fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 July 4th, i really wanted to spend it with my ex, but i refrain myself from calling him, and he did the same.. obviously. So instead i had an ok time with very close friends of mine. (I adore them) I was discussing with my sister how i would like to have a birthday dinner with my ex, and i asked her, What if he doesn't do or get me anything for my birthday; is that a little on the fucked up side?! And like any women her answer was yes. Considering we've only been seperated for 3 weeks or so, and we have talked about how much we miss each other and adore one another. Anyhoo. Today my birthday, i recieve a call from him early this morning, he sends me birthday wishes, tells me about a dream he had of me, then says i'll be fine without him. oookay. as we're making the transition to hang up, he tells me, my phone will be charged later if you want to give me a call? pffffft! i hyped myself up thinking i would wake up to a bouquet of sunflowers at my door, or a canvas of a bouquet of sunflowers, (i've been bugging him to draw something for me) a card in the mailbox. something damn, but i got nothing. and it really fucking hurts. If it were his birthday, he would of had shit fedex to him, something just to let him know i fucking give a shit. maybe a phonecall was enough, but i don't fucking see it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 I'm going to give you a little insight into the male mind here.... After a break-up all gift giving will cease. We give gifts to win you over and to keep you happy, but when the relationship is over (or on a break) the gifts stop. If you broke up 2 days before a birthday and he already bought you a gift, a nice guys would still give it to you. 3 weeks is probably long enough to assume that he hadn't already got you something. Plus giving something small like a drawing or a card can come off as being too little, too late. We dont like being either of those. that's the world as I see it. (and I know I'm not alone) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serum Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 you need a new guy. ex is an ex for a reason. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Mamerro Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 I don't get it. Why are you ex's then? I agree with Rum on all counts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 yeah... that's a good question. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 because of inscurities i had. the reason i have all this hope of gifts, is because he constantly tells me he loves me, and misses my company, and i thought maybe he was going to show me something today, because right now, words are words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 ...then says i'll be fine without him. oookay. it sounds like he thinks he's doing the right thing by being away from you. Clearly sending flowers would send the wrong impression. Sounds like he's trying to 'pull the band-aid off quickly' which is way less painfull and confusing than sending you mixed signals. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 ahhhh. words. always causing problems. words in a breakup are like paint on a wall.... eventually you have to know when enough is enough or you'll just make an ugly mess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 you're right. i understand that now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 oh by the way.... happy birthday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Mamerro Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 because of inscurities i had. Probably the single most annoying reason for a break up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 i agree. but i had reason for my inscurities. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swif1 Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Rum Puncher is on point. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 haha, Rum tells it like it is. And fatalist continues the longest streak of posts where her boyfriend is mentioned. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Mamerro Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Oh definitely, there's always a reason. But most of the time these are not very well explained and leave too much room for free interpretation, which can lead to contempt. Now I don't know your specific case, but the times I've experienced it the frustration has led me to pretty much say "Fuck it, you go deal with those insecurities and let me know, in the meantime, peace out" and never call again, much less give a gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 I don't like to have sex with my shirt off. Or in the light. Nah, I'm kidding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 weapon x. shut up. i'll kill you right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fatalist Posted July 5, 2006 Author Share Posted July 5, 2006 i'm kidding. but really. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 ^ it's your birthday? Oh wait, of course it is. Happy birthday! And maybe he is sorta insecure about how you feel about him because he's putting the ball in your court to call him. Maybe he finally got the idea about trying to woo you back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Just make out with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAR Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 HAPPY BIRHTDAY! /nohomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Mamerro Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Shit, I totally missed the birthday part even though it was mentioned quite a bit. Happy Birthday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
26SidedCube Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 What the fuck? Either date the guy or don't.... you can't expect gifts without a relationship unless he can expect mad blowjobs without having to call you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RumPuncher Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 HAPPY BIRHTDAY! /nohomo you really think saying /nohomo will cover it? you posted a naked man's ass.... that goes WAY beyond just saying /nohomo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transparent Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 co-signed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shai Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Happy Birthday...here's yer flower...oh... Strange that you should mention this, because I'm dealing with a very, very similar situation. I'm about to do what Mams said, though. I don't really want to, since she's a cool girl and all...but, I think it will be for the best. All the same, good luck with everything, but don't let it slow your roll too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BIG HECZ Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 ahhhh. words. always causing problems. words in a breakup are like paint on a wall.... eventually you have to know when enough is enough or you'll just make an ugly mess. AMEN!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAR Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 you really think saying /nohomo will cover it? you posted a naked man's ass.... that goes WAY beyond just saying /nohomo Normally I'd agree with you but.. Its a girls birthday. She was feeling down and well I know a scantally clad woman's butt with happy b-day would cheer me up so I figured why not the other way around? I also figured someone would take it the wrong way so I tagged on the nohomo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DETO Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Happy Birthday Fatalist. and I also agree with Rummy on all counts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harvey Wallbanger Posted July 5, 2006 Share Posted July 5, 2006 Sorry Fatalist, that's no way to spend a birthday. Rummy is on point with this one, though. We're all the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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