T.T Boy Posted September 16, 2001 Share Posted September 16, 2001 arguements. doubt. supposed deception. confusion. alone with old friends..... alcohol and a bad mood. now im at home.. upset and confused. not knowing what to do. you see, my girl has been convinced that im cheating on her, when in fact i havent, never at all have i done that. and i never ever will. shes convinced that a bunch of false rumors are true. your mind is so powerful. cinvince yourself that soemthing is true, and it usually gets at you and you concieve that it is. so, now i have to convince her that what she believes isnt true, which isnt exactly easy. it sso hard. and im drunk so if this makes no sense, just close this shit. i have to get off drinking....... such a vicious cycle. anyone have anyideas of what i should do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MUNE Posted September 16, 2001 Share Posted September 16, 2001 yeah. get sober and talk to her like an adult. dont whine, dont plead.. be serious and for go sakes dont lose you temper and swear and call her names and shit...be calm, be serious and talk like an adult. thats all you can do. oh and go punch the fucker who spread the rumors and ask them why. ------------------ "Rain, it's rain again, rain down on my parade, i'm wrong you're right it's not what you would do - walk one mile in these shoes..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T.T Boy Posted September 16, 2001 Author Share Posted September 16, 2001 thats what ive been doing. weve been talking.im a generally serious person, i just had to go out tonight and drink, everyone gets like that. i havent and wouldnot yell or scream at her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest imported_El Mamerro Posted September 16, 2001 Share Posted September 16, 2001 Hmmm... What if you actually DID cheat on her, but have succesfully convinced yourself that you didn't... to the point where it has become the truth to you? Cue eerie Twilight Zone theme music. Beer, El Mamerro Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T.T Boy Posted September 16, 2001 Author Share Posted September 16, 2001 seeking> yeah, thats what i have been thinking myself. but i highly doubt it. i just think you manifest your own fears... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saint Posted September 16, 2001 Share Posted September 16, 2001 it happenned to my brother. bitch started accusing him of cheating, turns out she was the one playing him. she was so overridden with guilt that she blamed him to cover up her own failure. this is often times the case in relationships and it usually comes out of nowhere. mind you, this is not to be confused with low self esteem, which rears its head at the beginning of the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest dukeofyork Posted September 16, 2001 Share Posted September 16, 2001 women are the bearer of all evil... well, maybe not, but it seems that way sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
seeking Posted September 17, 2001 Share Posted September 17, 2001 i hate to sound like the bearer of bad news, but very often times when someone starts pointing fingers like that its cause they themselvs have somethign shady going on... they start to believe 'well if i did it, he must be too'... maybe thats not the case, but its something to consider... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr. frink one Posted September 17, 2001 Share Posted September 17, 2001 i never really thought of that....but it has been true in every instance now that i think of it... good advice... sorry about your situation.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T.T Boy Posted September 17, 2001 Author Share Posted September 17, 2001 it seems everything worked out as of now, itll be a long process to work thigs through. and weve been together for about 2 years, so its not a new relationship. in my opinion, if everyone tells you something after a while of thinking about it, you generally tend to believe it. ist how the mind works, especilly fi you have low selfesteem or whatnot, thanks for listening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devilush Posted September 17, 2001 Share Posted September 17, 2001 ttboy, it is true that people manifest their own fears. it is usually a low self asteem or insecurity problems. it seems like she's watching her back. i don't think that she is cheating on you. but you prolly did something that makes her think that. but ideas don't make up like that. i'm not pointing fingers, especially not to you, but i think that you have done something that makes her think that you are cheating on her. or something that threw her off. i'm sure you didn't do anything. but for some reason, she thinks that. she wouldn't think that if you didn't give her any reason to. didn't you break up with her? or something like that? i dunno. just hit me up on aol okay? ------------------ Stonecutters #1 **Short Cuts Issue #4** Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T.T Boy Posted September 17, 2001 Author Share Posted September 17, 2001 hey devilush, thanks ofr teh advice, i guess we can talk about it later. na, i didnt break up with her. weve just be having probs. ill look you up later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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