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So she has a kid... So what!

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by kido, Feb 13, 2004.

  1. kido

    kido 12oz Senior Member

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    So she has a kid... So what!

    Discussion started by kido - Feb 13, 2004

    So Im in a relationship with a chick that has a kid. Shes twenty and has a two year old boy.

    Im getting a lot of guff from my friends, but I dont give two shits about what they say. And actually come to think of it some of the people on 12oz have a far more educated opinion than the fucks that I hang out with.

    I like her regardless,

    What do you think?
     
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  2. kido

    kido 12oz Senior Member

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    kido - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    had to do it, sorry.
     
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  3. WebsterUno

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    WebsterUno - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    Who's the one dating her, you or them?
    Friends can sometimes be crabs.
    As long as she is a good mother...its cool.
    If shes one of them snakes, watch out!
    It might be her fault she isnt with the BD.
    But, then again...it could be his.
    Its never a good idea to fall in love right away,
    so just give it time, and see what kind of person she is.
    Then make the call.
     
  4. Gunm

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    Gunm - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    Dude...i dated a girl who had a daughter once and well, it was kinda weird.

    The little girl was a real sweetheart and i could tell she liked having me around but when i moved back to cali from massachusetts....that was it. I felt like i was abandoning them but shit was beyond my control.

    Man, it's cool you dig the girl but...how does it look to the kid to have a steady succession of men coming in and out of moms life?
    I'm not saying you're being an evil bastard or anything but are you really going to be with her for days and days helping her raise this child? If anything, i feel bad for the child. It must be rough growing up without a real dad being there all the time.

    Just treat the kid well is all i have to say and don't ever get pissy when the kid interupts plans you've made with the gf. You have made a choice to accept this girl and all the baggage that comes with the relationship.

    Personally, i never would date a girl with a kid...it's just too much to handle.
     
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  5. DETO

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    DETO - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    if you like her, fuck what anyone else thinks b.
     
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  6. RAGSOE

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    RAGSOE - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    i fucked a bunch, but no dice on staying with them. watch out for preying mammas looking for a dad for there chitlins man. it sounds bad, but think about it. its like thier instincts or some shits...
     
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    villain - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    Hey.. babys mamas don't get no love. so good for you for accepting such a difficult role. I just hope you do the part well. It's like you are a part of the family now so you should act like it.
     
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  8. WebsterUno

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    WebsterUno - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    ^^^hahaha...damn, you remind me of
    some of my homies...lil chitlins...hahaha.
    *edit, I was talking about rags...
    :)

    Like LENS said, dont treat the kid bad.
    Dont get pissy when she has to break plans.
    Babysitters are hard to find, and expensive!
    You shouldnt spend too much time with the
    kid, unless you plan on being around for a
    while. You dont have to play daddy either.
    you can be the kids friend. Let her know that too!
     
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    ASER1NE - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    Bad news from the start , if you both were 35 thats a whole new ballgame . But you aint , youre diggin a bigger hole than you think .
     
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    WhAt_dA_fUcK - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    its cool to be with her but be careful on what happens you WILL fuck up in the relationship forexample i know a friend that was datin this girl who had a kid he adopted the baby girl (bad idea because if they ever break up she has a right to slap you with child support because you legally adopted the child) i actually believe that the only reason they are together is because he is in love with they baby girl...so just becareful with what you put in the relationship...love is blind remember?
     
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    Boring Bastard - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    I'm dating a girl with a kid right now. Second time round with a mom. The first one I was with for over 2.5 yrs and her son and I were real close. Good kid but his mom was a piece of shit, for real. It was a love/hate thing. The one that I'm linked with right now is a girl that I've known since I was 14 so I know she wasn't a snot nosed cunt growing up like my old girl. This new one is illin. Coolest girl. It's just different. Each time is gonna be unique so take it with a grain of salt and TAKE YOUR TIME! Work around "mom hours" and spend little time with the kid at first. Don't pull the "disappearing step dad" thing on em. Make sure you wrap it up with this girl because if you get her preggers then you get a guaranteed "2 for 1" package and if she turns out to be a savage cunt then you won't even want just 1 let alone 2. Make sure. Be safe. Take your time.
     
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    Devilush - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    who gives two flyings shits about what your friends think. they arent in the relationship so who are they to say something about what you are doing. i'd say fuck it, if you like her you like her. sure she has a kid, but thats what relationships are all about...........obstacles.
     
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    ClueTwo - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    Lets not even go there.....I'm in agreement with everyone on the follow your heart, but there's other things I can think of that might be upsetting you. Good luck, end of trasmission.....
     
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    adderall - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    sounds like a bad call.. major hassles lie ahead on that path..
     
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    SteveAustin - Replied Feb 13, 2004

    I dated a girl with a kid. The little dude was pretty cool, but I got really frieked out when he called me daddy. I won't even touch em if they have kids now.

    edited to fix the quote
     
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