May 20, 200223 yr nothing wrong with being picky , hell , everyone has their own taste . its just that if you try too hard to look for certain things/qualities , you may never find them . its all about compromise , the actual chances of you meeting a guy with all the qualities you want , plus being physically attractive to you is basically zero . so you , and everyone else on the planet will enevitably have to 'settle for less' . just dont think of it as settling for less , think of it more as loving whomever it may be , for what they are , not what you might want them to be .so if he doesnt like the all the same things you do , it still is VERY possible that he can truly l;ove you , because he loves you for YOU , not for what you may or may not like .
May 20, 200223 yr i once heard this said , " the girl ( guy ) you say NO to , was probably the one you were looking for " think about it .
May 20, 200223 yr Author Aser- its like this. My recent ex.... and I, had nothing in common. We both wanted kids later on in life, and that was about it. We hated eachothers music, he had no intrest in art.... and thought school was bullshit, and said that his kids would never have to go to school if they didn't want to. Wow, okay. What i'm saying is... it was the start of our many debates and arguments. I don't mind if a guy doesn't like Bob Marley, or doesn't like Portishead, or doesn't listen to music at all... but when he starts to HATE it... thats just all wrong for me.... because it's a big part of my life.. the love for music.. and also for art. Shit.. i'm going to school to be something art related, and it would suck alot of ass to come home to someone who didn't give a fuck about my day, or how my big meeting went on my ad campain for a major huge product company. It would suck going to church alone, but it also would suck if I say i'm going to church one sunday morning, and he says "for fucking what?! jesus is a fag that doesnt exist" So finding a guy with similiar intrests, or who is ATLEAST "UNDERSTANDING" to my lifestyle is very important.. relationships go beyond physical attraction, and having the same favorite colors or something.... and it goes past all the sex and what not. I think it is impossible for someone to love another person without loving what they do, or understanding what they live for. I don't think I could love a man who's a serial killer, or a doctor who preforms abortions for a liviing.... it's impossible for me to love someone, and have someone love me.. without excepting ALL of me, and ALL of what i do. Love is about excepting a person as a whole.. little flaws and imperfections make us human... but living with someone who you cannot except some of the things they live for= not my steez. Its too hard to explain..
May 20, 200223 yr no , i understand you , and i agree with you as well . of course the two of you have to have things in common , im just saying that you probably wont have all 290384642 things in common . its all relative , my ex and i had little in common the way of music art religon , etc , she hated graff for fuck sakes . but we had alot of little things in common , and we went out for years . i also agree i couldnt love a serial killer or abortion doctor , i guess its as you said " Love is about excepting a person as a whole.. little flaws and imperfections make us human..." because its like that , and thats the way it is ........
May 20, 200223 yr dee loves me. btu she hasnt talked to me in a long long time. lets go to dinner tonight dee.
May 21, 200223 yr Originally posted by DEE38 thats why i come on 12oz:: YAY FOR LOVE!! what a woman... almost made me change my signature to jesus is a fag... LOL we pick our "significant others" with our choices of what we want in a mate... like if you see they could be a good parent, and that is attractive to you, then they are attractive... my choices were, and sometimes still are, women that i think are beautifull, even though they may not think it or try to hide that fact from the world... in other words "self esteem issues" but i always tell myself, "i love the fact that she is so independent" LOL, and then later on in the relationship she isn't. i can say most of my girlfriends have been crazy, and it would be true but i can't say "it was only a coincedence" cause that would be a lie... i picked them, out of a crowd, or by themselves.... i am like a crazy girl bloodhound... "snifff sniff... there's one... go get her boy..." i just need to be a rich crazy girl bloodhound, or a normal girl bloodhound.... but for me if she doesn't have that jerry springer wacked appeal, then something must be wrong with her[/]... LOL pimp n panda "afraid of normal girls" ------------------ bashful plaything
May 21, 200223 yr i agree with u dee. i think there has to be at least some common ground on the important things and some pastimes unless both people are very very flexible or passive. i want someone who will walk through the park on a nice day, or go to a museum or a theatre show or go sailing, hiking, anything outdoors when it's nice. i want someone to come with me and be my partner, not someone who will say go do your thing, and i'll do mine. yes if you love the person you will make sacrifices, but it's easier if there is some similarities, and there is appreciation of what the other person does. for example my boy now wants me to go fishing with him and cook him meat and i'm a vegetarian. i will do these things because i love him, but it would be so much easier if there were similarities and acceptance. learn to love the person for their differences and value those, but there are some differences that cannot be overcome, no matter how much love there is.
