You're doing the right things, but in my short years I've made the decision that you can only help people that want to help themselves. The hardest part for me of sobering up is the clarity of knowing exactly how much you hate the person you are when you drink. Which scares the absolute shit out of me and the only way of numbing the fear is with another empty bottle. People always say acknowledging the problem is the hard part, I'm not so sure.
I'm not really helpful here. As always I've managed to type an answer in this thread that relates to me and not exactly what you're asking.
Fuck.