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That ain't my baby's momma...

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by FRANKY JONES, Apr 4, 2005.

  1. FRANKY JONES

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    That ain't my baby's momma...

    Discussion started by FRANKY JONES - Apr 4, 2005

    yea so most of my posts lie in metal heads and brick slayers, although i read most of the threads here in channel zero....and ive got a problem...

    my ex-girlfriend informed me tonight that she is 100% pregnant with my baby. i know it is mine, for i have been fearing the actual situation for about 2 weeks now. She has already gone as far as picking out godparents, and has told me previously she would expect me to quit graffiti because she doesn't want her babys father to be in jail.

    the real problem is i dont want her to keep the baby. im 21 years old, 2 time college dropout,,,,currently enrolled now and doing well but still a good 70 credits from graduating,,,with a job waiting tables. I know she is against abortion,,not completely, but feels pretty strongly about it....what do I do??? she is still in college, neither of us have rich families, i dont want to stop graffiti (as selfish as that sounds), and in my eyes neither one of us are ready to have a kid. im an alcoholic fuck up. how do i convince her its not a good idea??? do i emphasize that she drank abunch and smoked pot since she has been pregnant before she suspected that she was??? i need advice my fellow 12ozers...
     
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    sneak - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    psssshh.
    anyway i think the "a" word needs to be mentioned.
    *edit.
    well if she's against it, tell her your side and push the issue!!
     
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    CACashRefund - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    Its really not up to you its up to her as she is the one having it. If you really feel strongly about it like you say you do. Talk to her about it! Tell her all the reasons you feel she shouldnt be having it, and dont tell her "dont have the baby" Be a little more compassionate than that. And if she decides to still have the baby, man up and take care of it.


    If you werent ready to have a kid, then you werent ready to have sex. Yeah it sounds like bullshit, i know. But condoms do sometimes fail, and other manners of misfortunes can happen despite any precautions you might have taken, but if you get a kid, quit graffiti. For reals. Dont be a dumbass.


    Youre only an alcoholic fuck up because you want to be that way. If you were homeless or something, that could be understood. But from what you described, youre living okay, not the best, but then again youre not living on the street. Alcoholism is tough, i know. If you want to help first step is to just quit. If you need help talk to some counselors or something, seek some professional help.

    Sorry if i come off as a dick to you, but this is a serious issue and should be responded to appropriately.
     
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    sneak - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    nah man, i dont agree with this (though i do with everything else you said).
    it takes two to tango, so this baby is yours and hers. that means you get a say in what happens. i advise you move strongly.
     
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    Hoblow - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    Shit man, you're fucked. Try telling her that in order to be a good person and be a good father, you need to finish up your education and having a bay around will make that impossible. If you're really desperate, promise her you'll have a baby with her after you've finished education, then do a runner.
     
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    bobthebuilder - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    My advice to you is this:
    If youre cool with yours or her parents, have them do a temporary adoption whilst you guys are in school. You cant juggle college, a shitty job and a family, you will end up putting a gun to your head. If the parents or other close family isn't there I strongly suggest an abortion. Do what you feel is the best thing, even if it means dropping out of college, again.
     
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    CACashRefund - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    nah man, i dont agree with this (though i do with everything else you said).
    it takes two to tango, so this baby is yours and hers. that means you get a say in what happens. i advise you move strongly.
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    Yeah you do get a say, but legally hes fucked. I heard a story about some lady who stashed her boys cum and then impregnated herself with it. Dude broke up with her not long after not knowing this had happened, and then a year or two later the lady is like here is your son/daughter i demand child support. The guy takes her to court and ends up losing. Kinda fucked huh? I dont know, thats why i advised homie to have a serious talk with his girl about this.
     
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    emergin_graffer - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    another thing you could do is put it up for adoption afterwards. But i think that this probably isnt going to happen. nine months of carrying it just to let it go to strangers is pretty harsh. Abortion has problems because she might not be able to get pregnant afterwards. I forget what happens but that is what i remember. Just talk to her. peace. hope all works out
     
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    CACashRefund - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    This is good.
     
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    GucciCondom - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    I would move somewhere and change my name.
     
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    time to buckle down and become a righteous man/father
     
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    If she decides to have it you need to lay down some laws. For instance, you are still going to do graffiti. Tell her that she is the one that wants the kid, you aren't, why should you give up what you want to do. That isn't saying you aren't going to be there for the kid.. but you sure as fuck aren't going to stop doing something you love because she expects it.

    Let her know she's taking care of the baby full time until you get out of school. etc etc etc.


    sorry got bored. maybwe i'll add the rest of my thought later.
     
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    FRANKY JONES - Replied Apr 4, 2005

    i like this....she is currently living at school about 40 mins away so im about to head up there and sit down with her and talk....im taking into account what you have all said and ill be back with her response later tonight or tomorrow morning...as if you really care...
     
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    "'NUFF TO MAKE A NIGGA GO CARAAAAAAZZZZZZAAAY"
     
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