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KaBar2

My Mom Died Sunday

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My mom has been very ill for about eight months or so. She smoked cigarettes for about forty years (1942-1986) and it really damaged her lungs. She had a disease called COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) which is a lot like emphysema.

Last April she had a heart valve replacement. The mitral valve in her heart went bad, and it was causing her to be tired and breathless all the time, because it was leaking pressure back through her lungs. Normally the low-pressure side of the heart (which provides pulmonary circulation through the lungs) operates at a blood pressure of about 24/10. The high-pressure side operates at about 120/70. But, if the low-pressure side has faulty valves, the high-pressure side "leaks" pressure "backwards" through the mitral valve, creating pressures like around 100/70 where it's supposed to be 24/10.

This causes the heart to become enlarged, as the right-side ventricle gets bigger and stronger and more muscular to handle the increased pressures. This DECREASES the interior volume of the right ventricle (or "chamber" of the heart.)

This enlargement, combined with the higher stresses and pulmonary demands created by COPD, and her depressed mood associated with being on a ventilator to breathe, resulted in my mom refusing to eat, and her eventual loss of weight and strength.

She was very uncomfortable, and only partially concious for short periods for about a week. I asked the staff to provide her with morphine and Ativan for pain and anxiety and agitation. They did. She finally stopped breathing after a long, long struggle at 11:05 a.m.

 

For God's sake, if you use tobacco, QUIT NOW while you still have your health. Because if you don't, there is a horrible, painful death awaiting you thirty or forty years from now.

 

I loved my mother very much, and I really miss my Mom. But there are things worse than death, and living for months on a ventilator is one of them. RIP Mom. I wish she had never smoked cigarettes.

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Let me offer my sincere condolences Kabar.

I just quit smoking and your story has left me far more determined to remain a quitter.

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sorry to hear that kabar standard issue marine core knife guy hopefully there's a spot in heaven for her.

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Sorry to hear about your mother. This is really making me contemplate smoking. Good luck with everything man.

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R.I.P

 

I'm sorry to hear about your mother.

My deepest and most sincere condolences

My prayers go out to you and her

God bless...

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Damn.

 

My dad's been straightr smoking (and drinking) for nearly 40 years as well. We've asked him to quit for years to no avail.

 

To each thier own.

 

 

 

Stay up KaBar. nakone is in the same boat, he lost his mom (somewhat) recently.

 

 

:(

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friday is supposed to be my last day to smoke... i've had this planned for a month now...

 

sorry to hear, kabar... cheers to you and your mom...

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a man with cancer in his throat came into our school the other day. he couldn't talk normally, so he had to hold a larynx machine up to his throat, making that robotic type voice. anyways, he smoked cigarettes for 30 years and started a family. he's unable to do things like shower, because he has to breathe through a hole in his throat. the sad thing is, his sister and wife see what he has to go through every day, and yet they still smoke and haven't made an effort to stop.

 

RIP, KABAR'S MOTHER

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...stay up KaBar.. I'm sure your mother would be proud of the outreach and awareness you spread in such a wonderful way. some of your experiences have helped me understand your opinions and this is one of those things that give me even more respect for you. I don't know a single soul who would have the heart to provide an accurate account of such a gruesome death publicly and with such candor. or even withstand the angry opposition this forum has to adult opinions.

 

may she rest in peace.

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kabar.....just today i was wondering when we'd see another one of your insightful and informative posts....I'm so sorry to hear of this news.

 

you have my most sincere condolences.

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kabar,

i know we certainly have had our differences before, but i truly am sorry to hear about your loss.

 

i quit smoking several years ago- i used to smoke newports and bidis (retired thug life), so i wonder how much damage i did. i also wonder how much stronger i would be at cycling without those years of damage, and i hope that i don't pay for smoking that bullshit down the line- but at least i stopped.

 

again, i'm sorry man. take care.

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Originally posted by vinyl junkie

friday is supposed to be my last day to smoke... i've had this planned for a month now...

 

do you have any idea how many dozens of times i've heard you "quit tomorrow"? am i in the exact same boat? are all of us who are hopelessly addicted to cigarettes and self-destructive behavior patterns all doomed to pay for our youthful digressions in ripe old age, if we make it?

 

am i depressed now?

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word man.. everyone passes.. it was her time and you must get through it and live your life to its full potential .. Now someone is looking over her and its out of your hands.. she will be ok..

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condolences to you and the family dude. :(

 

your message has been heeded... i gave up smoking a few months ago and this compounds the fact.

 

stay up.

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condolences, at least she lived out a great ammount of her life.

 

keep your head up...remember shes in a better place now and happier than she ever would have been down here.

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I'm sorry, Kabar. At least she's not feeling that pain now... right?

 

I don't know if that's consolation or what, just know I feel for you.

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