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relationships and dealing with jealousy and bullshit

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by chicken bone, Mar 2, 2003.

  1. chicken bone

    chicken bone Guest

    Ever get really close and intimate with a girl just to find out to your shock and surprise that she had 'gotten around' quite a bit? All the more shocking is that it doesn't even fit her personality, like she could be the greatest and sweetest girl but... THen you find out shes gotten with like so many guys before you.

    Why is it that girls are more accepting of promiscous guys, while the girl is labeled as a slut and is hated on, no matter how nice her personality is? I just broke up with a girl who I was in love with due to long distance (and we needed to go our seperate paths; a mutual positive break up) only to find out later from guys retelling stories of seeing her doing nasty shit with other dudes... And it just leaves a pit in my stomach. I can act like I dont give a fuck and say "Oh well I dont give a fuck what happened before we were together, shes not my girl anymore anyways!" But then on the inside I feel like tearing something apart.

    I can tell myself that it doesn't matter and that why should I care about her past but then I keep thinking about it every once in a while and it still gets me so pissed... I think the basis of it is my insecurity... But I mean when you hear in detail some nasty shit about your girl it just makes you feel like everything that went on in the past wasn't even genuine. In the first place, you know this girl for all these wonderful things and being in love with her and having the greatest times but then before you guys were together she pulled all this shit with a lot of other dudes.

    It shouldn't matter to me, and a lot of girls look past these sort of things in a guy... But for me its so difficult.

    This sucks. Does anyone else have trouble looking past certain things (even though you know you should)? Its like I have this dillemma and I don't know how to solve it.
  2. BigJoe

    BigJoe Banned

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    I feel you man, unfortunatly i cant offer a solution..sorry dude
  3. When

    When 12oz Loyalist

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    apathy is the answer my friend
  4. alure

    alure Dirty Dozen Crew

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    is she good in bed? if yes..its cause she had lots of practice:D hehe nah..i'm kidding.. dont really know what to tell you..someones past is someones past and you cant change that at least you realize she's still a down girl.. it will just take time..
  5. When

    When 12oz Loyalist

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    yea down to give homie the clap
  6. alure

    alure Dirty Dozen Crew

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    lol..i'm trying to help here! :D
  7. When

    When 12oz Loyalist

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    yea help get a brothas dick to rot off
  8. alure

    alure Dirty Dozen Crew

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    you a bad bad man!
  9. When

    When 12oz Loyalist

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    well ive been there before, except for the dick rot part
  10. Trousersnake

    Trousersnake Junior Member

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    Man fuckit my girl has done fucked a grip of dudes,I met her when me and valhall was taggin her but what the fuck who cares,she pays the rent and puts out IM straight
  11. sneak

    sneak Guest

    if they are ugly, i have trouble getting over that. i find a few drinks help. alot
  12. BeetNIK

    BeetNIK Member

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    i get that same feeling

    i was really digging a girl for quite a while, we became the best of freinds and i felt things would eventually work out, but then she started smoking cigarettes and hanging out with this whole diferent group of people an acting wayyy different. I realized that she is pretty shallow and a fake person and i was disgusted to even speak with her. I was lied to deeply and it hurts, even though i realized i did not care for her as much, she still fucked with me quite a bit. Like you , it made me feel cheated as if nothing we ever did together was real or genuine. but if you truly loved her and it was a positivie mutual break up i would consider speaking with her about the past if it ever comes up in conversation, dont confront her about it because you have only heard these things from other people, just keep it in mind and come to terms with these suposed lies, its really all you can do....

  13. Sekin

    Sekin New Jack

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    I have the same problem, but I get jealous while I am in the relationship also about how she acts around other guys, little stuff that shouldn't matter gets to me.
    I asked someone this question once and they told me that jealousy is an attempt to control the other person, thats all I can say.
  14. iheartwaffle

    iheartwaffle New Jack

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  15. some pittsburgh flavor

    some pittsburgh flavor Elite Member

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    ^you know, this is the second thread i've seen you in trying to poke fun at someone who's having a really tough time. you're a real cool guy, huh. so what, maybe you're too tough and ruggid to feel anything ever, what with your two purrs of Urr Force Wonz and your mad tagging ability, who needs to have "feelings"?

    if your mom died of cancer and you made a memorial thread i'm sure you'd love hearing "SERVZ DA BITCH RITE FOR BEIN A HO. QUIT CRYIN YA PUSSY!"