stunt double Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 LiliStCynical is on point... as someone who has been prescribed anxiety & depression meds before, i wouldn't advise rushing out to get a prescription. do you have a really close friend that you feel comfortable talking to? maybe go see a psychologist, talk to them one on one... a good psychologist is really understanding and easy to talk to... i used to have serious anxiety problems, i was really self conscious of what others thought of me, so i would avoid socialising. then i kinda realised my pattern of behaviour, and figured "fuck it, people are gonna judge me, and i can't change that no matter how i behave..." if someone is gonna judge me without really getting to know me, they aren't the sort of person i want to know anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THANKYOU Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 dude i got the same problem... i think mine stems from this big situation i was in back in the days, where i lost some really good friends to some he say she say bullshit, and just kinda fucked up my reality on how i view people / friendship etc. during that time i got really depressed, kept to myself, and basically developed the ability to just be ok being by myself, and not worrying about anyone else or worrying about hanging with anyone else, even though id like to hang with other people, im fine being alone to... which before that falling out with some of those good friends of mine, i was the life of the party, everyone wanted me around, i couldnt stand being bored by myself or lonely... so i got real good at just being by myself, for instance the movies, i would never go to the movies or out to eat and sit by myself, id always want a friend around, now i dont give a fuck, ill do pretty much anything alone, except go downtown to bars / clubs.... lately my biggest problem is getting into circles, my friends kinda suck, and so making new friends or getting into new circles, is hard as fuck.... there's that fakeness to it that i cant seem to let go, like you know how you go out with some people from work, and nobodies really being themselves because you dont know them and they dont know you... and its all fakeness and being nice and trying not to offend people type shit... i fucking hate that, and after being in that type of situation for a certain amount of time, i wanna bounce and just be on my own as well...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ViolentByDesign Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Weed fucked me up like this dude. If you smoke weed stop. Like I smoked a lot the past few days, went to my orientation for work tonight and felt totally fucking nervous and awkward. I was mad that it happened too because there was this fly ass fucking bitch in there with me and I would of liked to small talk her. It's hard right now because I'm broke so I either have to sit inside or chill with my friends who all smoke weed. Once I get the loot coming in I can just go play poker or go places instead of sitting around puffing ganja. Through trial and error I have noticed that although I am slightly anxious sometimes, it doesn't really fuck with me when I'm not puffing weed. Regularly I can be a little apprehensive but in that state I start shaking and feel dizzy and can't talk to people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
THANKYOU Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 drinking has helped me out a lot to, i can drink and go anywhere. got that i dont give a fuck in me when im on it. and i tend not to worry about getting in a fight, or finding trouble, or worrying about who i might run into etc etc.... so drinking helps some. also, just get out there, im in the same boat, and i to feel like i have to just keep forcing myself to try and face the fear head on... for instance: at work we had a team outing, where work pays for your dinner, and they were going to this cajun style restraunt that was like real high class, etc etc... well i almost didnt go because i had never been there before, i didnt know if id like the food (im a very picky eater which, in front of new people, can be embarrassing, because it makes me feel like im not normal or im a pest to the others who eat whatever or whatever...) and i didnt know the atmosphere in the place etc etc... well i sucked it up, and forced myself to go, and i had a blast. real chill spot, dimmed lighting, nice relaxing music, and ate a 5 course meal, with a $30 dollar steak, which was excellent, got to know some people i work with more intimately, and had a really good time, and the meal was free.... but what i learned was to just fucking go, check the shit out, and if worse comes to worse, you can always bounce... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AyeBee Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 I don't have any socail anxiety, I'm actually real outgoing, but I pretty much hafta be drunk to enjoy a party or whatever because I fuckin hate people I don't know bumping into me, and hovering over me My suggestion is to get drunk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ViolentByDesign Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Yeah if your feeling weird at a party your not drunk enough. Everyone who's a friend of a friend or whatever that comes to parties fucking loves me. I get drunk as fuck, probably consume some other shit too, and wild the fuck out all night. I'm that crazy ass funny dude to everyone who doesn't know me on a sober basis. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skilla54 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 basically practice makes perfect you have to start some where, holler at chicks its fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lessthanzero. Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 i've got something similar, but it really only hits me with any kind of public speaking situation. i absolutely loath that shit. i get all shakey and my heart starts pounding. then after the fact i get mad at myself because i realize i don't give a fuck about some bullshit audience. