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graffiti friends vs "normal" friends

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by Secret, Jan 9, 2002.

  1. Secret

    Secret Elite Member

    Joined: Apr 20, 2000 Messages: 3,169 Likes Received: 0
    Who do you choose??

    I have a best-friend who moved away when we were young, and recently came back. After being apart for 8 years, it's obvious we developed a lot of different interests, but we still have the common bond... like sisters.

    While we pay $7 each for parking at a trendy bar, I rather pay $7 to hop on the subway to see my crew and catch tags. My friend just recently broke up with her steady boyfriend of 3 years, and she's been rebelling like crazy. I was out of town for a week, and she already slept with some slimey 30 year old we met at a bar. She loves meeting older men, and I hate going with her because I already have somebody that I love of my own. I wanna be there for her because I know those older guys aren't her REAL friends... they just want to get in her pants. But she's facisnated by all the material things they have like Porsches, Audis, and million dollar homes. I miss my friends that live in little apartments full of canvases. I want to get away from this whole "fake hollywood" type scene, but how do you tell someone that's practically your sister you don't want to get hang out with her anymore?

    :confused:
     
  2. MR BOJANGLES

    MR BOJANGLES Guest

    all my friends are writers, with a few b-boys and djs scattered in for good measure. fuck all outsiders!
     
  3. Secret

    Secret Elite Member

    Joined: Apr 20, 2000 Messages: 3,169 Likes Received: 0
    Well, I don't have any "hip-hop for life" friends, but thanks for your useless advice.
     
  4. mental invalid

    mental invalid Dirty Dozen Crew

    Joined: May 11, 2001 Messages: 13,050 Likes Received: 8
    hhhmmmm...perhaps take her with you to these studios of art, maybe itll "get her off" in other ways, then again maybe shell just sleep with all your friends...is this same girl you wanted to watch porn with cause she was dating an older guy? hmmm, i say try to do other things with her, check a movie, go shopping, grab some dinner, etc...jus something besides going clubbin, maybe thats where the problem lies...and also maybe your friend needs some good "sisterly advice", you guys shouldnt be afraid to to let the other one know....and then again perhaps you need to look past certain traits, she could be doing this because things are fucked up with her and its a cry for help, and a sister is really what she needs...then again perhaps she will just become one of those let do lunch once in a blue moon people...things change...r
     
  5. --zeSto--

    --zeSto-- Guest

    ummm... nope
    the broader the cross section of society the better!

    I want to meet and chill with...

    Hardcore Christian Zealots
    Post-Mullet Rockers
    Spoiled Rich Girls
    Rich, Bitchy and Bored Women
    Old Dudes with Yachts and crazy stories
    Mad Scientists
    Pirates and Rogues
    Ballet Dancers (girls)
    Old turks who smoke Hookas
    Chess Master who play in the park
    Urban Sceensters
    maybe even Yuppie Scum
     
  6. KASTsystem

    KASTsystem Member

    Joined: Jul 3, 2001 Messages: 832 Likes Received: 0
    leave that hollywood b.s. behind....move to NY!

    or, if you don't feel like doing anything that drastic, just tell her how she's being a blind idiot (but do it in the most concerned way that a real friend would) and suggest she do something better when you two spend time together...for example, tell her to try some of the things you are interested in (not necessarily graffiti). bring her to a museum or something.
     
  7. I dont choose something over something else, i choose my friends.
    From person to person habits and behaviours change but i could never hang out with people i respect for being goodhearted and still acting completely stupid.
    I lost many friends cause i didnt want to involve on their stupid shit. luckily.
    Theory and practice as well as needs and prioritys have a huge gap inbetween
     
  8. MESTHREE

    MESTHREE Dirty Dozen Crew

    Joined: Apr 11, 2000 Messages: 2,902 Likes Received: 35
    hrmm... I recently went through something similar..and Im still kinda dealing with it. Without going into too much detail.....be honest. completely upfont without being blunt. Its a hard line to walk I know....but I always think honestly is the best policy. If you keep hanging with her......it will be fake and sooner or later she will realize this and be, perhaps more hurt than if you had just been upfront. I tend to err on the way too blunt side of the line and it has gotten me in trouble. Take it from me saying "I dont like you anymore" in a moment of pissed off-ness is not a good choice. Maybe you could approach the whole thing by telling her that you are concerned about how shes living lately or something like that.....anyhow.......thats my $.02
     
  9. MR BOJANGLES

    MR BOJANGLES Guest

    secret just move to cleveland, you can come be hiphop with us! forget that girl, you can become best friends with my girl! (p.s. i just posted in response to the topic name and not the story. so i gues my input was useless.)
     
  10. Secret

    Secret Elite Member

    Joined: Apr 20, 2000 Messages: 3,169 Likes Received: 0
    Isn't that where Bone Thugs N Harmony are from?? I don't roll with no gangstas.

    :)

    Mesthree's advice seems the most reasonable. Eventually, the truth always comes out...
     
  11. alkaline

    alkaline Elite Member

    Joined: Apr 2, 2001 Messages: 3,097 Likes Received: 0
    Just tell her straight up that you are worried about her. There’s no telling what these old guys will do to her. Some are just “looking for some young pussy” and some are probably just using her to boost their old ass self esteem. All the while these guys are just messing your friend up (probably more emotionally and mentally than physically). Tell her that, and go from there.
     
  12. alkaline

    alkaline Elite Member

    Joined: Apr 2, 2001 Messages: 3,097 Likes Received: 0
    Just don’t stick around if she keeps acting that way. Sooner or later, you’re going to get dragged into some drama.
     
  13. -Rage-

    -Rage- 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Apr 12, 2001 Messages: 10,006 Likes Received: 28
    Friends go nowhere. Enemies go everywhere.
     
  14. chizm

    chizm Senior Member

    Joined: May 29, 2001 Messages: 1,165 Likes Received: 0
    oops, well...

    make it apparent that you two are very different, and then maybe she'll start losing interest in you. or you can introduce her to the hooligans you normally hang out with. that might scare her away.
     
  15. FROSTY

    FROSTY Senior Member

    Joined: Apr 22, 2001 Messages: 2,248 Likes Received: 5
    dont hang out with here so much. just say your going out painting. let her know that art is one of your major hobies and you have other friends with the same intrests as you. the odd time give her a call but dont make her think that you guys are still best friends or somethin.

    its hard i guess. i started hanign out with a friend i didnt see for like 5 years. we seem to be pretty cool but its not like we do everything together. i dont paint with him or go out on friday night but we will just chill. hes a chillin friend. i wouldnt ditch her secret. just let her know that you have other friends. im sure in time she will have lots of her own friends.
     
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