12oz therapy

ok, i was going to get a new screenname, and type out my thread under that name to avoid the lame ass disses and what not that i get in my threads, but i figured id do one more serious one before giving up hope on everyone here.

so anyways, ive been thinking about who i am and my life and my personality and all of that good stuff, and wondering why im so angry lately. i mean, over the past couple of months ive been super hateful, and angry and pissed off and just getting really annoyed over shit that i know i should just be brushing off.

now, these problems are probally due to the pussy depression that im going through, the lack of friends, and the "social life" that is non existant and i guess you could throw in a huge lack of fun in my life as well, not to mention i think i am materialistic as fuck (its the only thing that makes me happy for a breif moment) which i just have come to realise as of late.

but also, i have been kinda racist lately (not really but you know, annoyed more by certain races antics an shit) and the main reason behind that shit is for the longest time i involved myself with a lot of things from other cultures, (not trying to act like im black or mexican or anything) but taking the + 's out of their culture and adapting some of the things to my life because i also enjoyed them (like music, food, style of dressing (no not fubu) ...etc) and it came to a point where, no matter how cool i was with certain people of different races, whenever i ran into other people of those different races, its like id have to fight to be accepted all over again, and i hate that shit.

so i gave up on it. its like, im going to do what i want, say what i want, and be me, and if they got a problem with that, fuck umm. that being said though, ive been hella resentful i guess towards certain people of different races beasically because they judge me based on certain things instead of accepting me for the person i am, just like they probally get judged by sometimes as well. i dunno, but that shit pisses me off.

another thing, for some reason, when i meet new people, its like they're intimidated by me, or something to that affect. like, ive noticed that some people at work, whether it be a guy or a girl on my various teams, are hesitant to come up and approach me, or talk to me and i dont know why. i mean im not scary looking and im not a total asshole right off the bat, so im wondering why im so unapproachable?

THE SUMMARY:

so basically, what im getting at is, are you guys frusterated with life like i am lately? do you have a hard time making friends or aquantences (sp?) ? ...are you as angry or mad at the world as i am? are you guys in a pussy depression? i mean what the fuck am i doing that is so wrong and backwards that i can be so off track from everyone else, or so it seems, i just dont get it.

/babbling over.

man its all good. i go through stuff like that sometimes too, its normal i think. Race antics piss me off, but i just look past the race and realize diff. races pull the same stuff that bugs me, so w/e. As for people not approaching you, this was an issue for me to some extent. but i think i dealt with it in a good way. really, what you have to do is think of meeting new people as nothing more than just saying whats up and small talk and shit....i guess dont expect too much out of it right away, and things will build up over time (with respect to any kind of deeper friendships and stuff u want). as for being unapproachable, what really pays off is how ur feeling inside. if u feel like shit and are sad, people will pick up on it and not talk to u.....i used to be like that all the time, but i think i just realized i had it pretty good compared to a lot of other people, so i just brushed off the little things that bugged me. If u seem like ur in a good mood, and ur happy, u will eventually truly feel that way too, and other people will see it, and want to approach u and stuff. it takes time but it works. I think it has something to do with empathy, like the reason chicks (and some guys) cry at sad movies...cuz they feel the same way as the movie is..i hope u get what i mean cuz its kind of hard to explain and im not putting much thought into it....

as for being happier, iono its a toughy, it could be all sorts of things in your immediate environment that are contributing to it, so i cant really tell you how to change things around... sorry brah

excuse the bad grammer/spelling

emo ass niggas

It's amazing how nothing has changed with you in the 5 years or so I've known you.....

yeah life sucks at the moment...but what can you do about it???

shit happens

Originally posted by Dr. Dazzle@Feb 5 2005, 12:54 AM

It's amazing how nothing has changed with you in the 5 years or so I've known you.....

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im improved a lot in the time that you've "supposively known me" and im sure youre aware of that. plus, problems such as the ones ive listed dont just stop and go away forever when you solve them for a brief moment in time. they can come back, which again, you know that.

tough love-

...ive heard that before about you got to be happy within, and people pick up on that and want to be around that. i guess i have been kind of pouty lately and annoyed. but thats mainly because everyone around me is so fucking happy and carefree looking, i feel like there is a secret party going on and im the only one not invited. plus everyone else at work seems to have a boyfriend/girlfriend and they seem to be getting ass on the regular (again, so it seems).

im always looking to improve and better myself, but it seems to me that ive tried every piece of the puzle and still nothing is panning out for me. its frusterating.

i'm getting frustrated with how you spell frustrated.

stop worrying about how much pussy you're getting and just chill out. have some fun. stop giving a shit, it works wonders.

and if people find you unapproachable, smile more. it works.

and tease, ass is so overrated. last night i found myself thinking that i wished my girlfriend wasnt at my crib so i could watch porn.

you got it made, son!

quitski, is right. sometimes, you're just like, no, i don't want sex. just give me some dome while i watch cartoons.

tease, it sounds like you're depressed. Not severely or anything, just mild depression... Get some exercise, get out in the sun as much as you can, go out and do something (other than the internet, or if that's a must, then find somewhere besides your house to do that... go to the library or something)

quitter, it sounds like you need a girl who will watch porn with you...

