reasonably serious topic

[abcs]

getting old. Not talking your in your 30s and feeling old.

The scoop is my grandpops in his 80s. Widower. Worked his

whole life. Saved every penny top tip. All he has going on

is calling people on the phone and going to church. When i

talk to him he tells me how lonely and bored he is but I

can never think of anything to suggest he do. As fucked up

as it sounds after i talk to him all i can think to do is

smoke another cigarette to speed up my own process and thats

the truth.

I been giving it a bit of thought lately. Dude cant really

drive anymore. All i can think to do it take him to a baseball

game and have him over every so often. Tell him to walk

up to the library and find a book to read. Thinking

he should buy a car and fix it up Like some classic type

shit. Give him something to get out of bed to do atleast.

Its kinda bumming me out. Anybody got any suggestions?

 

Other aspect that kinda fucks me up. I myself am single

The idea of getting married and having a family has never

appealed to me. Problem is to do so is like an insurance policy.

To ensure you aren't lonely when you get old i guess. Shit

i don't like to think about but at the same time its shit

i need to consider. Maybe if i make it to be too old i will

just abuse hard drugs. Sucks when after considering all

the options that finds its way to the top of the list.... or

atleast close to it.

[R@ndomH3ro]

Hang out with him more.

 

I bet he has a lot of great stories. Hang out, play cards, take gramps to the games and parks.

[mudpuddles]

do you play chess? old people just like to talk i've found in my new job at a medical clinic. they don't seem to care what about.... usually the octogenarians i meet just want to chat you up.

 

as for the family business. it's not for everyone but it sure as hell aint an insurance plan.... this shit takes work.

[armand hammer]

spend every minute with the old geezer it may seem like tedious shit but you wont be hating yourself once he passes.

[fat ralphy]

my grandma just died a few months ago...best thing you can do is continue doing what you are doing. Spend some time....

 

Older people like to talk about the past a lot, if I could go back I would have recorded some of the conversation we had about family history....all the change over the decades etc.

 

Just keep hanging out...

 

if not that then....prostitute?

 

I kid.....

[abcs]

I like when hes around and he likes to be around.

At 1 point i even offered to move in and keep him company.

Ya kno. Take care of household work and shit like that but

he didn't want to have me. He got a nice house and all but

hes alone all day every day and i feel sorry for him.. I always

spent alot of time with him when my grandma was still alive

but my license is fucked up so i cant see him without transportation

help. I think he should move to a nursing home. Not on the whole

lets get rid of grandpa top tip. Not for selfish reasons. I think

he needs to be around people his age but i dont think he

would go for it. I mean. I cook for him all the time. Freeze

up like 10 tupperware meals at a time. Every other week.

Shit like that but i cant really hang out hang out with him. Its

hard for me to do.. Its hard to talk to him for me. First off

its hard for me to talk about my grandma. I miss her alot.

I think he has alot of regret from the war. He was a Ranger.

Thats a topic he doesn't talk about. Chess is a good idea.

Not serious here but i almost feel like he needs to develop

a shoplifting hobby, or something. Hook him up with some

krink

[Aikr]

Yeah it took me a while before I started talking to my grandpa about the old days and hanging out with him playing cards and doing small things

But it's cool in reality dude had a lot of great stories to be told and I didn't feel so bad after he died

There's really not much you can do but be active in his life and show him you care

That's really what theyw ant overall

When you get to that age alot of it is deep reflection and thinking on lifes lessons

But there's no point to any of that if they have noone to talk to

[shameless self promotion]

My grandmother is 91 and lives alone. Shes a trooper. She hates talking on the phone and will literally hang up on you whenever she feels like it. I drop by and shes either watching golf or college football. Even if its replays. She loves it.

She probably is still the biggest tiger woods fan out there. lol.

 

As for your grandpops, i got no ideas. Old people do whatever they want. Regardless if you try to help em.

