ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 so i dunno if any of you remember my thread about marriage or thinking about it a while ago..... but anyways... it's done..got my final and absolute divorce this week..... and i'm so glad.... the process sucked, obviously,.... but it's good to be done. it's amazing how bad the wrong person in your life can make it.. well i was wondering if any of you have gone through it.... any great stories horror.. etc.... but ya'll are probably too young or what not.. anyways here's some fine stats on divorce: http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsUS.shtml (2002 except where noted) Total divorces granted in 1997: 1,163,000 Rate per 1,000 population (1999): (excluding CA, CO, IN and LA) 4.1 State with the lowest divorce rate: (1997) Massachusetts. Rate per 1,000 population: 2.4 State with the higest divorce rate: Nevada. Rate per 1,000 population: (1997) 9.0 Percentage of population that is married: 59% (down from 62% in 1990, 72% in 1970) Percentage of population that has never married: 24% Percentage of population that is divorced: 10% (up from 8% in 1990, 6% in 1980) Percentage of population that is widowed: 7% Median age at first marriage: Males: 26.9 Females: 25.3 Median age at first divorce: Males: 30.5 Females: 29 Median age at second marriage: Males: 34 Females: 32 Median age at second divorce: Males: 39.3 Females: 37 Median duration of first marriages that end in divorce: Males: 7.8 years Females: 7.9 years Median duration of second marriages that end in divorce: Males: 7.3 years Females: 6.8 years Median number of years people wait to remarry after their first divorce: Males: 3.3 years Females: 3.1 years Percentage of married people who reach their 5th, 10th, and 15th anniversaries: 5th: 82% 10th: 65% 15th: 52% Percentage of married people who reach their 25th, 35th, and 50th anniversaries: 25th: 33% 35th: 20% 50th: 5% Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 25: Males: 32% Females: 50% Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 35: Males: 77% Females: 84% Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 45: Males: 87% Females: 90% Percentage of people who have ever been married by the age of 55: Both males and females: 95% Likelihood of new marriages ending in divorce in 1997: 43% Percentage of all householders who are unmarried in 2000: 48% Percentage of weddings which are remarriages for at least one partner in 1997: 43% Percentage of first marriages that end in divorce in 1997: 50% Percentage of remarriages that end in divorce in 1997: 60% Percentage of divorced women who remarry within five years as of 1995: 54% Estimated average length of divorce proceedings in 1997: 1 year Percentage of African American adults in this age group never married in 1998: 53% Percentage of households occupied by one person in 2000: 25.5% Percentage of population (by area of US) who had never married in 1999: Midwest: 28% Northeast: 28% South: 26% West: 29% a brief article (not necessarily my views) What is the current divorce rate in the United States? Has the divorce rate changed much over the past 5 to 10 years? The divorce rate in the United States has generally been going up throughout the 20th century until its peak in the late 1970s. The rate of divorce has been slowly declining since that peak. In the most recent data, there were about 20 divorces for every 1,000 women over the age of 15. This number is down from about 23 divorces per 1,000 women in 1978, but it is still significantly greater than the rate of divorce during the 1950s. At that time, the rate of divorce was about 5 per 1,000 women. The divorce rate has been climbing in every industrialized country in the world. There are two significant factors affecting the rising divorce rate in the United States and elsewhere: (1) men and women are less in need of each other for economic survival, and (2) gains made in birth control allow men and women to separate sexual activity from having children. A variety of factors are producing the current leveling off of the divorce rate. We may be at the end of the effects produced by the emergence of reliable birth control in the 1960s, but there are also other factors. Our population is aging, and in general longer marriages are more likely to remain intact. Also, more young people are cohabiting rather than getting married. The breakup of this kind of relationship does not get recorded as a divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackson Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 Why did you get married in the first place? How long did it last? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alure Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 fuck i didnt even realize you had gotten married.. congrats on the finalization on the divorce. hows the puppy and the bike? ;] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinchedwaist7 Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 i don't think i'm ever getting married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinchedwaist7 Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 and congratulations. it has to be such a relief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 i was married for about 2 yrs.... i married for love... but him i think for his papers.... enh... so glad it's over... on to bigger and better things and the dog and the bike??? my life (besides school) they helped me keep it together... alure you're not local anymore hhuh.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abracadabra Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 congrats ube. i've already told ya i've been there once myself. the main problem with getting mine done was initially my ex-wife was supposed to be paying for it. the only problem with that was that once we went our seperate ways she went from being the most responsible and dependable person i knew to being comepletely hopeless. i have absolutely no idea how this happened, but it did.she ended up homeless for a period, stuck in the south of france. after that she hopped from job to job, and kept getting fired (which was really unlike her because she always excelled at work). i have a feeling that when she went back to france and was hanging around her friend sandrine again she ended up on drugs. i know sandrine had been through rehab a couple times for heroin, so i'm not sure if that was it. i'm pretty sure she was hitting pills and stuff too. long story short, i ended up footing the bill and having to do the court thing. it was a major pain in the ass being that she was so flakey, and also lived on the other side of the planet, so getting the paperwork together was a long and painfull process. so about 2 years after the fact it was finally handled, and i never have to worry about keeping track of her again. she can go off and od or whatever and follow both her parents to the grave doing the same shit they were doing. whatever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpyD Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 hey I need some papers. any chicks wanna marry me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jimmy Jump Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 