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fermentor666 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Drugs are the answer to all your problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holy roller. Posted May 3, 2007 Author Share Posted May 3, 2007 dude i got the same problem... i think mine stems from this big situation i was in back in the days, where i lost some really good friends to some he say she say bullshit, and just kinda fucked up my reality on how i view people / friendship etc. during that time i got really depressed, kept to myself, and basically developed the ability to just be ok being by myself, and not worrying about anyone else or worrying about hanging with anyone else, even though id like to hang with other people, im fine being alone to... which before that falling out with some of those good friends of mine, i was the life of the party, everyone wanted me around, i couldnt stand being bored by myself or lonely... so i got real good at just being by myself, for instance the movies, i would never go to the movies or out to eat and sit by myself, id always want a friend around, now i dont give a fuck, ill do pretty much anything alone, except go downtown to bars / clubs.... . Yeah mine is kind of similar, I was always alone when I was a little kid and I have adapted to it. It has caused me to use my imagination a great deal of the time. But now I feel trapped inside of it. And I don’t smoke weed, or use any more, and I think that has had little or no affect on the situation. I feel like it has been getting worse, and the friends that I do have, get irritated because I wont go out and congregate with others, or over to other people's houses with them. I don’t go by the popular spots where my friends hang out, because I don’t want to run into one of them. Lately I have been hiking up this hill and reading out loud to myself, and it feels pretty good. But I’m still by myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saul Rosenberg Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 STOP GIVING A FUCK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*PROTOCOL* Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 I had this problem untill I quit smoking weed. That shit sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tutleone Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Yeah mine is kind of similar, I was always alone when I was a little kid and I have adapted to it. ..........this is the same as how i had it growing up... isolated, but i got over it It has caused me to use my imagination a great deal of the time. But now I feel trapped inside of it. THIS IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL. weird. edit** i suck at quoting Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skilla54 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 na i dunno im more anti social because i havent been smoking weed. this could be because 90% of my friends smoke weed or because ive been working my ass off in school, or because i dont have a car. everything is mental. its not like something physical is holding you back (unless you have some chemical unbalance, but that shits normal, there werent no anti depressents years ago or shit) i dont know i used to consider myself some what shy, and i guess i still am, but basically i just dont give a fuck anymore and thats the kind of attitude you need. fuck other people. if they dont like you fuck them, anxiety is worrying about shit that hasnt happened, stop worrying about it and do something about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shitting Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 get a job dealing with people... like customer service or sales or some shit.... This is good advice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fermentor666 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Weed almost always makes me really anxious these days. Even if I smoke by myself I get uncomfortable unless I'm doing something productive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PERMAFRIED_ Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 Weed almost always makes me really anxious these days. Even if I smoke by myself I get uncomfortable unless I'm doing something productive. ditto. when i'm alone, high and idle, all i do is ponder in depth what a huge waste of time weed is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OSA Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 just live ya life....you'll have lots of regrets...if you are like that...i know from my experience... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fonerism Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 sometimes its not as easy as "just living your life". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cool Water Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 my best friend has become weed dependant. i smoke with him but like ive cut down to weekends only. I was smoking too much and was getting turbo paranoid. I once sat infront of a fire with my eyes closed the entire night because i was that scared a bit would pop out and blind me for life. . . Im worried about him though cos all he does is smoke and smoke and smoke. He cant do anything unless hes stoned. i dont know how to help him either. :S Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tutleone Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 but this aint about weed. all i can say is, use the L.O.A. to change how you think, write down how you want to be and read them shits out loud, and imagine your self being that person you want to be, i mean really relish in the good feelings, and then let the universe adapt to your thoughts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DEE38 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 my husband is kinda the same way..... it's like an on and off thing though. and i get crowd anxiety. like at concerts... i get angry at people touching/rubbing up next to me (/no homo). i just like my space. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cool Water Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 i know it wasnt about weed i was making a comment to what someone else had put. whats the LOA? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mauler5150 Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 There is some good advice in this thread, but really the answer is to be comfortable with your own company first, otherwise nobody is going to be comfortable with you as company. Don't go the meds route unless it is a last resort. I am prescribed some anti anxiety pills at present but haven't picked them up, as I fear they will mellow me out too much. After my aunty had a heart attack today, maybe I should go and get these pills, as I'm sure anxiety must raise your blood pressure, which makes me a candidate for a heart attack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tabloid- Posted May 3, 2007 Share Posted May 3, 2007 I’m a very socially awkward dude, and especially when it comes to meeting new people. I even get this anxiety when I’m around people that I know pretty well, and it's mentally paralyzing, causing me to leave the group of people I’m with or even avoid meeting up with them in the first place. Sometimes when I’m at parties and shit, I get so nervous that I leave without telling anyone and go do my own thing. I’ve become pretty good at avoiding situations that induce these feelings, but that doesn't make the problem go away. The problem is that I want to meet knew people and feel comfortable in the group. I’m tired of being the introvert and I want to talk to people but I just get so nervous. This shit even happens at my family gatherings. I want to get better at casually conversing with others without felling like an idiot. My mind just goes blank when I’m talking to someone, it's like I can only think straight when I’m by myself. I feel like I need to be forced to experience these situations until I learn how to function, or get some kind of prescription for anti-anxiety, I don’t know but it drives me crazy! Any advice? join a gym, or start running. When your endorphins start pumping you'll feel a lot better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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