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Breaking up with a girl you TRULY want to be friends with still.

Discussion in 'Channel Zero' started by non-hetero, Jul 1, 2003.

  1. non-hetero

    non-hetero Member

    Joined: Jun 20, 2002 Messages: 685 Likes Received: 14
  2. $360

    $360 Elite Member

    Joined: Oct 2, 2002 Messages: 2,600 Likes Received: 1
    oh man, that a rough one. its to back that EVERYONE in high school has used the excuse, and now its played out. maybe if you made the point that youre not being cliche and you really mean it.

    you never know, she might feel the same way.
  3. effyoo

    effyoo Elite Member

    Joined: Sep 2, 2002 Messages: 4,703 Likes Received: 0
    Send friends over to beat up her new boyfriend.

    After that you'll know for sure its over.

    Thats a sure way to get over things.

    I'm not sayin', I'm just sayin' ...
  4. Daze One Million

    Daze One Million Elite Member

    Joined: Jun 12, 2001 Messages: 3,804 Likes Received: 0
    chances are it aint gonna work out
  5. non-hetero

    non-hetero Member

    Joined: Jun 20, 2002 Messages: 685 Likes Received: 14
    What? no. she wants to be with me I don't want to be with her. She was one of my best friends and a co-worker and I want to remain very good friends but I want the relationship over asap.
  6. $360

    $360 Elite Member

    Joined: Oct 2, 2002 Messages: 2,600 Likes Received: 1
    yeah, its not lookin that good. just get it over with. like pulling tape off of the harriest spot on youre body(i swear i dont know how it got there). the quicker you do it the quicker its over with.
  7. Dirty_habiT

    Dirty_habiT Administrator

    Joined: Mar 8, 2001 Messages: 18,136 Likes Received: 82
    Be upfront, but do not, I repeat do not, use the "let's be friends" line.... that's the worst.

    Tell her that things aren't gonna work inbetween you two relationshipwise. Just, wear a cup.
  8. ubejinxed

    ubejinxed Veteran Member

    Joined: Apr 12, 2001 Messages: 7,543 Likes Received: 3
    if she wants to be with you and you just want to be her friend, it's not going to work unless she never sees you with another girl. if she is still romantically interested and you keep seeing her, although you say it won't work, but you keep in touch with her, she will think that you are just saying that, and your potential friendship could be harmed more.

    the best thing is to let her know that you still want her in your life but you can't see her for a while, so she can move on and then be friends later. if she keeps seeing you she won't move on, with the hope there is a chance for a relationship.
  9. Dick Quickwood

    Dick Quickwood 12oz Loyalist

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  10. $360

    $360 Elite Member

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    cry about it.:cry:
  11. !@#$%

    [email protected]#$% Moderator Crew

    Joined: Oct 1, 2002 Messages: 18,517 Likes Received: 623
    if the girl still has romantic feelings, there's no way you can still be friends..now...

    why would you want someone pining away for you, when it's hopeless?
    don't do that to a friend..

    i would say old feelings fade out around 2 years after a breakup, or until the girl falls in love with someone else, whichever comes first

    then you can be friends

    or, if the girl doesn't stil have those feelings, it should be no problem..

    non-hetero, didn't you mention a wife in your story about shitty drawars??
  12. nomadawhat

    nomadawhat Veteran Member

    Joined: Aug 24, 2001 Messages: 5,001 Likes Received: 2
    exactly what i was going to say..... but i don't think it takes as long as !#$% mentioned, 2 years, maybe 6 mos or something like that. but thats just in my expierience. i have remained good friends with most of the girls that i have had serious relationships with and there are some of my best friends to this day, not in the sense that we talk all the time but more in the sense that if i really need someone to go to they will be there, know what i mean?. but some of the ease from girlfriend to friend with me may be the fact that great distances (states) were put between us before we were able to truly just be friends and not friends w/ benefits which can truly fuck up the whole situation.
  13. iloveboxcars

    iloveboxcars 12oz Royalty

    Joined: Jul 29, 2002 Messages: 20,506 Likes Received: 450
    its really fucking hard. me and my ex-girlfriend keep falling into this spiral, we have been for the last 6 months now. for acouple weeks we start getting into it again.. having sex.. hanging out all the time.. then one of us decides they need to step off for alittle bit. we dont talk for a week.. then we become friends again.. after a week or 2 of just being friends and watching tv someone stays over at the other persons house and the spiral just keeps on going.

    on the one hand it would be fucking great to be her friend because she is one of the coolest people i have ever met, but then i also have to ask myself is she worth all the pain that ive been putting myself through. i mean, if we had just stopped seeing each other at the begining i wouldn't even give her a thought anymore.

    its pretty confusing. i'd say just kill yourself so you don't have to make decisions.
  14. nomadawhat

    nomadawhat Veteran Member

    Joined: Aug 24, 2001 Messages: 5,001 Likes Received: 2

    but you see this girl still wants dude sexually and emotionally. your girls don't want anything more to do with you but realize you will stalk them till the day they die so they give up and just become your 'friend'........ its that much easier for them... :lol:
  15. Tyler Durden

    Tyler Durden Veteran Member

    Joined: Nov 18, 2001 Messages: 5,263 Likes Received: 40


    dealt with the situation back in highschool....she was pretty upset but i really did want to be friends with her because she was the only girl i went out with at that point who wasnt a stupid bitch. to this day she's still the only girl that i actually am friends with after breaking up with her. score.