Tease...

excercise more.

we all go through this at some time or another....don't sweat it.

If you're still on your parents health insurance (if they have it), you might want to go and talk with with a counselor or therapist. If you've been this upset and down for a while and can't seem to figure out how to solve it, there's nothing wrong with talking to someone who helps people in your situation fulltime. You need to do something, though, seeing as though what you've tried doesn't seem to be working.

Originally posted by 2BLAZZED@Feb 5 2005, 12:54 AM

emo ass niggas

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reserved ass niggas

tease, the best thing you can do is grow off your pain bc you'll keep drowning in misery - nothing can come out, in your situation.

if you can't reach a solution on your own talk to someone and it doesn't have to be a counselor - say family, a close friend?

thanks for the replies so far, keep them coming.

as far as being depressed goes, i used to be real depressed from age 19-21ish or so, but im pretty muhc over that. I realise life is tuffer than i probally imagined a few years back, and im adjusting and everything, that's not really my problem.

my problems now are just not knowing what im doing wrong as far as making friends go, and dont get me wrong now, i think 89% or more of the people i know at work all love me and think im a cool guy an shit, but there are still some of those people that you view as being "cool" or the hotter girl types that you wish would come up to you or atleast make you feel more intrigued to go up to them etc that aren't doing so, which makes me feel like im doing something wrong because im so unapproachable.

meaning, i see the same people who wont give me the time of day or come up to me, go up to other people, which makes me feel like im doing something wrong.

i know my foul language is kind of bad, especially in the work place, but in some instances i cant help that shit. and ill just have to disreguard those who cant handle that.

but yeah... ive talked to a counselor before back when i was in college, and it was very fun, really helps you get everyting off your chest.

however the guy was a fruit, he kept trying to get me on depression meds and asking if i was gay or abused an weird shit like that, dude was a quack.

Originally posted by bathoræ@Feb 5 2005, 01:38 AM

quitter, it sounds like you need a girl who will watch porn with you...

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qmov.com

care to join me?

holy fuck listen to meeeeee!

1 - the deto pink is WAY more pink on my home computer.

2 - pmb has been in WAY too much school, but his advice might be right

3 - iquit is a cool guy, I dont know if we've ever talked. but still....

4 - bathorae has it right.. you are depresse3d. and I know why:

big fucking key Fiver!

Tease... you are depressed. Like dazzle said.. we've watched you for 5+ years on this dam fourm and we've made our call on it. You need to light a fire under you won ass b'cause no one else will do it for you aka...... self-motivate. get out of your rut. really guy.... I think you can be a damn good person but you're blocked right now. move out and do shit your way. It sems like you're being killed by the compromise. Just get that fire started where you have to 'do or die' and I honestly belive you will excel.

the only reason why you're hating is because you're looking for easy reasons.

you need to look inside because really... only YOU can do it for YOU.

got that.

light that fire.

move out

make her love you

make the money

better your mind

bla bl bl bl blah

if you dont start your move upwards, no one will push you up

Youre so fucking drunk.

Put down the bubbly you lush.

dont hit me.

any more.

hahaha, as soon as i read the first 2 lines i was like, "key is DRUNK!"

and on that note, i'm off to the beer store and then its drunken internetting all night. woo.

close this stupid shit

*nevermind

Originally posted by DETO@Feb 4 2005, 08:36 PM

quitski, is right. sometimes, you're just like, no, i don't want sex. just give me some dome while i watch cartoons.

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slut....22

TEASE STARTED OUT BEING A WANKER THAT SPAMMED BOARDS WITH SHIT AND NOW HE HAS TURNED INTO A WANKER THAT MAKES REALLY BAD THREADS ABOUT THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN EVEN THOUGH HE REALISES NOBODY GIVES A FUCKING TURD'OLA'

Originally posted by T=E=A=S=E@Feb 4 2005, 04:42 PM

so anyways, ive been thinking about who i am and my life and my personality and all of that good stuff, and wondering why im so angry lately. i mean, over the past couple of months ive been super hateful, and angry and pissed off and just getting really annoyed over shit that i know i should just be brushing off.

