YouMad.GIF Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 I don't have a choice about leaving my son with her, I would pretty much have to roll up with a DT while she was smoking crack and resting the pipe on his forehead to get custody of a 4 month old away from the mother Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouMad.GIF Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 kim jung is white. he actually has a chance to reason with the law before they stab/taze/shoot him Holding a smiling baby when they come in isn't a bad look either ;) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 You may not have the option of gaining custody of an infant. You may also have more options and choices available than you allow yourself to see because of your bond with your child and perhaps your relationship with his mother. Start a journal and keep a record of your day to day life highlighting fucked up behavior on her part and your role in parenting. This is a tough situation, I may be making assumptions about your life based on my own experience. From when my kid was born onward I did more of the day to day care than the mother. Years down the road presenting this before the court was odd because it is not common and although times are changing it takes a long time for the court to catch up. You do not need to be together with the mother in order to be a good father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouMad.GIF Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 I'm actuay the "stay at home parent" because I got laid off before Christmas and have been just freelancing out the house and picking up gigs here and there for money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seagullboy Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Never call the police... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ANGELDUST Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouMad.GIF Posted August 9, 2009 Author Share Posted August 9, 2009 ^ that's really true hope I learned my lesson Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DRUNKEN-ASSHOLE-ONER Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 WE?!? You tryin to say you're a cop? BUSTED!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DRUNKEN-ASSHOLE-ONER Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 my friend and i established this fact a few years ago: as a man in a relationship (or single), you are never going to be right and you will never win an argument. Speak for yourself, homie. Some of us still wear the pants. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CityonSMASH... Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 Iv been in a situation with a chick that called the cops on me for next to nothing and claimed it was a big something. I never hung out with her again. Once they pull a stunt like that, it will happen again. And the more it happens, eventually you will get the raw deal. Alotta fucked up shit happens to chciks and its easy for them to feel scared/intimadted but if they aren't able to draw a line between fact and fiction. Words and actions, there to damaged and there aint no turnin back. Run DON'T walk. Although, there is a child involved which clearly makes it easier said than done. Unfportunate situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the graff giraffe Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 she sounds like a real nigger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pistol Posted August 9, 2009 Share Posted August 9, 2009 All could have been avoided by a late trimester falcon punch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spring Break '92 Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I would just go ahead and leave her and of course, stay in your son's life. It doesn't sound like its ever going to work itself out. Happiness comes from within, and she doesn't seem to have that in her from what you've told us. She sounds insecure as fuck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nice Pants Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 my friend and i established this fact a few years ago: as a man in a relationship (or single), you are never going to be right and you will never win an argument. AMEN! Even if you legitimately win 100% they get mad at you for making them feel like a loser. So even if you win, you dont win. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geezpot Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 As soon as she snitched you out, the relationship was over. A strong relationship is about being in a team, there is a certain level of trust and commitment. She opted to call the cops and potentially get you arrested, that isn't "love", that's being a vindictive bitch. I realize you have a child to be concerned about but your current relationship environment is not a place to raise children-snitching out family members for absolutely nothing is not being a role model. She's teaching your kid bad habits. Possibly she is dealing with some postpartum depression and her hormones are not balanced, suggest she seek out medical help that isn't going to prescribe her anything. She needs a support system and you need to ask your mom if you can move home until she stabilizes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gnarwalker Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 It is a difficult situation and there are many pitfalls along the way. She will learn to change up to fuck with you harder. Try to think clearly and with a long term vision, do not get sucked in or blinded by her theatrics. In my situation one of the main mistakes I made was equating taking care of an abusive and mentally ill woman as part of what I needed to do to take care of my child. If you fall into that trap you will be giving care and energy to her and taking it away from your child the whole time thinking that you are taking care of your child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DRUNKEN-ASSHOLE-ONER Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 As soon as she snitched you out, the relationship was over. She opted to call the cops and potentially get you arrested, that isn't "love", that's being a vindictive bitch. ^Real talk. Case closed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheoHuxtable.. Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Women are evil. This has been proven time & time again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThuggedOutGypsyz Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 ^^^^^ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swindle Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 AnD when I told the cops I didn't want him to leave, she tried to snitch me out like "he sits around smoking pot all day" I was quick to reply with "you eat percocets behind my back all day" her jaw almost hit the floor sounds like marriage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
armand hammer Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 tell her calmly to back off and chill. then give her the thousand yard stare. should freak her enough. dont freak out just act calm and shit she might even get scared and think you could slit her throat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IHATEU Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 we[/size] show up. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1deWMfRy7U&feature=related Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the radiologist Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 In fact my reluctance to trust law enforcement led me to never call those cocksuckers when my babymama went ape on me. I do regret that in retrospect. I wouldn't call my friends to help me out when my girl's actin' up. I hear ya. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SwampFightOner Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 My Dad told me when I was younger that NO MATTER WHAT if a woman calls the cops on you you walk away, because your relationship will never be the same again Good advice to live by Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouMad.GIF Posted August 10, 2009 Author Share Posted August 10, 2009 Yeah I think me and my family have come to the conclusion I'll be staying with them and doing things by the book, pressing the assault charge, and pretty much doing this to whatever extent we have to. Sucks because her actions completely failed to take into account what is best for my son, which is just dealing with this between the 2 of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
injury Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 someone has to go to jail if we show up[/size]. Usually the dad will be the one often agreeing to it out of misplaced loyalty. this needs examination Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 I forgot to use quotation marks. My friends alcoholic brother has an interesting take on calling the cops and domestic violence. His take on it is "whoever calls the cops first wins". I am familiar with the desire to work things out in agreement with a crazy babymama but, I think it is easier said than done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earl broclo ESQ Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 Yeah I think me and my family have come to the conclusion I'll be staying with them and doing things by the book, pressing the assault charge, and pretty much doing this to whatever extent we have to. This is probably the best thing to do. If this is a regular occurrence with her, you should get the fuck out now. It sounds like you care about your son, which is a good thing. If she is unstable around the kid, you can hold that against her with proof. If you can straighten out, keep your shit clean, and build a case against her in family court? You'll eventually get custody, it might take a while, but you can if you prove the child is better off in your care. One of my closest friends just got custody of his 12 year old a year ago. It took him about 5 years of collecting dirt on his ex, but now he's at the point where his lawyer is saying "how bad do you want to take her to the cleaners?" Luckily enough for her, he just wants the best for his daughter, and what is rightfully his in the court documents. Good luck man, you've got a crazy path ahead of you if you go to court. Start saving now! But even better yet, start saving documents and evidence of this broad's insanity. If she sends you threatening emails or uses your son to guilt trip you, save them. If you can save voice messages, do so. Everything should be saved because it could help out further down the road in your life. Good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
earl broclo ESQ Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 One more thing, try your hardest NOT to shit talk her to your kid. It's not good for the kid anyways, but it can also come back to bite you in the ass. I know it's tough for someone not do that, but even saying something like "Your mother is a psychotic bitch!" (when tempers flare) then trying to do damage control after --could come back and bite you in the ass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MitchThe$nitch Posted August 10, 2009 Share Posted August 10, 2009 i didn't read the whole thing, but you two needs to break the fuck up. shes mad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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