[fat ralphy]

Not on the whole

lets get rid of grandpa top tip. Not for selfish reasons. I think

he needs to be around people his age but i dont think he

would go for it.

 

 

This isnt epic thread here but i appreciate the ideas

 

my grandma lived alone until she was 88 or 89...and thats fine and all, but she still tried to do all the household stuff....ended up getting hurt a few times.

 

we got her to move into a nursing home, and at first she didnt like it, but she ended up loving it. A lot of those places have activities throughout the day, older people are quick to make friends most of the time, and the family can always visit. It was one of the best things we could have done for her.

 

To pay for it, we rented out the house she was living in before moving in.

 

you're a good guy to think of your gramps bro....props

[abcs]

props will be spread. Im 24d but i appreciate those of

you that have responded. Its a difficult situation. I suppose

im not the only one with shit like this going on.

 

The more i think about it weed seems like a real good

solution. I dont kno if or how i would break the ice on that one.

But seriously. Get the old man a med pot card. Sit him down

in front of some cartoons get him laughing. Set him up a sick

grow room. Between growing the shit and smoking the shit

thats a pretty acceptable outlet.

[mudpuddles]

that does suck he doesn't want you to stay around there and help. ralphy is right about them ending up getting hurt. they don't want help, i guess too proud or just don't realize what time does to your body.

[rushawn wuan]

go to the shooting range with him, thats one of the ways pops and i bond easy with.

[Getoe]

Spend time. My grandma lived alone right down the street from me when she died. All I had to do was visit her. I never did. My dad had to break down the door to find her lying next to the coffee table. And it kills me when I wonder how long it took, and was it painful? I know I'm not perfect and you can't blame a dumb kid who's busy trying to fit in. But at least I coulda stopped by. Maybe I would of been there and could of called the paramedics. Punk ass kid.

[Weapon X]

WHEN YOU'RE OLD AND ALONE AND YOUR LOOKS AND CHARM HAVE FADED, ONLY YOUR MONEY WILL LOVE YOU BACK.

[mr.feeny]

these are the LittLe things that make me think about caLLn it quits at 25

[publicenemyno.3]

it might be fucked up to say, but introduce him to drugs. he's earned the privilege to do whatever he wants and if he wants to get stoned or whatever, indulge him. i know when i get old, i wanna get high as a motherfucker on all of the drugs that i was too chickenshit for whatever reason to try as an adolescent. maybe get him a prostitute.

 

seriously though, just hang out with him. you'll learn more than your could ever imagine about your family and yourself.

[gasfacevictm]

Not serious here but i almost feel like he needs to develop

a shoplifting hobby, or something. Hook him up with some

krink

 

Dude, he might like writing his name on shit. You never know. Or he might think it's an awful thing to do to people's property. It's a coin flip.

 

The more i think about it weed seems like a real good

solution. I dont kno if or how i would break the ice on that one.

But seriously. Get the old man a med pot card. Sit him down

in front of some cartoons get him laughing. Set him up a sick

grow room. Between growing the shit and smoking the shit

thats a pretty acceptable outlet.

 

I got my mom to smoke with mr by telling her it was good for her aches and pains.

You know your grandpa has to have some aches.

[volcom8811]

crinkle clothes and no more hoes

[mudpuddles]

i wish i lived closer to my gma. she's the only one i got left and she's getting all fucked up. can't go up stairs and shit. she keeps buying flip flops just to realize she can't keep them on her feet when she walks anymore and she just ends up mailing them to me via my mom (which she then keeps.) i wish i could get that woman to talk about her past..... she had two kids by two different dudes by the age of 18 out of wedlock in the 50's. she acts like it never happened. even though the offspring are well and in her life. well one of them, the other one is crazy and all but disowned by all family. that's pretty slutty for the times.

 

 

if your grandpa is anything like my grandma i would suggest watching a steven segal or jean-claude van dam marathon with him. but i doubt that's the case.

