suicide

if any of you have advice bout preventing the suicide of someone.. please please let me know either email me at

mestoplus@hotmail.com

or reply on this thread!!

me and this girl have sort of broke up.. and shes had a lot of problems in the past.. like, more than a year ago she tried to commit suicide.. and she was raped too. i really love her and shes so special to me and a few minutes ago we had been talking on the phone for like 2 or 3 hours and it seems to be going well considering she started with "if i go, please dont miss me"

i am going to see her tomorrow and i just really need some advice from people who have dealt with situations like this im sorry to bother but i mean i dont really know what to do.

she says that she doesnt want to hurt anybody anymore and i dont think she'll try to commit suicide but still?? i really dont know ah please ask if you need more information thanks

she says that she probably wont do it but i dont know?? are there any signs i should be looking for???

sorrry if this post is incoherant im also talking to other people

thanks

uh, you dont need any other warning signs than what you already have. id say step one is call her parents.

She could be doing it for attention... Or she could be really fucked up... I'm not a psychologist(sp?) but maybe she's bipolar? Either way, shit still sucks to deal with. good luck bro.

i was in a relationship that ended this way, a couple years ago. by ended, i dont meann that she killed herself, but that she tried and kept talking about it. my girl ended up in a mental hospital for a bit, but then again, i always liked the strange ones.

anyway, instead of listening to us, i would call a suicide hotline and explain the situation to them. they deal with it everyday, and could give you much better advice than a graffiti board... if you dont want to do that for some reason, i would say at the very least, you should have a talk with her parents. they need to know whats going on. the whole thing might just be a ploy for attention, but who knows, maybe in thhe midst of trying to get attention, she might accidentaly kill herself.

good luck man, coming from experience, this shit sucks...

i went out with a girl for almost 3 years. needless to say, 2 and a half years i wanted out, but i was caught in the "im gonna kill myself" trap and i, being the nice idiot i was, stayed with her. good thing im out of that fucking garbage.

oh yeah, and shes is still alive. (not sure if thats good or not (oh know i am an asshole!!))

im with beardo,do it!!tell her perents,you're not backstabbin

youre trying to save a life here...!

yeah,just tell her parents......dont let them put her in a mental hospital..

go to group therepy and places where she can come out "on her rape"..

show this girl people all around suffer a whole lot than she does...

slap her if needed...

just no sex

i mean talk to her...but ultimatley its her choice.let her live or not.

but its her life

her life?!let her commit suicide?her choice?!

tell her parents..it will probably fuck her "life" up,but she'll get over it..i went to a metal hospital....a lot of smart people go there.....and a lot of stupid people too....if anything it was cool..an experience...something that added on to my character...

tell her parents,,,,,she wont listen to you....she reaally bight be looking for attn.....i seen girl with cuts all up and down thier pretty necks and thier elegant arms.....they admit...its for attention...ome of them really wanted to be dead...but they know how to take a knife a slice along the viens not across.....

point being,tell her parents..

dont tell her to picture her funeral...i had this plan in elemantary through early highschool that i would fake my own death to see who really gave a shit...if you tell her to picture all the people weeping and shit she might think of it as a good way to go out and be remembered.

its also kinda funny if you tell her parents

if they dont believe you...then just tell them she is substituting life with sex...

tell her parents

try to make her laugh and be happy if you can. how you say? well, just tell her this....

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best of luck on everything man.

I would never even think of commiting suicide but some times I wonder if its really that bad of a thing to do. Like Some people just cant stand being somewhere and not knowing why we are here. Life is just so irelivent. like we go to school go to work retire have good and bad times. We are all eventually gonna die and then life wont mean anything. if we leave a mark on the world before we die it wont matter because we wont see it. I often ask my self the question, even if I go to heaven or whatever is after life on earth will it even be worth that. I think the reason i would never commite suicide is because I know there has to be an answer to it all. Like maybe we are all in some kind of compitition to leave existance and existance is a trap.

whell now that i have totally depressed you all i will quit yapping.

but think about it.

I guess as humans it is in our nature to be ignorant.

yay everything seems to be going fine thank you guys so much for all the words and such im so happy

take care :king:

geez chicken bone... i swear are u my twin?...i had the same problem that ur having now...every thing will turn for the better(i hope)...just be there for her..as a friend and that on a count of u have to still have feeling for.....and suicide is no biggie..every one thinks about it...i know i do every day...cutting my self and toying with my gun is an every day thing..some times....hate to say tis but.......its my only happy ness.......:o'

my cousin commited suicide about 2 months ago. it's gunna take some pretty convincing persuasion to prevent a suicide.

graffiti sux..... my cuz killed him self to about 5 years ago....the thing that suck was that i was to little to stop him so i have to swallow that down that jsut cause a fucking bitch broke his heart..i say fuck that!..god damn it....

yo man. my mom tried to kill herself a couple weeks ago...that shit was rough, she O.D.ed on the antidepresents the doctors prescribed to her, the EMTs came...it seemed like the scene of some movie except this shit was real...heres the back story for that whole deal...about 5 weeks ago my dad one day has this wonderful idea to get divorced after 23 years of marraige, so my mom gets seriously depressed...we take her to hospital and they recommend a specialist, so they call these psychologists in from outta town and they ask her a bunch of questions and determine she is suicidal and needs to be under constant suicide watch and undergo therapy. okay, so she vouluntarily checks her self into the local mental hospital (very nice one...nothing like one flew over the cookoos nest), and she starts undergoing therpy and treatment. they give her some pills to help her sleep (she hadnt slept for a few days) and some antidepressants. after a week and a half they say she is fit to leave the hospital. as soon as she get home she gets severely depressed again, and the third day of being home she eats all her pills, she took about 40 remerons, which are antidepressants, and told me to go give i notebook in her room to my dad (suicide note)...i didnt know she O.D.ed yet, but when i came back up she collapsed and hit her head on the coffee table...proceeded to call 911, a firetruck, ambulance and police officer came...took her to the hospital, pumped her stomach, filled it with charcoal to neutralize the drug, and i visited her in a secure room in the crisis care center the next day...she didnt say a thing...she was in there for a while, then they transfered her to stress care, which gives you a bit more freedom to go around the hospital, then they transfered her back to the local mental hospital. shes doing very well now, and says what she tried to do was stupid and selfish. her and my dad get along fine and go out to eat every few days...i visited her every single day i could while she was in the hospital. she says that helped her out alot knowing that i cared so much for her. so, i would have to say that if the girl you broke up with is taling about killing herself and saying her goodbyes like my mom was, you need to get her to a psychologist for a diagnosis as quickly as possible, they might keep her in a psych ward for a while, but she will have people to talk with there that can help her...you also have to let her know that you seriously care for her well being and you deffinately have to let her family members know whats going on....its not fun after she makes an attempt and youre left wondering if shell be all right...if she makes an attempt, they are going to detain her for a while in an enviorment she wouldnt want to be in...my mom was in a solitary confinement situation for a week and a half. in her room she had a bed...and thats it. so definately get her some professional help and let her family know...suicide is serious shit wheather you joke about it or not...i used to think of suicide seriously on occassion, but i will never again after witnessing what my mom went through and the impact it had on me....