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so they say i need counselling.

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by wiseguy, Jan 8, 2004.

  1. wiseguy

    wiseguy Elite Member

    Joined: Mar 1, 2002 Messages: 2,543 Likes Received: 1
    well my parents sat me down for a "we are concerned about you because your ultimately aimless life revolves around writing your name on things and you rarely go out with friends and you have never had a long term girlfriend and you are generally a bitter individual" talk... well damn, that was an uncomfortable situation. i just laughed nervously and said "yeah" at the appropriate intervals, but i guess if they want me to see a counsellor im going to go, whatever, it doesnt bother me, as long as they pay for it. it really is an odd situation when you realise that your parents think that you are strange... i really havent got a clue how to seriously approach the issue, i mean, i will go in order to placate them. but obviously they have some serious concern about my wellbeing.. how would you approach this whole issue if you were in my shoes?
  2. sneak

    sneak Guest

    seeing it from someone else p.o.v is always a good idea. get a fresh stance on things...
  3. 26SidedCube

    26SidedCube Veteran Member

    Joined: Mar 18, 2003 Messages: 6,590 Likes Received: 10
    I dunno, my parents used to want me to go to
    counseling.. even though I did have long-term
    girlfiends, I was never at home, my social life
    took over all other aspects of my life... and I
    was a very very positive person. *shrugs*...
    maybe we were switched at birth or something.

    Anyway... I'd say go... it blows having the mom
    and pops looking at you like you're off center...
    and if they think you're nuts batty odds are your
    credibility with them isn't doing too well... I think
    if I would have jumped through a few hoops I'd
    still be the exact same person except my
    relationship with the fam might different.
  4. krie

    krie Guest

    Just go, you might like it. I did, it was just a place for me to escape what was going on, chill out and talk to someone about anything i wanted too. Instead of me just thinkin it over in my head, i'd talk about it and see what the counselor thought. Youll develop a frienship in a way with them, and will find its easy to tell them things. It is odd though, how easy it is to tell a complete stranger things that are going on in your life. I recomend just going.
  5. casekonly

    casekonly Veteran Member

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  6. caL

    caL Senior Member

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    whatever doesnt kill you, makes you stronger
  7. Ethreadzny2

    Ethreadzny2 Veteran Member

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    seriously everyone needs a little counseling in their life. Its a neutral place to let shit hit the fan.
  8. Tyler Durden

    Tyler Durden Veteran Member

    Joined: Nov 18, 2001 Messages: 5,263 Likes Received: 40

    unless you break your spine.
  9. Dick Quickwood

    Dick Quickwood 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Aug 25, 2002 Messages: 14,783 Likes Received: 14

    unless you're an emo.
  10. Fox Mulder

    Fox Mulder 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Nov 23, 2000 Messages: 12,434 Likes Received: 86
    i used to go to counseling it's not bad really. it really all depends on what doctor you see. i have the same issues as you plus alcohol/drug abuse.
  11. Weapon X

    Weapon X 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Sep 6, 2002 Messages: 14,905 Likes Received: 202
    My high school actually sent me to a psychiatrist, almost free of charge, back in the day. Shit was ridiculous. The dude kept asking me if I had gay dreams, so I said “yeah” just to get him off my back.
  12. !@#$%

    [email protected]#$% Moderator Crew

    Joined: Oct 1, 2002 Messages: 18,517 Likes Received: 623
    you could go to counseling and get whatever you get out of it, or take another route:

    try to placate your parents..
    they want you to find a direction.
    are you in school?
    do you do well?
    do you have an idea of where you are heading?

    i'm sure they would be relieved if you had answers to questions like that..or were doing well in school..

    my parents weren't happy with where i was heading... for a while, i fought them on it, eventually i returned to school and got a degree..it was tough, but i managed to continue with the full time graffiti and drugs the entire time, then i made it out of school, my parents are proud and pretty much off my back..

    plus i have an excellent job, and i never really had to sacrifice, just a little compromise.
  13. Boring Bastard

    Boring Bastard Elite Member

    Joined: Feb 1, 2001 Messages: 3,784 Likes Received: 1
    Wouldn't that be more likely to get him "on your back"? I mean.....WOW........gaydreams? That'd creep me the fuck out!
  14. Boring Bastard

    Boring Bastard Elite Member

    Joined: Feb 1, 2001 Messages: 3,784 Likes Received: 1
    Go to counseling......it's good for you! Really....you can have someone intervene and actually get your parents to open up too! That way they have to tell you why they feel this way and you can have someone else validate your point and he can also help you see theirs! When my father and I had this convo he gave a little and that meant a lot because he was a stubborn motherfucker! Weird thing was he wasn't cool with it until he saw a set of married wholecar cabooses that a friend and I did roll right past him at a red light! He called me on the phone laughing asking how we did them so big. Then we had a BBQ for a surprise Bday party I had with some of my friends that wrote there. We were all talking about painting and whatnot and he listened intently about how we know the freightlines and what cars go where and how we have friends in different states and things. He was surprised how vast it was. Open up and share they just might be amazed. They might just think it's not too bad afterall. Let em know some of your goals outside of graffiti having to do with real life. That'll get you some leeway..........Good luck!

    p.s. Pay attention to some of the things I said......my dad was as stubborn as a mule. He came around. Parents do that eventually. You'll all become friends!
  15. Weapon X

    Weapon X 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Sep 6, 2002 Messages: 14,905 Likes Received: 202
    I told him no quite a few times, but he insisted on asking me again. So I said yes, figuring “who gives a fuck”, it’s all confidential anyway. Plus he was gay, too, so I didn’t have to worry about getting judged. Except for all that stuff, dude was alright. Real smart, too. Maybe he knew something I didn’t? JAWKS! Kidding. Hehe.