We've all made bad choices when it comes to sexual partners, male or female. I am still waiting for 12 months to be up before actually being in a 'relationship'. Have been seeing someone because as you say, sobriety brings with it a certain burning in the loins, but the score is pretty clearly laid out with her about why I'm not doing any of the commitment stuff.
Which as I type it out sounds far, far more destructive than I had neatly arranged in my own little head.
Only problem with living in small towns and having a history, even if the person you're smitten with is new to the community, it doesn't take long for those not satisfied with their own lives to feel the need to fuck up yours; "Oh look, theP looks happy! How can we ruin that for him?"
Purely on the sex tip though, for me personally drunken sex is really just something to do before getting another drink. Meaningless and while I think I'm performing like a champ, I'm pretty sure the rerun video would make me cringe. Sober sex is definitely where it's at. Alcohol does deplete sex drive for almost everyone, not saying when you're loaded you don't want to bury your head somewhere, but it's more just the day to day urges that seem to subside for me.
Still working 7 days, working hard to try and stay sober.