MaxRoach Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 yeah so, i'm sure this spark some debate on pro-choice vs pro-life but whatever. my girly is pregnant and is going to get the abortion pill. As much as we would love to have a kid together, we simply cannot afford it. neither of us has medical insurance let alone the kind of job security/income/housing situation i'd want for us to be comfortable in raising a child. she understands this, and is alright with going through with getting the abortion pill because of our financial situation, etc etc. but she's still really down abut it. she said she's not scared about going to planned parenthood or anything, she's just sad that we aren't in the right place to have a child. any amazing wonderful ideas to comfort her? i've been doing some things already trying to be more considerate with dinner and shit around the house but any other suggestions? /walloftext 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XJONATHONX Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/16_and_pregnant/series.jhtml Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
R@ndomH3ro Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 any ideas to comfort her? Yes, at least we are not going to raise a kid in a life of poverty. get your life right, use condoms, wait till your stable to have kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxRoach Posted July 15, 2009 Author Share Posted July 15, 2009 mid-twenties, not teenager. edit to jonathan. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the radiologist Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 you gotta always remember tho that 75% of young couples that went through shit like this and had a baby wasnt ready. or not very many people nowadays is never really financially stable nowadays. if you deal with it as it comes shit like this always does work out in the end then you cant imagine yourselves without that kid. same shit happened to me. got 2 kids and wasnt financially ready for either. shit just works out. so if you kinda thinkin you want to keep the kid, trust me that it will work out if you ready to give it all you got. and youd be suprised and shit of how many muthafuckas come out the woodwork givin you all the baby shit you thinking youd have to spend bucks on. and hospitals aint gonna deny deliverin your kid. pay them a buck a month and after a while you aint legally binded to that bill after some years and it wont fuck your credit up. obviously you see im pro life and shit. but aint tryin to say thats for you. good luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IOU Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Just be there for her is all you can do really. That type of thing is something real hard for a guy to help a woman out with. Just be there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thequeen Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 i took this pill. what more expensive............. a lifetime of baby and shit? or 325$ to get the pill. if you can afford it borrow money and pay it back. you dont need insurance to get this pill or any abortion. go to your nearest planned parenthood or health clinic. this method is the best and cheapest. sooner she has this done cheaper it is. don't wait! message me if you want more info. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinky the kid Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 expect her to get depressed about the decision after you give her the pill. just make sure youre there for her. tell her that its for the best. make sure she gets lots of attention from you too. women is fickle creatures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Go to planned parenthood and get it over with. Have explain to the doctor that she is upset and nervous and they will write a script for some zanax or valium to help with that. Go back to planned parenthood later and work with them to come up with a birth control plan that works for you as a couple and her as a woman. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eatso Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 movies comfort food it's not the worst thing but it sure as shit ain't easy like some people said you gotta be there. good luck to you and yours man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushawn wuan Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 get off your ass and look for a better job? you have about 9 months before the baby is born right? so you have time to get a hustle on the side or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drue_Down Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 get your life right, use condoms Stop failing at safe sex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HATER. Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 don't kill it.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 50million Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 condoms are for sailors. get a basal thermometer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Dude did not ask for any opinions. He asked for advice on how to deal, leave it at that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KEFA Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 safe sex isnt hard. just pull out if your raw dogging it..them ladies love watching it shoot out.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YouMad.GIF Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 kick her down a stairwell Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ERIZENO Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 Just keep going doing the best you can for her. Nothing makes this kind of decision any easier to deal with, NOTHING !!! Maybe time passing ... This shit may sit on your mind for a while too. I know I play the "what if" thought once in a while about the time an ex and I went this route. Even when I knew that is what we agreed upon before we fucked up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seffiks Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 but no really, keep the kid, it all works out, in some weird way, also jobs take pity on you when you have a kid, and you get a bunch of financial stuff from the government, makes life even easier Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a/s/l? Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 DOn't bring that kid into a shitty enviroment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
compton red Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 any idea how far her pregnancy is? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
veintiocho Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 expect her to get depressed about the decision after you give her the pill. just make sure youre there for her. tell her that its for the best. make sure she gets lots of attention from you too. women is fickle creatures. this. and when the pill kicks in and she miscarries, it's going to be pretty painful. the doc also might tell her not to have sex for a few weeks, if i remember correctly. aaaand she'll be extra fertile for a few months afterwards b/c her body will realize the pregnancy is no more, so be extra careful for a while. at least this is what i was told when i went through this with an ex. if she's really down about it, encourage her to talk to a therapist or something, if you all can afford it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxRoach Posted July 15, 2009 Author Share Posted July 15, 2009 DOn't bring that kid into a shitty enviroment. obviously, which is why we are doing the responsible thing. to the condom comments: we've been together for over 3 years, we practice safe sex religiously. obviously, something didn't go right this time. she has never been pregnant, I've never gotten anyone from other relationships pregnant, and we've never even had a scare. to those who gave honest answers regardless of point of view on prochoice/prolife, thanks. props were given. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaxRoach Posted July 15, 2009 Author Share Posted July 15, 2009 this. and when the pill kicks in and she miscarries, it's going to be pretty painful. the doc also might tell her not to have sex for a few weeks, if i remember correctly. aaaand she'll be extra fertile for a few months afterwards b/c her body will realize the pregnancy is no more, so be extra careful for a while. at least this is what i was told when i went through this with an ex. if she's really down about it, encourage her to talk to a therapist or something, if you all can afford it. yeah i did read something along those lines, thanks for the info. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LUGR Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 this. and when the pill kicks in and she miscarries, it's going to be pretty painful. Real talk... When she is in pain be there with her. Give her a back rub, massage her feet make her feel loved. Maybe even consider the surgical method to avoid the pain and bleeding? Good luck with everything...it's stressfull. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyler Durden Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 yeah so, i'm sure this spark some debate on pro-choice vs pro-life but whatever. my girly is pregnant and is going to get the abortion pill. As much as we would love to have a kid together, we simply cannot afford it. neither of us has medical insurance let alone the kind of job security/income/housing situation i'd want for us to be comfortable in raising a child. she understands this, and is alright with going through with getting the abortion pill because of our financial situation, etc etc. but she's still really down abut it. she said she's not scared about going to planned parenthood or anything, she's just sad that we aren't in the right place to have a child. any amazing wonderful ideas to comfort her? i've been doing some things already trying to be more considerate with dinner and shit around the house but any other suggestions? /walloftext been there.... just be there to support her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_gooch Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 if you must insist on hitting it raw: nonoxynol-9. and pull out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dowmagik Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 do you have any homies with kids? kick them some beers to bring their kids over and have them act like total shitheads. once she sees what bullshit she would have to deal with, she'll be glad she killed the baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SukiSukiNow Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 make sure you are there when it all happens and comfort her. some guys just bail or never even offer support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morton Posted July 15, 2009 Share Posted July 15, 2009 The only time I fucked around with the contraceptive jelly/film stuff it left my penis raw. I gots a vasectomy, problem solved. Off topic I know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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