May 21, 200223 yr Author ubejinxed- exactly!! it's cool that you both have similarities, and like... the major difference of the meat vs. vegiterian deal.... but there is also UNDERSTAND.. which im trying to explain.... it's like.. okay it's cool for two people to have similiar intrests somewhat, which sort of important (i think) ..like i think people should have atleast SOMETHING in common..... and to make up for the other things that they don't have in common, or for the things they don't like, or don't want to do... its important for a person to have UNDERSTANDING.. and make those LITTLE SACRIFECES, out of love for their sig. other.... like you said, your a vegeterian... yet you still will cook him up some meat... which shows: 1- differences 2- understanding 3- sacfices ve. 1-differences 2- no understanding 3- which leads to a sour sig. other... and usually leads to arguments! its more loving, for a person to say: hi honey i ordered a pizza. half is veggie for me, the other is meat lover for you! then saying: alrite bitch i ordered the olive special.... eat it or starve! thats something my ex would do... that stupid fag of a shit cunt rag. it was horrible. you know whats hard.... like... where do you stand.. when your sig. other doesnt want to do the things you want to do? and you meet a "friend" who does?! you start to fall in love with the friend.! checkit.. there's this one time i met this guy oregon. so him and his girl were cool, and he was really into spinning hip hop and busting flows, and his girl was into working out. me and oregon met. so he'd come over to my crib, bring his equiptment, and we'd talk about hip hop this.. hip hop that...... make beats.... bust lil flows. HIS girl was out "working out" with some other dude... cuz he wasen't into the whole gym scene..... and he was always at my pad, cuz she wasent into hip hop at all. Then he'd go on and on about how he wish his girl was like me. How me and him had similiar intrests. This and that. Eventually, his girlfriend cheated on him and then fell in love with the workout guy.... and me and him hooked up for a while also. CRAZY RIGHT?! or my other friend. his girl liked nsync and shit. he also liked the hip hop... and other things i liked. so him and his girl been having problems. and we'd hang out alot, he began to be my best friend! we had like a grip of stuff in common that him and his girl didn't... and we'd laugh a whole lot when we were together, and it was cool. i started calling him "the bro i never had" and shit. then him and his nsync listening girl would argue and argue. and he'd say "i wish my girl was like you and i..... how me and you have stuff in common.. cuz all we do is fight. we hate eachothers music... she has no sense of humor like the both of us have" blah blah. then later on he started to telling me he loved me, and doesn't know what to do? WHAT THE FUCK?? thats scary how two people with problems are to gether... meet someone else... then say to themselves "HEY THIS GIRL/GUY AND I GET ALONG REAL GREAT" vs them and their sig other...... i dont want that to happen to me. i dont want an oregon who will leave me for another girl who will bust flows with him. i dont want another guy to tell some other girl i love you, because he doesnt like the music i listen to and i dont have the same humor he does. i want a guy who's everything he wants..... sorta. :( its hard to explain.
May 21, 200223 yr you met a dude named Oregon? that sounds like a cool name to have :D at this point in time, i have a girlfriend. i haven't had one in two years, and it's good. it's really good great, and i'm falling in love with her. because i date so rarely, when i do that usually means the girl is special so i'll probably always fall in love with people i date...but whatever. the one pot hole i've come across is that i overthink EVERYTHING. when it comes to emotional decisions, i've made some bad choices, so now i'm fucking Mr. Captain Logicman. i have to weigh everything and blah blah. :love2:...it's a good thing
May 21, 200223 yr Author it's not like the state oh-ra-gen its like this: oh-ra-gone yeah it was a cool name.
