Girl Problems: Her Mother.

So my girlfriend of about 3 years is gearing up to graduate, and is thinking

about colleges in Florida (where I live.) As of about an hour ago, there

had never been any open hostility or reason for me to truly hate her

mother beside the expected obnoxiousness.

This has changed.

I've been staying here at their house for about a month and a half now,

as sort of a prolonged vacation. About 30 minutes ago, I overheard her

mother on the phone with my girlfriend (who is visiting a NY college

workshop for a few days) attempting to persuade her NOT to come down

with me to check out colleges. She asked her if she really wanted to do

it, told her that her funds wouldn't stretch as far if she went to an out of

state college. Meanwhile, I'm sitting about 10 feet away (where I sleep)

with no walls or doors between us.

They get off the phone.

Calmly and coolly, I say this:

"You know, D, if you're going to try to persuade her not to come, you

should probably do it when I can't hear you. After the first year,

75% of your tuition in Florida is payed by the state. That's why it's so

expensive the first year; because they don't want people to take advantage

of the program without actually living in Florida. I'll tell you right now,

if she goes to school up here, it's not gonna work. You're her mom, and

your advice counts the most, so if you don't want her to go, just tell me

so I can stop wasting my time."

She didn't say anything. Now she walked outside without a word, so I

decided to post this and get some opinions. That fat ass is such a bitch.

shank her

Haha... I'd like to avoid going to prison if possible. Large stress on the "if."

i agree stab the bitch.

Originally posted by BUCK FUSH

i agree stab the bitch.

you want me to "take care of her" for you?

Fuck a shank, I say bust the knee caps. Can I do it? Plz.

No, but seriously, I think that I dunno how you two's relationship is... so it's hard to say whether or not to ditch the girl and her mom all together at this point. I'm sure that's not really an option in your mind.... or you could always tell mum to not worry about you and her's relationship... just be like, "Buttthefuck out buttinski."

if you really like your gf, you will have to put up with her mother...

or you can just find other ways to see her, without having to see her mother as well.

and if your gf really likes you, she will go out of her way to go see you too.

?: wake up early, go to school, wanna be at a place thats cool, where my spirit can be free, half a day, school is out.....................quarterbacks!

girlfriends' moms always suck ass. once in a while their dad will be cool but they are usually disgruntled. maybe that's just my luck.

if you really dig each other then you'll find some way to make it work. good luck homie.

what do you expect? to her your just a stranger living in her home and fucking her daughter.

If he's been dating her for 3 years and he's still a stranger in her books then she can't have much of a relationship with her daughter...

Smite her satan .. smite her with all you've got ...

Just live here.

Put some land mines on her lawn and set something on fire at the back of the garden sit back and watch.

but seriously she just sounds likea top bitch. Tell your girl about it.

Thanks to everyone who contributed. Shit's just stupid, but at least I'm

not the only one thinkin this way, right?

UPDATE.

I left messages on (girlfriend) Brook's cell phone saying that we need to

talk. Her mom ends up getting ahold of her first and tells her that I have

a serious attitude problem and that she's not too happy with me right now.

The feeling is fucking mutual

So I tell my girlfriend what I said, which is what's written in my first post,

ver batim. (By the way, that is truthfully what I said. There's nothing

fucking wrong with it. Brook's like "well just stay away from her then, as

long as I'm coming down there isn't a problem." Right. Then she asks

me if I'd break up with her if she went to college up here.

My response: "If you got a scholarship to a good NY school, one that

required you to stay up here, then no. I would not leave you for that, it'd

just be tough. HOWEVER, if you had a choice between a school up here

and a school down there and you chose to stay, then yes. I would end it

right there."

She says: "Fine, then I'll call you when I feel like talking to you." click

Now, why would she ask that question? I'll tell you why: Her mother

force fed her that line when they spoke on the phone, trying to justify

her dissuading Brook to come down. What the fucking fuck. I'm ready

to drive the fuck home right now, and be done with all this bullshit, but if

Brook is willing to come I'll wait for her. I'm now waiting for a call back

to tell me if she's going to come down or not.

ugh.

wait... are you telling her she has to leave her home state or you will break up with her?

well if your gf is 18, take her, and you two run away!

how romantic!

Originally posted by <KEY3>

wait... are you telling her she has to leave her home state or you will break up with her?

We've been planning this shit for a while. As it is, I spent 99% of the last

year 1500 miles away from her. I don't know if I'm even going to see

her again within the next year, 'cause we'll both have school/jobs.

So if we stay "together" for the next year, and then she decides to stay up

here, what the fuck is the point man? If she has the option to have school

paid for her in NY, then yeah, stay. I'll deal with it. But if she just

arbitrarily decides that staying in this area is more important than

being with me, then yes, that's how it goes.

In some ways im glad im single. This is one of them.

ahh... we are in the same boat.

