HatoriHanzo Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I pretty much lost all my friends. But I feel that just happens when you are in your mid twenties. You find out all your friends from high school are just scumbags and ambition-less individuals who were really never there for you. My one homie is in jail and won't be getting out for 4-8 but I still keep in touch with him through letters. My other homie I knew for over ten years stopped talking to me because he said I dumped him as a friend. Realistically I let him stay at my crib for going on a month, not paying rent, disrespecting people important to me, and just going out every night doing drugs and drinking. After I kicked him out I just kind of did my own thing and started settling down with my girl. Apparently trying to get my life together and not wanting to party and watch him destroy himself with drugs and alcohol made me a dick. Sometimes you just have to let people go. I still love the dude like he is my brother and if he needed anything I would help him out, but he just chills with a shitty crowd now and I can't be around that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ski Mask Posted July 24, 2011 Author Share Posted July 24, 2011 Knowing you both personally. You very well /nh. I wish you would've done it a long time ago. real talk. I think thats a commonly held opinion with anyone that knows us both. what can I say... its done now at least. talked to her an hour ago and laid it all out. her whole life is falling apart right now, so I think she's gonna split back west. thanks for all the input everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DownSyndrome Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 let us drink some kool-aid Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
!@#$% Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 someone told me one day there are not such things as friends in life...not even family. someone sounds bitter. i'm dead inside and besides about 4 people and my brothers i can move on and forget people with relative ease... Fist, I feel like commenting on that last bit. For whatever reason I've always been able to move on very easily. ... No bullshit, I really have no friends. But that is due to my job and from keeping moving. 9 moves in 17 years. Hard to keep friends when you are on the move. But I do have a million acquaintances. i hardly have any friends.. there are the two ladies i mentioned in the first post, and hundreds of acquaintances. i usually have a long term boyfriend. and i'm not close with any family since my mom died. i too can write people off with ease, maybe because they aren't that close to me. but i also don't feel i need a tight network of people around me. I pretty much lost all my friends. But I feel that just happens when you are in your mid twenties. . this is true.. people get older and they get married or hit bottom or something luckily i know some interesting people who have gone onto do cool things with their lives, but that usually means they travel all over and i don't seem them or talk to them all that often. the shitheads i just left behind or forgot about ..with ease. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SystemFailure Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I remember Earl having a thread on this shit a while back and there were some solid responses. Some real reflective shit. I stand by what I said that time still, at a young age we need lots of friends even more than family or so we think. At a young age we amass a lot of different fiends which represent bits and pieces of our own persona. We try to figure out what we like about ourselves what we dislike, what we're willing to compromise on and what we absolutely refuse to work with. Years go by and that group starts to thin. We dont feel as attached to certain friends. Some fall to the wayside we continue to grow and hopefully not become stagnant. You get to a certain age where you've hopefully figured out to an extent who you are and what you want to remain being. Your friends at that point dont serve as a representation of a character trait. They are just a friend. Nothing more and nothing less. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Decyferon Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I have pretty much cut out most of the people I grew up with, I have had some real good friendships that I dont really have anything to do with the people anymore, just grew up moved on didnt hav the same interests anymore, kinda say hello if I see them, drop a text at christmas or whatever. I suppose I am kinda antisocial, I much prefer being on my own, hell even my wife is getting to me to the point I am considering my options there. Only person that it is genuinely easy spending time with is my son. I am real close with my brother and that has always been a constant. I just get bored of people real quick and can't be bothered with a lot of the bullshit of big groups of people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forsit Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I think this is the first thread I've read every post. I think rolling nowhere said it, but like him, I have a few friends. I hate going out in public and I hate seeing people I went to school with/lived next to/etc because I don't know what the fuck to say. I have around 6 people I hangout on a daily basis. Not all of them at the same time, which would be cool, but with age comes responsibility which comes no free time. But yeah Ski Mask, I had a friend that was like a brother to me. 5+ years and we hung out everyday. If someone saw one of us without the other they would say "Oh where's so and so?". He did some out of pocket shit, I beat his ass, and still don't talk to him. I randomly see him from time to time and it's super stupid because he acts like nothing happened. Hate that faggot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cool_Hand Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I too have gone through this, I used to kick it with lot's of people I considered close friends and now I see on an inconsistent basis about 4-5. People have moved away, I have had falling out's, and I really have gotten sick and tired of some of them and the going nowhere attitude. Once the growing up is done and your values are solidified I think you put up with less shit from friends, and family. I do hear what you all are going through and it rings truth with some of my friends and the situations I have dealt with in the past. I think a lot of people on the Koontz are like minded, that is why it is so easy to argue about dumb shit and we all keep coming back for more. I have an easy time moving on, I keep myself busy and focused, I am a very non-confrontational individual but I have values and I know what I like and what I cannot stand ... I make friends really easily and I just keep on track with forward moving progression and try not to look back. 2c Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