 

now, these problems are probally due to the pussy depression that im going through, the lack of friends, and the "social life" that is non existant and i guess you could throw in a huge lack of fun in my life as well, not to mention i think i am materialistic as fuck (its the only thing that makes me happy for a breif moment) which i just have come to realise as of late.

if you know the answers to your problems then go fix it...

don't just fucking typed all this shit down and do nothing about it. well, GET OVER YOURSELF!

Learning the english language would be a step in the right direction.

like everyone has said, we all go through these periods. im probably in one now. im in a perpetual mood where i cant seem to break any cycles. i lost a big lot of mates in september last year by moving away from home and now i only have a small amount, and man is that tough. when one friend pisses you off, you end up on your jays for a while and it sucks.

i cant tell you how to beat it, im lazy and dont do anything about it untill the feeling passes. painting helps...

Tease, alot of people have given you good advice so now it is on you to use it. Go out and get what you want...it isn't going to fall in your lap. When it comes to feeling better I have always found that working out helps me alot on that. Go for a run or lift weights....do something that makes you feel healthier about yourself and at the same time you will have less stress.

I opted not to hate on you and decided on helping you. For the most part, what everyone else said (the helpful comments) has been correct. I also believe you are mildly depressed, which can be cured by some self-development, either your mind (which I recommend, first and foremost) or your body. Preferably both. Pussy doesn't cure shit. I fucked last night, and I woke up with a headache. If you are having trouble with people approaching you/making friends/girlfriends/etc., you probably aren't making yourself approachable, whether you realize it or not. Smile, talk, bullshit with people about minor things, ask questions (but not nosy questions), laugh, make fucking jokes, but most importantly BE REAL BE YOURSELF BE TEASE (insert real name here). I'm not the sexiest man on earth, but I stay clean and got good talk game, so catchin a dime ain't hard. You can do it too, confidence is the key. The way you walk and hold your head and eye contact are effective in communicating your confidence (or lack thereof), can have either wondrous or devastating effects to the start of any, particularly new, conversation. Good luck, graduate.

The only thing that's going to help you get out of this rut is change in your life, and the only person who can bring about that change is YOU.

You always talk about how you want to move out, and go back to school and finish whatever it was that you were studying.. so why don't you? I understand that there might be monetary concerns, or what have you, but you can work around that type of shit - lots of people do. You could keep living at home w/ yer parents while you head back to school, to make things a little easier. And as much as people might not believe it, when you're doing something that you know will benefit you later in life, it gives you a reserved sense of self-satisfaction and confidence.

If the whole school thing just ain't your dig, then look towards moving out. You're always talking about how much you want to get out into your own place, so, what's the hold up? Money? If you're waiting until you have enough cash to move out, you can always start to plan things and get organized in the mean time.. at least it'll help take your mind off of all the shit that's getting you down. Keep yourself busy.. this is where the whole school thing comes back into play. No offense intended, but, as far as the whole "people can tell when you're sad and then won't want to hang around you" thing goes, there's also something to be said for the fact that "people can tell that you're 20-some-odd years old and still living in your parent's basement" too. It's not a bad thing, but not the best situation, especially if you're looking to snag a lady.

As for the people that you find unapproachable.. are they the same people you found unapproachable the last time you made a thread like this? If so, then fuck them, go meet some new people. It's not really as hard as it seems.. I'm sure you have a few good buddies that you can chill with on the regular.. so there's no need to worry about never having anyone to hang around with.. but as for meeting new people, again, that's completely up to you. Maybe i'm just biased about post-secondary education, but you'd meet more new people if you were going to school than you will going to the bar/club every night.

You don't have to do something huge like move out / go back to school right away either.. you can just start making subtle changes to your lifestyle, like some of the stuff these cats have already mentioned. Start working out / exercising regularly. It's good for you, and you'll feel fucking GRRRRREAT.. if nothing else, then simply for the stress relief.

I feel sorry for you, man. But at the same time, I feel like slapping you in the face. Instead of getting down on yourself and beating yourself up over this shit all the time.. change it! 12oz can spit adivce at you until the cows come home, but until you act on some of it, you're just pissin in the wind.

teaser, the problems are obvious. your social life is one, but that's nowhere near as big as your problem with exhiliration. think back. back to high school, maybe. things you were interested in. things you loved. do them! material objects are fucking BULLSHIT. they will ruin your life.