non-hetero Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Need advice asap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
$360 Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 oh man, that a rough one. its to back that EVERYONE in high school has used the excuse, and now its played out. maybe if you made the point that youre not being cliche and you really mean it. you never know, she might feel the same way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
effyoo Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Send friends over to beat up her new boyfriend. After that you'll know for sure its over. Thats a sure way to get over things. I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin' ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daze One Million Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 chances are it aint gonna work out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
non-hetero Posted July 1, 2003 Author Share Posted July 1, 2003 What? no. she wants to be with me I don't want to be with her. She was one of my best friends and a co-worker and I want to remain very good friends but I want the relationship over asap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
$360 Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by Daze One Million chances are it aint gonna work out yeah, its not lookin that good. just get it over with. like pulling tape off of the harriest spot on youre body(i swear i dont know how it got there). the quicker you do it the quicker its over with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dirty_habiT Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by non-hetero Need advice asap. Be upfront, but do not, I repeat do not, use the "let's be friends" line.... that's the worst. Tell her that things aren't gonna work inbetween you two relationshipwise. Just, wear a cup. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubejinxed Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 if she wants to be with you and you just want to be her friend, it's not going to work unless she never sees you with another girl. if she is still romantically interested and you keep seeing her, although you say it won't work, but you keep in touch with her, she will think that you are just saying that, and your potential friendship could be harmed more. the best thing is to let her know that you still want her in your life but you can't see her for a while, so she can move on and then be friends later. if she keeps seeing you she won't move on, with the hope there is a chance for a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dick Quickwood Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 how emo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
$360 Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by ARCEL how emo cry about it.:cry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
!@#$% Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 if the girl still has romantic feelings, there's no way you can still be friends..now... why would you want someone pining away for you, when it's hopeless? don't do that to a friend.. i would say old feelings fade out around 2 years after a breakup, or until the girl falls in love with someone else, whichever comes first then you can be friends or, if the girl doesn't stil have those feelings, it should be no problem.. non-hetero, didn't you mention a wife in your story about shitty drawars?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomadawhat Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by ubejinxed the best thing is to let her know that you still want her in your life but you can't see her for a while, so she can move on and then be friends later. if she keeps seeing you she won't move on, with the hope there is a chance for a relationship. exactly what i was going to say..... but i don't think it takes as long as !#$% mentioned, 2 years, maybe 6 mos or something like that. but thats just in my expierience. i have remained good friends with most of the girls that i have had serious relationships with and there are some of my best friends to this day, not in the sense that we talk all the time but more in the sense that if i really need someone to go to they will be there, know what i mean?. but some of the ease from girlfriend to friend with me may be the fact that great distances (states) were put between us before we were able to truly just be friends and not friends w/ benefits which can truly fuck up the whole situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iloveboxcars Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 its really fucking hard. me and my ex-girlfriend keep falling into this spiral, we have been for the last 6 months now. for acouple weeks we start getting into it again.. having sex.. hanging out all the time.. then one of us decides they need to step off for alittle bit. we dont talk for a week.. then we become friends again.. after a week or 2 of just being friends and watching tv someone stays over at the other persons house and the spiral just keeps on going. on the one hand it would be fucking great to be her friend because she is one of the coolest people i have ever met, but then i also have to ask myself is she worth all the pain that ive been putting myself through. i mean, if we had just stopped seeing each other at the begining i wouldn't even give her a thought anymore. its pretty confusing. i'd say just kill yourself so you don't have to make decisions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomadawhat Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by mr_president seriously, i dont see why you people have such a hard time with the ex's. unless a girlfriend of mine cheated on me or some other kinda crazy shit, i think ill be cool with every girl iver ever messed with until i die... theres no use in being enemies... but you see this girl still wants dude sexually and emotionally. your girls don't want anything more to do with you but realize you will stalk them till the day they die so they give up and just become your 'friend'........ its that much easier for them... :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tyler Durden Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by effyoo I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin' ... exactly. dealt with the situation back in highschool....she was pretty upset but i really did want to be friends with her because she was the only girl i went out with at that point who wasnt a stupid bitch. to this day she's still the only girl that i actually am friends with after breaking up with her. score. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unconscience Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Originally posted by mr_president send her to me, ill dick her down, and she'll love my dick so much that she'll always be your friend because youre the one who told her to come fuck me... :idea: :lol: :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SukiSukiNow Posted July 1, 2003 Share Posted July 1, 2003 Best thing you can do is tell her the honest truth! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
old*824 Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 and these are the days of our lives........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scumdog Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 it is extremly hard to be friends with ex-girlfriends.at least for me being on both ends of the spectrum from the one who still loves and the one who whants nothing............. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dick Quickwood Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 Originally posted by $360 cry about it.:cry: how emo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kr430n5_666 Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 deal with your own fucking life and don't ask for advice from a fucking message board full of people who don't even know you in real life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the shitz Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 haha, that makes sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
non-hetero Posted July 2, 2003 Author Share Posted July 2, 2003 Originally posted by Kr430n5_666 deal with your own fucking life and don't ask for advice from a fucking message board full of people who don't even know you in real life. I got makros to talk and not post pictures like he does 18 hours a day. When he isn't sleeping or rubbing one out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomadawhat Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 he has a crush on you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dukeofyork Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 shit dont work for me. you have to cut them out of your life completely or youre gonna be with them for the rest of your life.......but whos to say that isnt what you want or need? good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
$360 Posted July 2, 2003 Share Posted July 2, 2003 Originally posted by mr_president theres no use in being enemies... good advice coming from tease Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fect_9 Posted July 5, 2003 Share Posted July 5, 2003 i just broke with a girl friend yesterday after 2 and half years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devilush Posted July 5, 2003 Share Posted July 5, 2003 i dunno. if i ever broke up with my hubby, i've already told him that i wouldnt be friends with him. but he's already made clear that he'd stalk me and try to hump me. but she wants to be with you. and in order to make any relationship work, you'll need the two people to put in on it. not just one. it also depends how long you've been with her too. if she hears that you wanna break up with her and be friends...it wouldnt make any sense to her. why would you wanna do that? you're playing minds games with her saying that shit. i'd say break up with her but dont be all like "i still wanna be friends thouhg." because at this point, she might be heartbroken. give her time after that and let her decide if she wants to be friends with you or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Clean Posted July 5, 2003 Share Posted July 5, 2003 fuck girls. i was in the opposite situation, she wanted to be friends with me and i wasn't too keen on that seeing as how she had just broke up with me. shit was annoying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kes_One_HTFD Posted July 5, 2003 Share Posted July 5, 2003 Chances are it isnt gonna work, i broke up with a girl that i had been with for 2 years, we tried to stay friends, but it just kept gettin too like a relationship again, if anythin, shes gonna change her mind about being "friends" after a little and yuor probably not gonna want that if yuor the one that doesnt wanna be with her.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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