Obnoxious Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 So basically my situation is my ex hasn't let me seen or even touch my seed ever since she was born. Which has been about 6 months already and heading to 7.. I been thinking and thinking hours on end if I should file child support myself so I can atleast see my lil girl. I honestly don't know anything about it.. I just turned 18 this January and I have a full time shit job too. I know there's older cats on here that have dealt with there babymomma issues.. I don't see myself with my ex being together and all cause she hates the shit out of me. So any info about CS? Is it worth it? Just so I can see my seed? Anything helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tavaruawon Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Closing in on 30, with no kids that I am aware of. So I have no real advice other than - good luck with all of that and stop calling her your 'seed'. If you care enough to make it happen then by all means go for it. Things will work out. Also CS at this point is out of your hands. If she wants it, they will give it to her through wage garnishment. Not that there aren't ways around that, but you don't want to be a scumbag... right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Obnoxious Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 I would look up on the Internet about it but I need a Real persons advise who's gone thru this whole situation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tavaruawon Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Where's your pops at my nigga. Start there. :lol: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Obnoxious Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 whats wrong with saying seed? a lot of people say it. its not like i say it constantly. thats not the point though. well thanks for the "advise" i guess.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mewzer Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 if i was in your situation, i would try to do my best to convince your babymomma before filing for that shit. send that bitch a smiley face or something. thats fucked up what shes doing, but thats what theyre good at... money over bitches, but when you throw a kid in the equation, thats pretty tough Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Decyferon Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 hard to give advise without knowing the situation, not expecting you to give in depth details but why doesn't she let you see your child? Is it her just being a bitch after you broke up? Or did you do something stupid that caused her to not want you to have any contact? Also, best thing to do is support your child if you do or dont see her, your child is your responsibility whether you actually have contact or not, just my personal opinion. Also, again without going into details, how would it look if you had to go to court, do you have arrests on your record etc. Just thinking about the dirty tricks she could play to try and make you look bad in court. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Obnoxious Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 alright you do have a point.. while she was going thru our whole situation i was just being ignorant as fuck. she would let me know that yea this is real im not playing games with you etc etc, i would show no feelings whatsoever cause to me i had the mentality of "bitches lie". so it took about 3 months to actually belive a word she said. we were doing okay and i was working too. we never talked often cause i guess the break up and other drama was still on her mind.. then she would start texting me and yea we were just starting to actually build up a bit of a relationship. then one night i went to a party smoked,drank and made out with just some girl. word got around i couldnt belive it. she herd what i did and that was pretty much what ruined it from the start. honestly i talked and actually begged her to let me be there for our child and all she said was "we have everything we need! and much more!" and those were pretty much her last words.. i do have an arrest for possesion of an oz of weed on my record but thats it. i guess this pretty much explain my "life dilema" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinky the kid Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 what is this i dont even. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
da1lyoperations Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 She won't let you see your kid because you went to a party and hooked up with some girl? What a whack bitch, seriously. That and the fact that you're 18 and have a 7 month old kid that you've never seen. No hate there, but you've gotta sort that out ASAP man because that's not gonna be good at all for your kid growing up. I can't really offer any advice but good luck with it all, I hope it works out and you get to see your kid soon dude. And your ex just sounds like a fucking clown. How's she supporting the kid on her own anyway? Just curious about that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Obnoxious Posted June 29, 2011 Author Share Posted June 29, 2011 she lives with her family. so i guess her parents and family members help her out. but its only a matter of time before they get fed up with that because im suppose to be the one doing that.. her friends also brainwashed her.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Lawyer up, make yourself look good, get your life right, make a home for your kid, file for custody. They'll set up child support and visitation, at least. I know more single fathers than single mothers so you may just fuck around and win. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gasfacevictm Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Have fun with all that. 18 with a fucking kid. Take a votech course on using rubbers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theflame Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 stop calling her your 'seed'. this 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grd Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Go see a solicitor and file for visitation. She can't stop you, you have a legal right to see the baby. She can make it difficult and drag it out but she really can't stop you. I don't understand women who put their own issues ahead of what's best for their children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gasfacevictm Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Teenagers aren't women. Any bleeding female can shit out a baby. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotsauceinthedickholewastaken Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 As a father of two girls under the age of two I can't imagine not being able to see my kids. You should go talk to a professional that can give you real advice. Do everything you can to be in that childs life even if your ex is a dirty cunt. It's your right. /end last serious thing I will ever say on this board. Or you can just take your kid and bury your ex in the backyard. Insert a wooden placeholder in the ground that reads RIP Whore...you fucked like a starfish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