griteeth Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Out of a group of about 20 people I went to school with/knew from the area friends of friends type situations 4 are in jail, 2 have gotten married and still more have serious gfs and therefore aren't around alot, countless people have moved out of state including myself, and other are still in the rather small town we graduated in either barely getting by or content on building a life there. I was not. I moved around a lot different elementary, middle, and highschool in different states and those are three crucial times where you meet people you would build lasting friendships with. unfortunately college yielded no really solid friends. I do consider myself a loner. part of me wishes i had more friends but you can only do so much. I have a solid group of 4-5 people i keep up with back home but other than that its just me. been a memeber here since like 03 and it seems there used to be a lot more stable posters with good personalities. not to say there still aren't but you know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fist 666 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 No bullshit, I really have no friends. But that is due to my job and from keeping moving. 9 moves in 17 years. Hard to keep friends when you are on the move. But I do have a million acquaintances. what? don't tell me jack daniels or johnny walker haven't been there for you the whole time? those are some loyal friends that have helped me through a ton of dumb shit, and helped me find a ton of dumb shit too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAR Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I've cut friends out of my life for many reasons and it hurts like someone died. Most of the time it's for violating my trust. If forgiven a few friends but usually they are never as close as they seemed. But once in a while they become closer, especially if they understand what they did. I've had a lot of close friends throughout my life. In my experience everyone will let you down. What separates a friend of convenience and a true friend, no matter how close they seem is whether you can forgive each other. We all make mistakes, that's life; it's part of growing up — which we do until we die. Your friend might be stupid for what she's done, but as a friend you owe it to her to let her know how you feel. Even if she can't understand now she might come back to you later and thank you. If she doesn't at least you both will know why it ended. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sayWORD? Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 i knew a homey from grade school, we reunited in highschool after a few year hiatus. ended up dropping out and doing some dirt, both of us. i think selling drugs ruined this kids life. he completely lost all concept of the value of a dollar, not to mention the idea of working a legitimate job for his money. this was 6 or 7 years ago now. from what i can tell, hes never had a job since. did a complete 180, turned into a fuckin hippie, and got married to some swiss chick. i dont get down with hippies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blood fart Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 My brother just stopped by to tell me that I don't have any friends. He knows what he's talking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 what? don't tell me jack daniels or johnny walker haven't been there for you the whole time? those are some loyal friends that have helped me through a ton of dumb shit, and helped me find a ton of dumb shit too... Fist, I have seen too many of our kind go down that road. I do like to drink, but I definitely go out of my way not to fall into that trap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blood fart Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Every morning I wake up to texts begging me to stop calling in the middle of the night to bicker. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 If you give me your number, I will call you in the middle of the night. Then you can send texts to me asking me to stop. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fist 666 Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Fist, I have seen too many of our kind go down that road. I do like to drink, but I definitely go out of my way not to fall into that trap. thats good man. i'm mostly good about keeping clear headed, but fall back to it intermittently, 3 out of 4 weeks sober beats 4 out of 4 drunk. i was mostly just trying to make a funny Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 That is cool, fist. I had a friend who could not deal with everything we did when we came back a few years ago, he drank himself to death. He turned to the alcohol and killed himself one night while describing it on facebook while he was drinking and popping pills. He was out by then and people like him do not fall under the stats, even though you can trace it back to what happened to him that caused it. Bothered me alot. So, I make sure not to over do it. Ok, back on track with the thread. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blood fart Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 If you give me your number, I will call you in the middle of the night. Then you can send texts to me asking me to stop. Sure thing. People still answer my calls in the middle of the night because I have such a sweet sweet voice. Even when it's full of rage and aggression. I only really call a couple of people. But they are getting real tired of my antics. I see things crumbling right in front of my eyes, and I can't put the brakes on to stop it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 ^ I always wanted to go to Austin (I believe that was where you were at least) and hang for a night or two. You have always seemed really interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blood fart Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 People tend to think me to be interesting. I am real fun to be around until I am a total nightmare to be around. And the switch happens in the blink of an eye. Come on down. I'll be around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShockStrap Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 on a somwhat unrelated tip, I have peeps in my life who i just can't seem to shake. I know they arn't doing anything but helping me lift the bottle, but i can't get rid of them. backontopiconer/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forsit Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 Sure thing. People still answer my calls in the middle of the night because I have such a sweet sweet voice. Even when it's full of rage and aggression. I only really call a couple of people. But they are getting real tired of my antics. I see things crumbling right in front of my eyes, and I can't put the brakes on to stop it. I could see us being really good friends nh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blood fart Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I'm a good friend to have. Even when I am a mess, I never turn my back on someone and do anything and everything I can to help them. Most of the time helping others makes my life harder. But I keep doing it and people keep turning to me for help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fondles Posted July 24, 2011 Share Posted July 24, 2011 I've had to do it to more than a few friends (10+ years)... it sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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