[hahaha760]

spill a few pints with him and watch gran torino

[Mercer]

Take him to do something you know he never did before and make it fun.

We took my grandma out on a boat (she never did that shit before or even left 30 miles from where she was born probably)

That shit had to add at least a good year to her life.

 

Old people are on to something, they know being around good people having fun is what counts just like kids do.

Shit gets boring after 80 fucking years, need new shit to help re-stoke the brain, make new neuro connections.

Guaranteed, instead of a ball game, take him to see some girls wrestle in KY jelly and he'll be good for a month.

Old people need to wrap their minds around some new shit, being around their closest peeps makes it tolerable enough to enjoy.

[50million]

he needs a hobby.

 

my grandpa is in the same boat. drinks too much and watches tv. yup. that was about it. then he cut back on the brandy and started volunteering at the senior center. now he goes to other senior's houses and fixes their ceiling fans, computers, etc....etc...

 

since your grandpa cant drive, is there anything around his house?

[gasfacevictm]

if your grandpa is anything like my grandma i would suggest watching a steven segal or jean-claude van dam marathon with him. but i doubt that's the case.

 

My grandma loved Death Wish movies for some reason.

[Gat Bush]

Like someone else said, have him get a grow room.

 

Gramps learns a new skill (ie teh w33d gr0wz)

 

And you sell a da pot, mon.

[abcs]

yea fiddy. I kno he does. The other problem for the guy. Hes alone all the time, not as sharp as he used to be but not senile by any means but he will say some shit like. "people are breaking in and living in my attic" "i smelled the dope and beer" Constantly losing shit. He doesnt like my uncle so unk is the constant suspect whenever something goes missing. It could be anything too. His belt. Vitamins, a hat. All the alone time and he cooks up some crazy shit in his mind. There have been times when i feel like giving him distance so i dont become the "guy" thats breaking in and taking his things.

 

Im trying to figure out new hobbies and activities because he really doesn't have any.

I cant accept that because i know people need purpose and reasons to keep on well... living and

being happy

 

1 thing i did do a few days back was register for a class at the college near his house

1 day a week. Unless hes entirely against it im gonna try and stay the night. Cook him up

some dinner and lunch. Make sure if there are any chores i handle them. Make sure

theres food in the freezer. Try and bring something for him to get into. Still brainstorming on

what that will be but im trying

[CityonSMASH]

best go see that man, or youll be living in a world of regret once he passes son. unfortunatly i do not do, as i preach. maybe this thread will cannon ball a phone call to my grandpops. love that guy. never see him, and the dude is within a ten minute drive. sick. i hate my forgetfullness sometimes as it comes across rude. but i just dont remember things very well. until sometimes its to late.

 

tigers games are cheap. take him.

[Mercer]

A nasty crack habit will liven up things for the old bloody wankahhh.

[Spring Break '92]

My grandpa was talking about Tiger Woods and said, 'fuck it, he got some pussy, so what?'

[En Sabah Nur]

my grandma died recently, the only one i was actually interested in talking to.

 

i never spent enough time w/ her because my parents are divorced and my dad is HORRIBLE at keeping me in touch with his side of the family even though i like them way better than my mom's side (who i've had too much compulsory time with); i like them way more than i like him, even.

 

other problem is... the older she got, the faster her english disappeared, and my samoan is elementary.

 

i got back from a 2 month trip to american samoa in december. i'd taken a picture with her younger sister there. i had it framed and was going to give it to her. i was back a month and a half and never got around to it, and my dad failed to mention she'd been hospitalized for seizures twice in that time until the point she was no longer waking up. i tried taking the picture in the last 2 or 3 days of her life, but i don't think she woke up to see it.

 

#183753 on my list of life failures.

[MedicineCabinet]

mortality sucks, teach him to scribble or find him a lady friend

 

ask him what he likes/liked as a hobby, give suggestions, & build on that