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okay yall, serious crisis thread from yours truly...

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by cmeup, Mar 17, 2004.

  1. cmeup

    cmeup Veteran Member

    Joined: Apr 17, 2001 Messages: 9,485 Likes Received: 1
    Okay, I'm going to give you guys the inside scoop on me, and I ask that you give me some advice on how i can fix my situation / problems.

    That being said, i need some help. First off, I have a hard time making new friends, or just meeting new people and getting along with them. I'm not saying that I'm desperate to meet some new people, because I do like being on my own a lot, but everybody wants to be liked and feel wanted.

    But i don't know what my problem is, maybe I really am to hard on people when i first meet them, but I try to let shit slide that I might disagree with them about, whether its something that they do that annoys me, or that I just dont agree with, I try to write it off, but time after time people dont meet my expectations I guess you could say.

    All i really want is to be able to hang out with a crowd of new people, and just kinda blend in and mingle with everybody without feeling completely outcasted, or feel like if im not putting on a show for everyone (being funny and what not) that i'm also participating in the activities and fun.

    As you guys know, I tend to look at the humorous sides of things a lot, and I try to make people laugh and what have you, but the downfall to always being the "funny guy" is that nobody really takes me seriously, so everyone wants me around to entertain them, but if im not in the mood, or having a bad day myself, they dont really care if I'm around or not, and I hate that.

    But you see, that's exactly my problem. It seems like people want me to be loud and obnoxious and over the top funny, but I'm constantly walking this invisible tight rope, and if i go overboard with my jokes or what I say, people get offended or pissed off, but if I'm not doing that, they think something is wrong with me. So I'm constantly like what the fuck? ya know?

    I know a lot of my problems are self inflicted, like not having a job, and not taking better care of myself and a big lack of responsibility, but everyone knows it's a lot easier to do all those things when you have a good group of friends, maybe a girl by your side, and so on...

    So basically what I'm asking is for some suggestions on how I could change or i dont know, how do i make more friends, or get to hang out with more people, without feeling like an outcast?

    Because as of right now, I feel like I need to forget about girls, get a job or two, and just work and save up some money. But you see, if i decide to do that, which I'm more than capable of doing, I like focus on that shit only, like I'll be mainly concerned with work and money stacking, and in a way i'll almost punish myself by not trying to meet people or make friends, because in one way or another, I feel like i dont deserve that shit or something, or if i go after that to I'll fuck up the job shit...

    I don't know, thanks for reading through this rant of mine, I'm kinda feeling down right now, and I didnt really feel like talking to anyone I know know, so here I am.

    :(
     
  2. Pfffffffffft

    Pfffffffffft Moderator Crew

    Joined: Feb 16, 2004 Messages: 15,344 Likes Received: 671
    honestly man, not tring to be harsh...
    but spending so much time on this board probably
    is not a good start to your problem.

    i suggest:

    1. taking a break from 12oz

    2. find a job

    3. be yourself around others without meeting their expectations.

    <3 yours truly*
    Pfffffffffft
     
  3. uncle-boy

    uncle-boy Guest

    tell your real life friends what you told us :idea:
     
  4. High Priest

    High Priest Elite Member

    Joined: Jan 1, 2002 Messages: 4,928 Likes Received: 3
    Do these things in the following order:

    1.Art

    2.Eat Cereal (Count chocula is preffered, but if you can find it frosted flakes will suffice.)

    3.Go outside and enjoy the sunshine

    4.Take a walk ( feel free to do some drugs as well)

    -More art, Lots more

    5.Call up a female friend, talk to her about your problems, not an internet chat board. (Helps solidify your relationship with her as well, its bonding time.)

    6.Talk to some people, i do it all the time. Just say hello.. it can really help put you in a good mood.

    -7.Tell your mom you love her.
     
  5. High Priest

    High Priest Elite Member

    Joined: Jan 1, 2002 Messages: 4,928 Likes Received: 3
    a chick sent sent me this.. so your life could be worse.


    TBRAT:everyone knws i have an inverted penis
    TBRAT:very small
    TBRAT:reallly.
    Punk1:LMAO
    TBRAT:dont laugh at me
     
  6. cmeup

    cmeup Veteran Member

    Joined: Apr 17, 2001 Messages: 9,485 Likes Received: 1
    honestly, i only got two real friends (that i consider friends anyways) my paint partner (he a friend to but you know) and my one friend who's been there forever.

    I have people who probally consider me their friend, but i could give a fuck about them really. They cool and all but you know how that goes...

    :eek:
     
  7. Daze One Million

    Daze One Million Elite Member

    Joined: Jun 12, 2001 Messages: 3,804 Likes Received: 0
    you can meet some real cool people at work, i love my co-workers and have developed freindships through work, so finding a job may just benefit you the most, you'll be making money, and perhaps new friends, another good way to meet people is through basketball, you like the game, we all know you do, go to a park your not familiar with just by your self and bring along a ball, see what kinds of kids you meet up either wanting to play you, or have you on thier team, and dont forget school is the prime place to meet people, get back in school and not only will you be bettering your self in the future you can also be making new friends, but if worse comes to worse my nigga, theres always friendster, im serious on that tip though, everyone on there is on there because they want to meet new people, just like you want to...


    good luck
     
  8. Daze One Million

    Daze One Million Elite Member

    Joined: Jun 12, 2001 Messages: 3,804 Likes Received: 0
    QUALITY OVER QUANITY TEASE

    just because you got 2 really close friends dont mean nothing, i rather have 2 real close friends then 20 non close friends, i my self have 2 real close friends, i paint with both of um, but we we're friends way before graffiti got serious, thats another way matter a fact to meet people, paint, and paint a lot, get really good, people will want to meet you......dont know if you seen the fx movie but did you see poem? no offense but dude looks like a fuckin loser, but hes down with fx and is boys with all of them cats because he paints....
     
