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My Mom Died Sunday

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by KaBar2, Dec 2, 2003.

  1. KaBar2

    KaBar2 Senior Member

    Joined: Jun 27, 2003 Messages: 2,128 Likes Received: 66
    My mom has been very ill for about eight months or so. She smoked cigarettes for about forty years (1942-1986) and it really damaged her lungs. She had a disease called COPD (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease) which is a lot like emphysema.
    Last April she had a heart valve replacement. The mitral valve in her heart went bad, and it was causing her to be tired and breathless all the time, because it was leaking pressure back through her lungs. Normally the low-pressure side of the heart (which provides pulmonary circulation through the lungs) operates at a blood pressure of about 24/10. The high-pressure side operates at about 120/70. But, if the low-pressure side has faulty valves, the high-pressure side "leaks" pressure "backwards" through the mitral valve, creating pressures like around 100/70 where it's supposed to be 24/10.
    This causes the heart to become enlarged, as the right-side ventricle gets bigger and stronger and more muscular to handle the increased pressures. This DECREASES the interior volume of the right ventricle (or "chamber" of the heart.)
    This enlargement, combined with the higher stresses and pulmonary demands created by COPD, and her depressed mood associated with being on a ventilator to breathe, resulted in my mom refusing to eat, and her eventual loss of weight and strength.
    She was very uncomfortable, and only partially concious for short periods for about a week. I asked the staff to provide her with morphine and Ativan for pain and anxiety and agitation. They did. She finally stopped breathing after a long, long struggle at 11:05 a.m.

    For God's sake, if you use tobacco, QUIT NOW while you still have your health. Because if you don't, there is a horrible, painful death awaiting you thirty or forty years from now.

    I loved my mother very much, and I really miss my Mom. But there are things worse than death, and living for months on a ventilator is one of them. RIP Mom. I wish she had never smoked cigarettes.
  2. Dick Quickwood

    Dick Quickwood 12oz Loyalist

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  3. Poop Man Bob

    Poop Man Bob Dirty Dozen Crew

    Joined: Nov 16, 2000 Messages: 10,259 Likes Received: 18

    My condolences.
  4. old*824

    old*824 Senior Member

    Joined: Jun 8, 2003 Messages: 1,362 Likes Received: 0
    Let me offer my sincere condolences Kabar.
    I just quit smoking and your story has left me far more determined to remain a quitter.
  5. 23578

    23578 Elite Member

    Joined: Jul 2, 2000 Messages: 2,521 Likes Received: 0
    sorry to hear that kabar standard issue marine core knife guy hopefully there's a spot in heaven for her.
  6. ClueTwo

    ClueTwo Veteran Member

    Joined: Nov 30, 2001 Messages: 9,030 Likes Received: 123
    Sorry to hear about your mother. This is really making me contemplate smoking. Good luck with everything man.
  7. DETO

    DETO 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Apr 25, 2002 Messages: 11,316 Likes Received: 138

    I'm sorry to hear about your mother.
    My deepest and most sincere condolences
    My prayers go out to you and her
    God bless...
  8. -Rage-

    -Rage- 12oz Loyalist

    Joined: Apr 12, 2001 Messages: 11,276 Likes Received: 70

    My dad's been straightr smoking (and drinking) for nearly 40 years as well. We've asked him to quit for years to no avail.

    To each thier own.

    Stay up KaBar. nakone is in the same boat, he lost his mom (somewhat) recently.

  9. vinyl junkie

    vinyl junkie Elite Member

    Joined: Jan 17, 2002 Messages: 4,725 Likes Received: 0
    friday is supposed to be my last day to smoke... i've had this planned for a month now...

    sorry to hear, kabar... cheers to you and your mom...
  10. rubbish heap

    rubbish heap Senior Member

    Joined: Mar 18, 2003 Messages: 1,563 Likes Received: 2
    a man with cancer in his throat came into our school the other day. he couldn't talk normally, so he had to hold a larynx machine up to his throat, making that robotic type voice. anyways, he smoked cigarettes for 30 years and started a family. he's unable to do things like shower, because he has to breathe through a hole in his throat. the sad thing is, his sister and wife see what he has to go through every day, and yet they still smoke and haven't made an effort to stop.

  11. EyeforAnEYE

    EyeforAnEYE Elite Member

    Joined: Sep 29, 2003 Messages: 4,199 Likes Received: 3
    my condolences man, sorry to hear that.
  12. Abracadabra

    Abracadabra Dirty Dozen Crew

    Joined: Dec 28, 2001 Messages: 22,906 Likes Received: 113

    hopefully she's chillin somewhere like this now
  13. Rectum

    Rectum Senior Member

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    DISCO BRYSO Senior Member

    Joined: May 12, 2001 Messages: 1,889 Likes Received: 0
    ...stay up KaBar.. I'm sure your mother would be proud of the outreach and awareness you spread in such a wonderful way. some of your experiences have helped me understand your opinions and this is one of those things that give me even more respect for you. I don't know a single soul who would have the heart to provide an accurate account of such a gruesome death publicly and with such candor. or even withstand the angry opposition this forum has to adult opinions.

    may she rest in peace.
  15. Gunm

    Gunm Banned

    Joined: Aug 31, 2003 Messages: 12,427 Likes Received: 1
    kabar.....just today i was wondering when we'd see another one of your insightful and informative posts....I'm so sorry to hear of this news.

    you have my most sincere condolences.