May 21, 200223 yr Originally posted by Ted Wakowski Bunny books, drawings, pounds of misplaced weed ... the only shit I keep seeing in my mailbox are overweight-women's catalogues (?) and incorrect bills from the asshole computer company I purchased this malfunctioning hunk of technological ass-discharge from. ha ha ha ha ha.
May 22, 200223 yr ^Shit is sad ... but true. Here's some shit I'm going to write about the general topic that you all are discussing on here (I suck at intros): One of the biggest setbacks I see in most women is their (for the most part) quick attraction to and acceptance of guys who "exhibit confidence." I understand that within our culture it's part of a female's inherent nature to find themselves drawn to a man who seems capable, sure of himself, charming, strong, etc., so I don't really blame them when shit goes sour, but I still see it as a problem. This is why: Around 85% of guys I've known who "run game" on girls are excellent at presenting themselves as this "confident" type of dude. They realize that to win a girl over without first getting to know her they need to appear as Joe Cool, Mr. Security, a braniac, a tough guy, a combination fo these or some other half-invented personality. That's fine and all but the problem is that these personas are typically either a front for gross insecurity or simply techniques to mask the underlying asshole/different person within all of them. And, from what I've seen, women fall hook, line and sinker for this ploy, resulting in alll kinds of relationship trouble (like I wrote earlier, this isn't always the case, but I see it happening way too much as I skip through life on my merry fucking way). I personally think girls would do a shitload better for themselves in our society if more of them would just break down and make a few more moves on guys than they currently do, and lose the starry eyes over dudes they really don't know who just "seem cool" (*not that DEE38 or other females are to blame for hooking up with shitheads, I just think that, in general, girls need to open their eyes a bit more for those right guys). There's this one friend I have who goes to art school. He's 22, still a virgin and what most women I've met would consider "ideal" (respects girls, straight-up morals, intelligent, understanding, isn't a fat, ugly fuck, and more of that other shit that women want) and yet he's overlooked by women like food in Calista Flockhart's refrigerator. He's just not the type to run around chasing after chicks or even approaching ones he's mildly attracted to. Sometimes I'll even make fun of him but he always says it's just too much bullshit for him to deal with when he's more determined at accomplishing other things in life. I know girls who've personally told me they "like him" but none of 'em have the sense to make a move ... so those and other chicks lose out on a dude who'd keep 'em well fed. Fuck this. Too much writing for me. I'm off to beat up small children.
May 22, 200223 yr Re: im also in love with........ Originally posted by willy.wonka DEVILUSH..... :love: :love2: oo how nice!! :love:
May 22, 200223 yr http://images.amazon.com/images/P/6305300550.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg'> WHAT IS LOVE? BABY DON'T HURT ME....DON'T HURT ME....ANYMORE! WHOA WHOA WHOA OOOOWHAAAA OOWHOAWHAAAA when it comes to love, i am an idiot. i'm like a fuckin punk rock tattooed butabi brother. all the girls that like me i find a reason to think they are wack. every girl i want is unattainable. when a girl i'm attracted to likes me back, i'm too stupid to realize it and by the time i do they lose interest. i've had girls give me head and i'm still convinced they don't really like me. i don't know--maybe if i order that video where that dude darren teaches you to dance like the back street boys--maybe that will help.
May 22, 200223 yr fuck TED , if more women took your advice , this world would run more smoothly . i and most guys i know undrstand what ur saying , its these glassy eyed chicks who cant see past it , while we look on from afar and laugh.........
May 22, 200223 yr Originally posted by garcia_vega http://images.amazon.com/images/P/6305300550.01.LZZZZZZZ.jpg'> Will Ferrel's comedy is a reason for seriously depressed individuals to go on living until at least another Saturday. RIP Phil!
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