of my female friends in the sack if I had just been paying attention, according to half of my female friends. Apparently they were throwing me signals and I wasn't even paying attention. What can I say? I'm not a scumbag...I only hook up with people I like (for the most part). That's not to say I wasn't attracted to them or into them, but it's something else...it's hard to explain. All I can say is that I know when it's going to happen with a girl, and so far I've been right 100% of the time. I'm pretty sure most of you know what I'm talking about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MOOGLE? Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 They need to mention that bitches flirt with you and try to get a response when they aren't even interested just because they want to feel like everyone would fuck them. wholeheartedly agree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILOTSMYBRAIN Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Yeah I'm fucking oblivious to all of these "natural" hints. Girls just need to be like "Let's fuck". Fuck the whole bashing of the eyeLASHES I've had too many beers and I'm not even looking at your face. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClueTwo Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Oh please..When I get that look from across the bar I just pull it out and stick it in their ear. Oh wait, that's just what I want to do... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shitting Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 That is such a poorly designed experiment. And Kathy lette is such a slut Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Decyferon Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I could have gotten about half of my female friends in the sack if I had just been paying attention, according to half of my female friends. Apparently they were throwing me signals and I wasn't even paying attention. What can I say? I'm not a scumbag...I only hook up with people I like (for the most part). That's not to say I wasn't attracted to them or into them, but it's something else...it's hard to explain. All I can say is that I know when it's going to happen with a girl, and so far I've been right 100% of the time. I'm pretty sure most of you know what I'm talking about. yea man I agree with you on that I can only hook up with someone I'm into, I wish I could just go out and be a dog sometimes but just aint me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CALIgula Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 actually, i believe the opposite of this is true... most men think women are flirting, even if the woman is not flirting and just being nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
c-walk Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 yea man I agree with you on that I can only hook up with someone I'm into, I wish I could just go out and be a dog sometimes but just aint me. thats typically how i am, but then that one time you fuck a random... its an awesome feeling knowing you dont have to see or talk to her ever again Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spellbound Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 Say word. or you find out years later that so and so had a crush on you but by the time you find out it's to late to do shit. oh and co-sign to GucciCondom's statement Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercer Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I all ways used to think girls would be down, then I'd find out they weren't after I'd break up with the last girl and start going after the ones I thought were on the D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hayabusa Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 i dont care about their cues if i want anything ill go after it if i dont get it, i dont give a fuck their cues = meaningless 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GucciCondom Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 The time in my life when I got the most bitches was when I thought I could fuck every single one and had a big head about it. Then I packed on a few extra pounds, and spent the last 3 years addicted to some sort of substance and just mentally fucked up and depressed. And I have hardly been getting anything. Not like it matters to me in this mindstate. Beating it is all good. I need a fucking solo vacation. So I can not be associated with anyone and get my mind right. /no thread hijack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gat Bush Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I all ways used to think girls would be down, then I'd find out they weren't after I'd break up with the last girl and start going after the ones I thought were on the D. That was their plan from the jump. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brickos Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 I've had too many beers and I'm not even looking at your face. hahaha:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Huxtable. Posted March 31, 2008 Share Posted March 31, 2008 maybe women need to be more direct and upfront. women got it easier because not only are they naturally more perceptive (i think), but men are more direct, upfront, and vocal in their flirtations. women try to hide it and be as subtle and inconspicious as possible. sorry nigga but i ain't a fuckin detective. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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