if you were in my shoes ?

finally the guy i been seeing since december...is now my man...we made it offical with the bf/gf titled not to long ago....i couldn't be happier

but seven days into our new relationship...he tells me, he has been thinking about going back home to philly to live...something about how he wants to be there for his mother while she is still young...and how he misses his siblings...but i know there're sub-reasons why he is going

living here where i stay, all he has is his job and a few friends...

i told him i wasn't going to stop him from leaving...cause it would be a selfish act on my part

chilling with him lastnight i got this madd vibe that it wasn't the same

anymore...thoughts were running through my fuckin head like "why the fuck im i still with him"

so he's leaving in two months...two of my friends say im just a piece of ass till he goes...i should bail out

i need to stop running on emotions and start thinking logically

so what the fuck do i do.....

and how do i break it down to him....that i care but i got to go..

i need some 12oz remedy.

what would you do?

I would become a lesbian..

The plain truth always works best, don't soften it up just tell him what you posted.

Do what you think is right. you now you'll get a handful of real responses and the rest jsut dumb ones on here. use your gut instinct.

Option # 1..

Be a pansy and follow him or weep about the whole situation..

Option # 2...

Break it off and go look for some more fish in the sea.. There are millions out there..

I'd choose the latter..

My toes would be cramped.

P.S. Making shit 'official' is retarded unless you're 100% both of you plan on being there for one-another for the rest of your lives. You guys need to be more clear on the type of relationship you both really intended on having with one another.

Well if he is leaving anyway why stay with him longer? Gives more time to get attached I guess. I would just sit him down and talk about it and explain how you feel. If you think it would be hard to talk about try writing him a little letter so you can have all your thoughts out clear and he has to hear everything you have got to say.

Then after all that you can come holler at me since im in PA. :crazy:

if i were in your shoes, i'd:

stay in the relationship until your man leaves, granted the sex is good. if its lowsy, go ahead and wish him luck with his move back home and break it off.

simple as that.

ps- if you do stay with him, dont fall in love, realise this is relationship is only for the next two months or whatever...

Originally posted by 26SidedCube

My toes would be cramped.

 

 

P.S. Making shit 'official' is retarded unless you're 100% both of you plan on being there for one-another for the rest of your lives. You guys need to be more clear on the type of relationship you both really intended on having with one another.

too true mann..

that guy sucks.

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I think turbo will agree, throw some salad on him ;)

drop him and get your groove on with someone else. waiting around for him to leave will only make you both think "what if...?" quit while you're ahead while you're still in a position to. the longer you stay the more it will hurt when he's gone.

Originally posted by EyeforAnEYE

I think turbo will agree, throw some salad on him ;)

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Originally posted by EyeforAnEYE

I think turbo will agree, throw some salad on him ;)

your sweet..im waiting for homeboy's phone call...i hate to do this. but its true i will only be hurting myself if i stick around

how should i act with him afterwards...we work in the same place?:confused:

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you work in the same place? oh boy. do you see him during the day at all?

Damn I was going to say my feet would be cramped....

Seriously though you need to talk about this with him. Cause when you assume you make an ass out of u and me....

Originally posted by EyeforAnEYE

you work in the same place? oh boy. do you see him during the day at all?

yea..we see each other...but only talk like 3 times a workday

your relationship is the crap.

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Originally posted by TURBOCAPSLOK

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:lol: :lol: that picture of ronald mcdonald kind of freaks me out.

but anyways fatalist, jsut tell him exactly how you feel about the whole situation. The more turhtful you are the easier it is. it may suck, but in the long run it'll be better.

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i think you're just gonna have kill him.

bend over and quit your bitchin

Sounds like you already know what you want to do. So…do it, I guess. Or you can be his piece of ass for a couple of months and enjoy the time you spend together. Whatever you do, don’t go and create a problem for yourself. That’s a common feminine mistake. ;)

Fatalist, here is what you do, move to New Mexico and we can be girlfriend/boyfriend. I will never leave you. :love2:

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If I was in your shoes......

......I would rub myself.

Deto I'll trade places with you so you can live in PA. My boy moved to New Mexico he said the herb out there is cheap as fuck. :D

Here's some advice: why don't you talk to HIM about it?

And don't underestimate your intiution. Soon as you pick up the vibe that "things aren't the same", you are usually right. I believe it's time to move on. Why become attached and stay in a relationship where there is no future?

it's cheap and it's killer! :dazed:

you should make a trip down to visit your boy and we'll all get down and smoke that green stickie.