My girl is new to my city but she wants go home (over 2000 miles to the west).

She's willing to give up a sweet job just so she can live where her friends are.

Yes it's important, and yes, she will loose me,

but sometimes you need to think of what's best for the other person.

It sounds like you know that.

mom will always win!

i went through this shit for almost 3 years. my ex g/f's mom hated me. i didn't fit her little ideal of who her daughter should be dating. plus, mix in the fact that she is bi-polar.

she went into my ex's room and took EVERY picture that she had of me, or us together and threw them out. she knew i had tats and told all the neighbors and her family that i was in a gang. she used to call my house and harass my parents.....the bitch was a nut job! i would call to talk to my ex and her mom would answer and tell me never to call and hang up. i eventually convinced her (the ex) to move in w/ me. which worked for a while, but mom got all sweet on her and started top bribe her back home.

to this day my ex will deny any wrong doing from her mom, even though she spent countless nights crying her eyes out to me and even to my mother.

mom will always win.

funny .... my girl has a crazy mom too.

actually now I think that maybe it's not just the mom who's crazy.

:gulp:

Zesto, if we're in the same boat, I say we sink the motherfucker.

This shit's for the birds.

On the "mental" note, her mom's mom is in a mental institution because

she's crazy. As time passes, I see it coming out in the mom too. The

shit's gotta be genetic... in which case, I should turn tail and run while

I still can. Yipessssss

yeah man, lets put that boat on the bottom.

so here's another thing to think about:

If the girl is at the age where she's going

away to college and starting a new life

as they call it, you will want to be really cautious.

She may decide 2 months after moving to florida that

her Mom was right and that you aren't.

and honestly.... if the past year was a 'long-distance' thing,

chances are you both have had a little taste of the freedom.

you follow?

I don't really understand what the problem here is?

Originally posted by Dr. Dazzle

I don't really understand what the problem here is?

it involves girls. is that why you dont understand?

:lol:

just playing.

^^^^

Ahahahahahaha.....you fucker! I walked right in to that one.

I better get what's coming to me for such an off the cuff remark.....

Yo holmes.

You know how it went for me when the highschool girlfriend went away to college... look at all the shit that caused.

Zesmoneyoner has a point about the starting a new life shit.

YOU KNOW I dont really like the chick and I've felt shes shaydee.

Especially with shit she's said in the past to you.

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But I myself am also having girl problems. For like the first time in a year.

This problem isn't half as serious as S@T@N's but shits buggin me:

So this chick here I've had kind of an on and off deal with. Nothing serious, but we were really close friends on the verge of dating then kinda had a falling out, and once again started being really close friends on the verge of dating.

And this time around she actually brought it up about us possibly making things serious.

Three days later she gets this weird attitude like, not talking to me. Not wanting to talk on the phone for too long.

So I take this as a hint and I start backing up.

Then I see her online yesterday with this info in big ass letters, NO STRINGS ATTACHED... so I', thinking ok ouch.

So we start talking and I says, Im going to give you a ring is that cool?

She responds with No Im really depressed this is better off being alone.

Hour later shes got up some gay ass away message about being out and to call her cell.

It's about 97% retarded but it bugs me.

Originally posted by <KEY3>

yeah man, lets put that boat on the bottom.

 

so here's another thing to think about:

If the girl is at the age where she's going

away to college and starting a new life

as they call it, you will want to be really cautious.

She may decide 2 months after moving to florida that

her Mom was right and that you aren't.

 

and honestly.... if the past year was a 'long-distance' thing,

chances are you both have had a little taste of the freedom.

you follow?

Soooooooo true!

Key3 on point as always.

A couple of girls I've been with's mothers have been bitches. One found a pack of cigarettes in my coat pocket, what in the world she was in my coat pocket for is beyond me, probably looking for condoms. And she lectured me for about 30 mintues about the hazards of smoking. Then later when girl and I broke up, I called their house 1 time, and she told me we should "get some distance between us." And the one time I called I was asking for her to return some expensive ass gifts I had given her about a week before. (yes, I'm ghetto I admit it) Anyway I cussed her out a little bit. We got back together but I was not welcome at the house.

S@NT@: Your situation sucks, I'm sorry to hear something like that, its sad that her mom would actively interefere with her life like that. Usually they're too passive aggressive to do anything that obvious. But you have to remember that her mom has been training her on how to live life since she was born. You are never gonna win. And ya, her mom was probably the one that fed her what to say on the phone, but you sort of fell into the trap because thats what her mom told her you would say. You gotta wait till she calls back and then make an excuse about how you don't want to be away from her, and it makes you upset to think of spending another year away from her. Lie! Thats your only hope now...

Oh ya, YOUR SHIP FUCKING SUCKS, I'VE TAKEN A CRUISE OR TWO ON THE PRINCESS DISTANCE, FUCK IT!

spray her face