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Bojangles

Loners unite! ...Or don't. Because then we wouldn't be loners.

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As I get older, I find myself becoming more and more of a loner. Which is weird, because 5-10 years ago, I was a social butterfly. /NH

 

I'm pretty sure it's coming with age as most of my friends are stuck in the same rut and I'm trying to venture into new realms with my art, my career and my self as a person.

 

 

Am I alone here?...pun intended.

 

The first few months that I realized it, I freaked out and thought everyone hated me. Then, I realized that I actually just grew tired with a majority of them for the most part.

 

 

 

Don't get me wrong. I have TONS of friends. It's just that these days, I find more comfort in my own company and thoughts.

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Doesn't this happen to everyone? I didn't think it really applied to a certain age group.

 

 

I find for me I can go maybe a year with the whole super social thing and the next year I kind of like to be alone/take it easy. I think it's more calming and the body needs it.

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im so busy with work and girlfriend the only time i really have to se my buddies is at the bar or somewhere watching a football game

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Yeah...Time for myself plays a big part as well. Which, a lot of my friends don't get. Good to see there's a few of us here.

 

 

I think it's the late 20's-30somethings.

 

Life just kinda' says "shape up or ship out" and you have to pick.

 

 

Never an easy choice though.

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Perhaps it has something to do with personal genesis. As a child you interpret company as a security. As a teenager/young adult company becomes a better alternative to blood. At that point most people thrive off of having a vast network of acquaintances we mistake for friends. We amass "friends" to somewhat discover what we like about ourselves/what we feel we need to improve on. And now you are distancing yourself from the mirrored introspection because you are comfortable enough with yourself and confident you are not a complete fuck up. No need for validation from your peers.

 

OR YOU ARE SUFFERING FROM ADVANCED SENILITY AND IN FACT YOU HAVE BEEN HANGIN WITH DUDES BUT CAN'T REMEMBER IT.

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Bojangles --you ain't alone. We're at different stages in our life. We've been there, done that, don't need to really keep doing it 24/7. I think I enjoy laying low, especially when going out includes three train transfers, over crowded spots, and $30 cab rides home. Even if I had money to blow right now, I still wouldn't care that I'm nerding out with 12oz on a Friday night. In fact, my girl is getting ready to go to bed, and I'm going to play some GTA San Andreas. Lame? Sure, but I don't really give a fuck anymore.

 

I used to love going out to packed bars and creating a ton of noise and being a clown. But those days are long gone. Now I see a crowded bar and avoid it. If I do end up at one, I just picture dynamite vests and gasoline barrels surrounding me. Maybe I'm lame, but I'd rather go out and grab dinner with some friends or drinks at a quiet bar most of the time.

 

We's just getting old man.

 

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No matter how few people there are around me I'll always have the voices i my head to keep me company.

 

 

 

 

 

I don't know about this 20s-30s thing, you do what you need to do for you. A lot of friends have moved on to do certain things, leaving other things behind, but I feel the need to push myself on with or without.

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don't get me wrong. I have TONS of friends. It's just that these days, I find more comfort in my own company and thoughts.

 

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"I dont want to go out

I want to stay in

Get things done"

 

yeah, i enjoy "me" time. the been there, done that mentality plays a big part too. i've always been fairly antisocial, yet at times i am the complete opposite.

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i'm somewhat with you bojangles. most of my old friends are doing hard drugs, or are doing nothing with their lives. i'd rather be a loaner that produces some sort of creative content than some guy that hangs out all night with his friends and does nothing with his life but get wasted. i'd rather be alone and not have to deal with the extra bullshit.

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Life just kinda' says "shape up or ship out" and you have to pick.

 

 

Never an easy choice though.

 

This...

I have a bunch of friends who are just staying afloat while I'm trying to make the most of every opportunity.

 

One in particular I had to tell his bird to take their kid and fuck off because it was supposed to be just us chilling out (first time in 6 months)

 

and it just sucks because we were so close (I basically have done more pieces with him than anyone else and lived with him for years and years) and now he's just a fuck up (a happy Fuck up but a fuck up nonetheless)

I can see our paths splitting soon but he can't see anything coming.

 

Bummer

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fuck friends...every friend ive ever had up to this point has stabbed me in the back.either they stole from me or spread rumors or snitched on me or they were just straight haters and put me down all the time.so i stop associating with people.i probably have one or two guys i smoke with every month or so but other than that i stay one deep.

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