ubejinxed Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 and i also hated it when i paid most of the bills and was the financial stability and he would never do HIS part ..... nothing... and he still expected me to cook, clean and do everything.... and he never said THANK YOU Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shitting Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 way to pick the wrong dude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Huxtable. Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 and i also hated it when i paid most of the bills and was the financial stability and he would never do HIS part ..... nothing... and he still expected me to cook, clean and do everything.... and he never said THANK YOU damn. how/why did you pick him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 the sex was good.... and he was hot. .. but that's history and i'm smarter now. but anyways.. i think it's all about appreciation.. it makes everything more worth it, and you will more likely get more.... if you just value the other person and what they do for you. people shouldn' feel entitled to anything.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy Jump Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 people shouldn't feel entitled to anything.. i was gonna quote you on some other shit, but this is even better. i completely agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Huxtable. Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 i don't know about "anything." i feel entitled to a lot of things. like, my college gets paid for because i did a couple years of military service. i feel entitled to the benefits. if i work hard all week long, i feel entitled to partying on the weekend with the boys. if i'm doing my end of the bargain in a relationship, and she's appreciative and does something in return, i feel entitled and appreciative to what she does for me. to feel entitled is to feel deserving. and to deserve something you have had to have made your own sacrifices to be rewarded. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 true. perhaps 'anything' was too much a blanket word, i was just trying to emphasize my point. but i still disagree on the point of feeling entitled to behavior from another person. it's not a business deal like ur military service. you do things for another person because it should bring you joy to make them happy and vice versa, you shouldn't need something in return. to love is to give selflessly. i understand when you don't feel valued and feel like you deserve more but i still think you shouldn't feel like a person 'owes' you or you are doing it for selfish reasons. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy Jump Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 there's a difference between deserving and feeling entitled. but, ok, maybe not anything, 95% of feeling entitled stems from bullshit i.e. partying because you worked hard. yeah, maybe you deserve it, but you're not entitled to it/it's not a right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Asiquan Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Man people are loving this thread.........I'm not on some "I want to play traditional roles" type shit.........I have hated paying everything at times. I can also cook, clean and do laundry just goddamn fine. So I actually prefer to do that since I'm on some OCD type shit to get things right/clean/etc. Point is it should be a 50/50 situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theo Huxtable. Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 true. perhaps 'anything' was too much a blanket word, i was just trying to emphasize my point. but i still disagree on the point of feeling entitled to behavior from another person. it's not a business deal like ur military service. you do things for another person because it should bring you joy to make them happy and vice versa, you shouldn't need something in return. to love is to give selflessly. i understand when you don't feel valued and feel like you deserve more but i still think you shouldn't feel like a person 'owes' you or you are doing it for selfish reasons. i agree. you're right, it should be unconditional. most def. and talib kweli. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnUpsetStomach Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Thats why you gotta be able to hold your own down in every aspect. Cooking really isnt difficult its common sense. If you created a mess you should be able to clean it. Wash your clothes once a week to be a functioning member of society. I think couples who move live seperatly appreciate each other a lot more and prolong the romance/magic/chemistry period a lot longer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Point is it should be a 50/50 situation. i agree, at the minimum but the couple can pick who does what part of the 50.... and to really be successful each person should give 110% not just 50% Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pfffffffffft Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 ube.. lets make a family together.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mauler5150 Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 mero might not be a pope, but i gotta say.... PREACCCCCCCCCCCCCCCH. i gotta agree with everything you said. girls now a days about drama, smoking weed / cigs and having babies by losers... atleast around my way it seems... It is the same around my way too tease. Good thread Mero, you are on point. But what you have to realise is you need a Portugese woman, or some older Euro broad from the generation where they are taught to think like this. Another good place to meet girls with this kinda mindset is the Church. No shit, they are taught to respect their men for putting a roof over their head and food in the fridge (for them to cook of course!:lol:) And yeah, ube, if I was in the States I'd take you out and buy you things from time to time. As long as you coolk a good meal of course!!:p;):lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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