12packprophet Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 Sounds like a bad idea. Especially if you live in a state that locks niggas up for fucking up on payments. You're fucking 18... just because you have a job now doesn't mean that you will down the line. You'll eventually see the kid one way or another, and she's probably going to pull that child support shit on you eventually anyways so just enjoy your freedom from it while you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smurf me Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 ^^^ I agree with him. I pay CS right now for my first baby mama they take away two bills from my checks every month its a bitch honestly and I got another one on the way in two months with some other bezzy and I know that bitch going to be asking for the same. If anything brah just help her out financaly it will makes things easier and if she ain't a total bitch she'll let you see your daughter. Just do whatever you can to see your daughter brah missing out on her life will hurt in the long run. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gasfacevictm Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 ALL OF YOU IDIOTS NEED TO LEARN HOW TO USE CONDOMS. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUGR Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 If anything brah just see your daughter brah. This! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Decyferon Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 ALL OF YOU IDIOTS NEED TO LEARN HOW TO USE CONDOMS.[/color][/size][/i][/b] ^^ This seriously what is it with people fucking up their own and the childs life by having kids at a young age. I wouldnt have a kid with someone til I had been with them at least 5 years. I was 25 when my son was born and even that is still on the young side for having a kid imo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CILONE/SK Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 The 18 kid has alot to learn. How about you just go to her house, ring the doorbel, and talk to her? Fuck a cell and a text. Also, since the kid has nothing to do with the parents being douchbags, you do your best to provide for your kid regardless of whether or not you see him/her. At a minimum, drop some formula and diapers off weekly. I know your only 18, but you can start off right. Sooner or later, you and the mom will grow the fuck up and realize this kid is going to be around forever and your actions will reflect on it. At least you can do the right thing and provide support without the drama. When it comes to kids, they always trump everything else, including momma drama. CILONE-3 kids provided for with no drama 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gasfacevictm Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 The 18 kid has alot to learn. How about you just go to her house, ring the doorbel, and talk to her? Fuck a cell and a text. Also, since the kid has nothing to do with the parents being douchbags, you do your best to provide for your kid regardless of whether or not you see him/her. At a minimum, drop some formula and diapers off weekly. I know your only 18, but you can start off right. Sooner or later, you and the mom will grow the fuck up and realize this kid is going to be around forever and your actions will reflect on it. At least you can do the right thing and provide support without the drama. When it comes to kids, they always trump everything else, including momma drama. CILONE-3 kids provided for with no drama Why did I hear Terrence Howard's voice when I read this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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smurf me Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 ALL OF YOU IDIOTS NEED TO LEARN HOW TO USE CONDOMS.[/color][/size][/i][/b] I did use condoms but then the girl said " no babe its okay i'll just take the pill tomorrow" and yeah she never took the pill so I got two kids too deal with now. But foreal this is true all guys need to strap up on some teen mom shit. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUGR Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 lolteenmomshit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gasfacevictm Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I did use condoms but then the girl said " no babe its okay i'll just take the pill tomorrow" and yeah she never took the pill so I got two kids too deal with now. But foreal this is true all guys need to strap up on some teen mom shit. LIKE I SAID BEFORE... ALL OF YOU IDIOTS NEED TO LEARN HOW TO USE CONDOMS AND NOT TAKE THEM OFF! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abcs Posted June 29, 2011 Share Posted June 29, 2011 I say fuck what her friends think first off. If you were to start dropping off diapers, similac, maybe some clothes for your kid perhaps an envelope with some little bit of money with it... Eventually her parents will get sick of supporting it because that shits not cheap and if they see you making a good faith effort they will probably talk sense to their daughter. Shes gonna do what ever they tell her as I would expect they are supporting her financially as well. That will probably get you that official CS friend of the court with visitation rights. My guess. but like gasface says. Condoms... and not the one thats been sitting in your wallet getting sat on for 2 months that you forgot about either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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