  9. Pfffffffffft

    Pfffffffffft Moderator Crew

    Joined: Feb 16, 2004 Messages: 15,344 Likes Received: 671
  10. cmeup

    cmeup Veteran Member

    Joined: Apr 17, 2001 Messages: 9,485 Likes Received: 1
    DAZE-

    see the problem is just that, i have a hard time making friends... school didnt help for shit, because ive become real anti-social. not really, but basically i dont go out of my way to meet people or make friends. know what i mean?

    and in the past, i'm cool with my work buddies, but we never really hung out, it came time to get off work and i was ready to fucking bounce ya know?

    and those goofy fucks on myspace and friendster all got hella problems, that's why there rejected from society asses are on those websites anyways... :lol:

    teaser/ really... :bawling: / :cry2: 'ing inside oner.
     
  11. shaolinmasta

    shaolinmasta Veteran Member

    Joined: Mar 26, 2003 Messages: 7,884 Likes Received: 157
    No shit get a job it helps, it makes you feel better, you meet new people and you earn money. Trust me it's better than sitting on your ass all day being bored, watching movies and jacking off to naked women all day.
     
  12. DETO

    DETO 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Apr 25, 2002 Messages: 11,316 Likes Received: 138
    <span style='color:pink'>wear pink, lots of girls will come up to you and initiate conversation, while guys just snicker and wish they had the balls to wear pink and maybe girls would go talk to them...<span style='color:888888'>instead the same guys who talk shit get their ass beat by a guy who they just called a "fag!" instead of getting the girl! .wonk saggin</span>.</span>
     
  13. TheoHuxtable

    TheoHuxtable Senior Member

    Joined: Jan 5, 2004 Messages: 2,113 Likes Received: 1
    More than anything be yourself and be who you think is comfortable. Still, take notice of what you and others may deem as personal flaws, and work on what you think needs working on. But still don't "front" and try to be somebody you're not. Be yourself.

    And like Daze said, school or the workplace are the best place to start. And don't be afraid to take the initiative and be the first to talk to people. From my experience talking and getting to know people who seem to be connected with other people is the best way. Once you get to be friends with that person it should cause like a "domino effect" as you will be introduced to the people they hang out with and before you know it you're part of the group. But make sure these people are people you want to hang out with and have some things in common with you, don't just hang out with them because you need someone to hang out with.

    And you don't have to be "popular". Personally I refuse to be the popular guy on campus or at work. It's too much pressure and too much drama to put up with. Personally I like hanging somewhere in the middle.

    And be sure to participate in events. Someone's gives you a flyer to a party? Go! A certain type of event that'll interest you? Go! That should ensure that you'll meet people that will share the same interests as you.

    I'm through rambling.
     
  14. duh-rye-won

    duh-rye-won Member

    Joined: Aug 8, 2001 Messages: 580 Likes Received: 2
    teasola,

    couple years ago i thought i was gonna crack. trying to kick a habit, bummed on an x girl, beef with my friends, etc. etc...

    so i saw a shrink for a few months, full on tony soprano style. it was cool. mad expensive, but the guy helped me sort some shit. i only talked to him about 10 times, but here's one thing he told me that def helped me a lot, and i think it relates to you.

    regarding friends:

    finding true friends, who you feel 100% connected to, is about as common as falling in love with a girl. you gotta try to focus on people's good qualities, not harp on the negative. havin 2 real friends is fine. you're lucky if you got one. but the fact is, most people need to interact with others pretty regularly without getting bored/ lonely/ depressed. so these 2 homies aren't always around and you need more heads to chill with or whatever. lower your standards. it's alright to chill with people who aren't completely on the same page as you. actually, it's healthy. you might learn somethin new. i'm not tellin you to keep shady friends, there's a difference

    -try to be yourself. fuck puttin on a show.
    -give people a chance, even if some things about them are off.
    -remember that EVERYBODY FRONTS to a certain extent, so don't feel like everyone is all happy and shit. they aint.
    -boredom breeds a lot of negativity. try to keep yourself busy, hopefully doin somethin productive.
    -when you get completely fed up with the shit, you could always move to china like me:D

    keep ya chin up, yao ming?
     
  15. cmeup

    cmeup Veteran Member

    Joined: Apr 17, 2001 Messages: 9,485 Likes Received: 1
    Re: Re: okay yall, serious crisis thread from yours truly...

    this is a major dilema as well for me.

    I admit, i used to talk a lot of shit back in the day, and I never acted black par'say, but i did act "harder" than i really was/am. You know, so people wouldn't fuck with me.

    But after getting over that, and then realising no matter how many black people I convince that I am cool, they're never going to really accept me as a cool person/friend etc... (I started noticing that I have to prove myself to every black kid that comes along that i know whats up, and I got tired of doing that shit, and then even developed a small hatred towards black people...)

    but besides all that crap, I've been trying to look into myself, see personal flaws, or flaws that i think i have that others would point out, and I've tried time and time again to fix those things, and nothing seems to work.

    And keep in mind im not changing my points of view, or who I am as a person to suit others, but if I think it's something i need to change to improve myself as a person, I'll change it if i see fit.

    Another big problem I got is being stubborn, and out spoken I guess. I dont back down from my opinion either. Like when it comes to drinking or smoking cigs / weed, or doing other drugs for that fact, if im not feeling that shit, im not going to do it. That shit hurts me a lot when it comes to meeting people, I'm not really fond of kicking it with people who smoke cigs / weed all the time, because i dont like smelling like smoke or weed all day long, plus that shit's boring when youre not participating...

    so that right there makes it hard to meet people. (people who smoke cigs / weed) thats like scratching off 50% or more of the people you could possibly meet out there...
     
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