what better way to say you're back on the market than crushing a wet t-shirt contest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alure Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 i was married for about 2 yrs.... i married for love... but him i think for his papers.... enh... so glad it's over... on to bigger and better things and the dog and the bike??? my life (besides school) they helped me keep it together... alure you're not local anymore hhuh.... im sorry to hear that. for the papers that is. what happens to him now? does he have to go back his country? does he get to keep his u.s. citizenship? im glad you're being optimisic about this whole thing, staying strong and keeping your head up. you're doing the right thing, concentrating on the good stuff. no im not local no more, i'm in canada Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rushawn wuan Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 he married for papers? he should of been upfront and cashed you out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freight sex predator Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 You know what? I'm 100% against marriage,and have been married for 7 years.divorce is expensive.ive learned its better to be a man-hore(for guys)and girls you dont need no man up under you messin stuff up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abracadabra Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 i was married for about 2 yrs.... i married for love... but him i think for his papers.... enh... so glad it's over... on to bigger and better things most of us have seen what you look like, i doubt anyone who married you would do it only for the papers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alure Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 most of us have seen what you look like, i doubt anyone who married you would do it only for the papers. right right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pfffffffffft Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 i like divorced women.. they are seasoned and vet like.. they cut the bullshit and tell you what they want Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 im sorry to hear that. for the papers that is. what happens to him now? does he have to go back his country? does he get to keep his u.s. citizenship? im glad you're being optimisic about this whole thing, staying strong and keeping your head up. you're doing the right thing, concentrating on the good stuff. no im not local no more, i'm in canada uh since our marriage didnt last the necessary amount of time, 2 yrs after he got his conditional green card, and he would've had to apply to have the conditions removed to get the 10yrs.. it gets revoked and he's gonna have to get a lawyer.... he drew out the divorce process as long as possible to try to get more married time so it would look good for the INS (or whatever they call it now) so yeah.. i'm done, and he's not gonna keep the card unless he gets on it.. and he's a lazy ass sooooooooo... maybe not... and abracadara.... yeah it's a great feeling to be done even if you go through some shit.... let her be on her own... DIVORCEE PARTY!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 most of us have seen what you look like, i doubt anyone who married you would do it only for the papers. well it could've been the sex or perhaps my hot hot sportbike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HydrogenPeroxide Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 with the ease of getting a divorce and the general disrespect for the institution of marriage these days makes me not want to even bother. It kind of ruins the whole thing for me. But if things go bad, they go bad. Congrats. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pfffffffffft Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 let me be the judge. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abracadabra Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 well it could've been the sex if he married you for anything less than love dude should get several punchings to the grill piece for being a feckin retard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohnoone Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 im getting married this year. why am i in this thread yo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 with the ease of getting a divorce and the general disrespect for the institution of marriage these days makes me not want to even bother. It kind of ruins the whole thing for me. But if things go bad, they go bad. Congrats. word.... i dont think i'll be getting married again...... perhaps cohabitation this whole thing ruined my outlook/perspective on marriage.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abracadabra Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 im getting married this year. why am i in this thread yo. a glimpse at the future, perharps? no, i kid. hopefully everything goes smoothley and the honeymoon is never over Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 if he married you for anything less than love dude should get several punchings to the grill piece for being a feckin retard thanks.... warm fuzzy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pfffffffffft Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 im getting married this year. why am i in this thread yo. wai to live a block away from me and not even chill or tell me about the wedding.. need a photographer?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abracadabra Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 word.... i dont think i'll be getting married again...... perhaps cohabitation this whole thing ruined my outlook/perspective on marriage.... never say never Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ohnoone Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 yea actually Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HydrogenPeroxide Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 yeah, cohabitation can be good i think. not so messy if things go south. and after awhile you can get the same or close to the same benefits as married people. well, at least in canada. and on the sex tip, yo, things gotta be fucking good in the sack. i was thinking about this the other day, theres no way i can even think about dating long term, let alone marrying, anyone if the sex isn't up there in my top 3. Picky? i don't think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pfffffffffft Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 holler at the kid.. ill hit you on myspace with a link to my flickr photostream Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted February 18, 2007 Author Share Posted February 18, 2007 and on the sex tip, yo, things gotta be fucking good in the sack. i was thinking about this the other day, theres no way i can even think about dating long term, let alone marrying, anyone if the sex isn't up there in my top 3. Picky? i don't think so. hahaha forreal i think i got trapped by the sex.... !! DOH! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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