Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Yo, check it: I've known this guy for over ten years. A buddy of mine. Here is some examples of his behaviour: -Really foul language that pretty much revolves around the male anatomy and rarely the female's. -if he sees a gay dude on the bus, he'll run home and call me or someone else to talk about it (we live in a city, not a hick town in the swamplands of Florida). -if he hears about a new show that has two private eye detectives that are gay that is coming out on NBC, he'll make sure he'll phone someone immediately to talk about it. -hasn't been laid in eight years -hasn't kissed a girl in eight years, let alone made a move on one. -did I say that he's extremely homophobic? -sometimes he just comes out and says it...sorta -always asking girls about their boyfriend's penis size. Now, I'm not one to totally embrace homosexuality or anything, and I hate that argument that stupid bitches use; the one about homophobia meaning one is gay. But this is extreme homophobia in a city where everyone else I know has learned to accept it. I mean, if I was a skinhead and saw a Jew on the bus, I wouldn't pick up the phone and call my friends to say that I saw a Jew on the bus. My friend and I are going to confront him about this, one way or the other. We feel that this dude is tearing himself apart, and his extreme denial might lead to some sort of American Beauty type ending. My friend's fiance says she's sure that this dude is gay, and now I'm 80% sure. I think it needs to be done, for his sake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cloner Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 does it matter really/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MESTHREE Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 um...you and your friend confronting him together sounds like a bad idea. I think you should do it, if you must, one on one. Chances are this guy isnt really even ready to deal with the whole issue anyhow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 maybe he's not gay... maybe he's just asexual? just remember ... it's not gay if it's on the 'down-low'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Author Share Posted January 31, 2005 Oh yeah, even his mom asked him if he was gay. His own mom!. He definitely isn't ready to deal with this, but it is quite disturbing to others around him, to say the least. I figure that if he takes it seriously, he might be gay, and if he just laughs it off, he might not be. Is there a reaction I should be looking for? Like I said, it seems like there is a war going on inside him, and the outcome might not be so pretty. Dude is a grumpy motherfucker, too. Maybe a night out wearing a lime green thong, timboots, and no shirt at the gay club might cheer him up and alleviate a bunch of stress. :shook: Anyway, I'm only 80 to 85% sure, but my buddy's fiance is mother to a gay 19 year old, so she might know what she's talking about when she says there is no doubt about it. *oh yeah - he's 27 years old, so he's going to have to deal with it at one time or another. I don't want him to be my kid's "maybe gay uncle". He should either just be the gay uncle, or the not gay uncle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Author Share Posted January 31, 2005 Originally posted by <KEY3>@Jan 31 2005, 03:04 PM maybe he's not gay... maybe he's just asexual? just remember ... it's not gay if it's on the 'down-low'. Quoted post lol yeah, asexual who talks about the male sexual anatomy all the time. dunno about that. the dude always talks about sex. And never straight vaginal sex. Always the anal sex...fuckin' weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 you know what it probably is..... -hasn't been laid in eight years that's enough to make all types of crazy thoughts roll around in your head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Author Share Posted January 31, 2005 Yeah, tell me about it. I go crazy when it's been three months. I'm going fucking crazy right now. I've seen drunk girls who are good looking totally come on to him, and he shies away. Pretty mesed up for a dude who is always talking about weird sex and watching pornos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 maybe it's because he watched the same fucked up hardcore that you do? just like any activity, the longer you go without doing it, the more scarry it is to 'get back in the saddle'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Author Share Posted January 31, 2005 haha, yeah, we do share some common interests, but weird porno doesn't take up all my time. You know, you're right, key. I'm sure it can be pretty nerve-wracking for someone who has gone so long without it. But dude isn't ugly, and he's had lots of opportunities. I know people who are way less fortunate than him who have more fun with the ladies. Watching pornos is fun, but it can never replace the real thing. I think even the most smut addicted person can appreciate that. I think it would also be pretty hard to build up this reputation through the teenage years of hating 'faggots' and being a real man, so to speak. I mean, what happens when you start to slowly realize that you're not what you thought you were? I can imagine that it might be pretty scary. whoah, i'm all sensitive today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GucciCondom Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 I would just ignore it. If he wants to tell you he would, unless hes trying to drop subtle hints? I dunno, shit would weird me out though. Do you feel like he stares at you and shit? Hahaha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DETO Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Originally posted by <KEY3>@Jan 31 2005, 01:04 PM just remember ... it's not gay if it's on the 'down-low'. Quoted post swonk olik... :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Weapon X Posted January 31, 2005 Author Share Posted January 31, 2005 Sometimes it feels like there are subtle hints. Either way, it's damn annoying to be lied to constantly. That's what it feels like, sometimes. I mean, people should be themselves. You don't see me trying to deny what race I am. The worst part is, me and others have been getting frustrated with his repressed homosexuality - and we're not even sure if he is gay! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
haunts Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 seriously, talk to him one on one about it. and make sure your real clear about him not being judged either way and all that jazz. it sounds like hes built up a glass house around himself cutting himself off from who he is. i dont know. hitler was jewish. but for real though, american beauty endings arent cool in real life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GLIK$ Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Id jam my dick in his ass, give him a wrap around, and ask him if he liked that filthy shit. Seems like the only logical way to get a 100% sure answer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 ^ where's the undertones thread when you need it? and what if he's a top? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xen Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Maybe you should get him a hooker. Seriously. I don't know any straight dude that asks women about the size of their boyfriends dick. Either way, if he's acting homophobic and you and your friend openly question his sexuality, nothing good can come from this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SLAUGHTER305 Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 lmao :haha: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SukiSukiNow Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 i would never "out" anyone, it's too personal and they'll come out when and if they are ready. it's truly none of my business to do it for them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CACashRefund Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Fuck it just dont mind him. When he comes out, if he comes out, itll be when hes good and ready. And if you really want to know just ask him, straight up to his face. "(you)Hey are you gay?"(him) yes. (you) Yeah, i thought so. And iff he seems depressed or "off" talk to him or something before he blows his head off or takes one too many pills. I know or have heard about alo of gay people or people questuioning their sexual situation that have resorted to those actions because of the anxiety that they are going through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T=E=A=S=E Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 sounds gayyyy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mackfatsoe Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Buy him the Cher Anthology and gauge his reaction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackson Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Haha Cher. Just let him do his thang thang. Don't sweat it, he will sort himself out eventually, even if he does end up shooting you in the head. but seriously, he will find his feet... time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rental Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 um, my opinion is that if you really feel like he's fucking up his emotions/self esteem, then yeah, do the one on one thing, even though it could end extremely badly. or just tell the guy how his behavior makes everyone really uncomfortable(explain why) and be done with it. however, i think that if its just a curiosity thing, as in to satisfy your own, then youre an asshole. and i really dont think someone else can declare(however gay their son might be) a person's sexuality. im not convinced that just cause someone has a lisp, or whatever, that theyre gay. or just leave him alone wither way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Telo Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 does he watch queer eye? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyNapua Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 I wouldn't confront him with your friend...actually I wouldn't say shit to him at all. When he feels like he can say something about it he will. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-Rage- Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Originally posted by cloner@Jan 31 2005, 02:57 PM does it matter, really? Quoted post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
T=E=A=S=E Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 there should be a "the thread creator is closet gay" voting option. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TuffKid Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 beat his ass with a baseball bat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swif1 Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Originally posted by Weapon X@Jan 31 2005, 02:53 PM -if he sees a gay dude on the bus, he'll run home and call me or someone else to talk about it (we live in a city, not a hick town in the swamplands of Florida). Quoted post Oi!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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